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318: Supercharging Your Mental Brilliance, Energy, and Health with Megan Lyons

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Megan Lyons says: "Every day, every meal, every bite is a new opportunity. Make the most of it."

Megan Lyons, from The Lyons’ Share Wellness, cuts through the clutter of health and nutrition advice to offer simple, powerful solutions to feeling more brilliantly energized everyday.

You’ll Learn:

  1. Surprising insights that come from keeping a food journal
  2. The difference proper hydration makes – and how much water you should actually be drinking daily
  3. How to prepare energizing meals with minimal kitchen time

About Megan

Founder and owner of The Lyons’ Share Wellness, Megan Lyons is deeply passionate about inspiring others to feel their healthiest and happiest. Megan is the author of “Start Here: 7 Easy, Diet-Free Steps to Achieve Your Ultimate Health and Happiness,” a Top 10 Amazon Bestseller in Nutrition. Megan holds degrees and certifications from Harvard University, Northwestern University, and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and is a candidate for a Masters in Holistic Nutrition. She lectures widely at hospitals, corporations, and organizations. When she’s not health coaching, you can find her working out, teaching fitness classes, cooking, reading, traveling, and cheering on the Dallas Mavericks.

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Pete Mockaitis
Megan, thanks so much for joining us here on the How To Be Awesome At Your Job podcast.

Megan Lyons

Thanks, Pete. I’m excited to be here.

Pete Mockaitis

Oh, me too. You one time placed second in a crossword puzzle competition. Tell us, how does a crossword puzzle competition work? Is it live, are they all gathered in the same space? What’s the story here?

Megan Lyons

It’s absolutely as nerdy as it sounds, in the best possible way. I embrace my nerdiness. It was a college competition held by Will Shortz, who is the editor of the New York Times crossword puzzle, a famous crossword puzzleist. And he hosted a student competition at my college. And I loved crossword puzzles, I still do. It’s a great way to kind of tune my mind off from everything else. So you just sit there in silence and he gives you a crossword puzzle, and you race to finish it in the most accurate way and as quickly as possible, and then you run down the auditorium stairs and turn in your puzzle, and that’s it. Then they grade it and you win or don’t win.

Pete Mockaitis

It seems like, when you mentioned the racing part, that you can just build a whole movie or a dramatic story out of the event. So, was it like that? Were there hundreds of people in rows and rows and rows of tables, or what was it like in the scene?

Megan Lyons

It was a college auditorium, so there were probably 200 people or so. And you have those little folding desks that come from the side of your chair and then flip over. So it’s not the most spacious atmosphere; everyone’s kind of squinched in together. I guess you could make a movie but there’s a lot of silence going on, a lot of scratching your head, so it might be a bit boring.

Pete Mockaitis

You’ve got to have maybe the montage music, and then the bits and pieces. Well, I’ve never been very good at crossword puzzles. I’m usually pretty good at trivia contests. And so, I don’t know, what’s the key? How does crossword excellence bloom?

Megan Lyons

The skill is in two things. One is repetition. So, you’ll find the same words used over and over and over, and as soon as you can get a little hook, as soon as you’re 100% sure of a word, then you can start using the letters that are there to fill in the rest. And then number two – I have a weird memory thing, where if I read, let’s say, 48 across, and I don’t know the answer, in my mind I still can see the clue. When I look down at the puzzle where 48 across should be, I can still see that clue. So I can keep it all in my brain, which makes me just a little bit quicker.

Pete Mockaitis

That’s cool, that’s cool.

Megan Lyons

It’s fun.

Pete Mockaitis

I love the game Bananagrams, in which you are competing to form your own words with others. Have you played that one?

Megan Lyons

I have played. It’s been quite a while, but you make up words. Is that true?

Pete Mockaitis

Well, I guess if you’re cheating. [laugh]

Megan Lyons

Oh, okay. I think the people I played with must have been cheating, because it was frustrating to me.

Pete Mockaitis

I don’t know why, I looked up words with the letter Q that don’t have a U in them, which has served me so well. And I don’t even know if I’m pronouncing it right – qintar.

Megan Lyons

I don’t know that one.

Pete Mockaitis

I believe it’s an Albanian currency worth half of a lek. And the plural is qindarka. But I might be pronouncing it so wrong. But everyone says, “You made that up.” It’s like, “Please, challenge me.” It is my go-to for a Q with no U, because Ts and As and Rs and Is are plentiful.

Megan Lyons

I love that. If I see it in a crossword puzzle, I will send you a picture.

Pete Mockaitis

Please, that would be so good. So anyway, that’s the crossword story. But you’re also applying your mental skills to another endeavor – your business, The Lyons’ Share Wellness. What’s it all about?

Megan Lyons
Yeah, so it’s about cutting through the junk basically – the fat diets out there, just the diet culture in general, I guess, the conflicting information out on the marketplace. The diet industry’s a $60 billion industry, because everyone’s saying something different. And I want to get to the root of what actually makes people feel better mentally, physically, emotionally. So mainly what I do is one-to-one nutrition consulting for people who want to lose weight, solve digestive issues, increase their energy, basically just clean up their diets and don’t know where to start. But my approach is rooted in several things that set me apart – science for one, positivity for two. I’m not about attacking you, I’m not about feeling bad about your decisions or beating you up for anything. And then bio-individuality is the third one.

Pete Mockaitis

There’s so much to go on right away. So, that’s what struck me about your message, because I do hear a lot of incoming requests from wellness coaches, but none of them have your deep background from data, analytical, research-based stuff, coming from McKinsey. So that was really cool and eye-catching. So first, just because maybe it’s on listeners’ minds – what does the word “bio-individuality” mean?

Megan Lyons

In my mind it means that different nutrition approaches work for different people. So there’s not any one-size-fits-all meal plan, diet, etcetera, that works for absolutely everyone. There are a few things that we can talk about as we go into it that do apply to most people, but if it were so simple that there was one magic diet, everyone would be following it and we wouldn’t have a health crisis on our hands.

Pete Mockaitis

Now, when you say “works”, I’m imagining that in two ways. One is, it works for my lifestyle and my schedule and my kitchen setup and my travel schedule, that kind of thing. It works as, I can fit it into what I’m doing with my life. But then I think there was another dimension of “works”, in terms of – which I want to hear your take on – are you saying that individual bodies, our biochemistry will react differently, and substantially so, to the same inputs? Like I may react to high protein or high fat or whatever completely differently than you would.

Megan Lyons

That’s what I’m saying.

Pete Mockaitis

Okay, alright. Well, that’s intriguing, because I think that there’s a lot of noise and a lot of conflicting views out there when it comes to nutrition. So, do you have any proof points or a study you could point to that says, “Here’s your smoking gun. This is absolutely the truth.”

Megan Lyons

Oh yes. I think if we had five hours, I could fill it easily with this. But I’ll start with one of my favorite examples, which many of your listeners who are in this world, in the nutrition world, might have heard of – The Inuit Paradox. The Inuits are a group of Eskimos in Greenland and they are super healthy. Their mortality rate is very low, their incidence of chronic disease are very low, at least those of them who are still eating their traditional diet. And their traditional diet is basically all whale blubber. They don’t eat vegetables, and trust me, I am the number one preacher of vegetables, so this study kind of pains me to even admit. But they basically just eat whale blubber all of their lives. And if you look at the science, that could be almost impossible to have no incidence of cancer, etcetera, without vegetables and with so much saturated fat. But they’re remarkably healthy.
And then on the other hand, if you look at groups of people that are featured in books like The Blue Zones or incidences of high octogenarians, people who live a really long time – they are mostly eating vegetables. So I think in The Blue Zones, which studies nine, I believe, of these societies – the average meat consumption is 15 ounces per month, which is four to five really small servings of meat per month. So if you compare that to the Inuits, there’s no one right answer.
And then I’ll give you one more, since I love this stuff – a personal example. I got into it initially because of my own journey into trying to feel better, trying to have more energy. But as I progressed I was having some really serious GI issues – some bloating, just discomfort all the time. And I knew, based on knowing my body, that spinach, almonds and oranges were causing these issues for me. And I went to a bunch of GI doctors and they all said, “Are you crazy? Those foods are really healthy. No, no one can have issues caused by spinach, almonds and oranges.” And finally I found a food intolerance test, and the test showed, remarkably, that I was intolerant to spinach, oranges and almonds. And so those healthy foods for most people just were not healthy for my body at that time, and once I took them out for six months, I felt so much better after that.

Pete Mockaitis

Now that’s intriguing right there – that we could have some food intolerances that we don’t even know about, that by purging can yield dramatic results. Megan, how do I get me one of these tests?

Megan Lyons

Yeah, so I’ll caution you that there are a lot of food intolerance tests out there on, and I’ll tell you how to get it. One way is through me, through my practice. I do food intolerance testing, and so if listeners are interested in that, they could just go to my website or email me and hopefully we can put those links in the show notes. But I’ll caution you even before that, that you know your body the best, and if you’re having some kind of issues, it is easy to take a blood test and get a paper that tells you, “Yes, yes, yes, no, no, no.” But the science is still pretty new, and your experience is much more valid than that.
So I already knew oranges, spinach and almonds before I took the test. I just took the test to have some validation, to have some data behind it to justify what I already knew I needed to do for my body. So I always encourage people, try eliminating those things that you think are causing you issues first. If you don’t know, try some of the common triggers. Almost always it’s gluten, dairy, eggs, nuts, maybe even bananas and avocados would be the next. So try some of those before you spend the $500 or more to get a food intolerance test.

Pete Mockaitis

It’s interesting, because as I think about my own diet and experience of vitality, I don’t know if anything at all is leaping to mind. But I think that there could be something lurking, because some days I feel on fire, brilliant, alive, alert, awake, enthusiastic, and then other days it’s just like, “Huh, seems a little hard to do the thinking that is required of this task in front of me.” And I don’t even know what the variable is.

Megan Lyons

So, I would ask you before you do the test, have you ever kept a really detailed food journal?

Pete Mockaitis

No.

Megan Lyons

I would do that. It’s so amazing how much you can figure out just by keeping a food journal for one week. People find the most obvious things when it’s on paper. It’s like, “Oh, duh, of course. Every day after I eat a donut I feel like junk”, or something like that. Even if you’re not really eating a donut – I’m being dramatic – but you’ll notice patterns just by writing it down. It’s just that we forget. It’s not important to remember what I had as a morning snack seven days ago, so I don’t tie that to my symptoms. And with intolerances symptoms can show up up to 48 hours after. So unless you’re writing it down, it’s hard to do that. And Pete, just for you – if you do a food journal for a week, I’m more than happy to look over it and see if I can find anything for you.

Pete Mockaitis

Aw shucks, thank you. I appreciate that.

Megan Lyons

Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis

Okay, so bio-individuality is for real, and we get to the bottom of it with a food journal and / or the food intolerance test. So, could you share with us then, beyond the individuality, and if we had to generalize a bit when it comes to professionals, and I will say, in the United States? Shoutout – thank you, international listeners, but I guess we’re 80% in the U.S. and apparently U.S. has some dietary things that could be a bit different than other nations. So, what are some of the top, top things that have some great evidence behind what we should do if we want to feel more alive, energetic and brilliant every day?

Megan Lyons

Yeah, so I’m going to underwhelm you at first, but when I underwhelm you, if someone says, “Oh my gosh, you’re talking about water” – I’m going to challenge you to see if you’re actually doing what I’m saying. So, there goes the first one, is drinking more clean water. It is so, so, so important. 75% of Americans are chronically dehydrated and we don’t even get the feelings anymore, our body stops sending us signals that we’re dehydrated.
But when we are, not only is our digestion impaired, but our brain function slows down really, really quickly. We have fatigue, we need more sleep. There are so many things that happen when we’re dehydrated that I have to give that as the number one tip. So, my rule is always half your body weight in pounds + 16 for every hour of exercise you do daily. So if you weigh 200 pounds and you exercise an hour a day – that’s a 116 ounces of water that you need to be drinking. And this does not include coffee, it does not include soda. It’s really just water. So that always has to be my number one.
Number two is going to be eating more vegetables. And again, this is something that everyone knows who’s listening to this podcast. Eat more vegetables – of course, we’ve heard that all of our lives. But hold up a fist in front of your face – that’s the serving size for your individual person. A baby needs fewer vegetables than a 300-pound male. So, a fist size is a serving size. I encourage people to get 8 to 12 servings of vegetables every single day. Do you think most of your listeners do that?

Pete Mockaitis

No.

Megan Lyons

No, most people definitely do not do that. It’s hard to do in a busy world, when we’re getting information thrown at us from a dozen different angles and we have places to go and we’re not just sitting there picking vegetables out of our garden. But it’s really, really important, and will help you feel, like you said, energetic, more clear at work, just better able to function throughout the day.

Pete Mockaitis

Well, as I visualize the amount of 8 to 12 of my fist – and granted, I have large hands – but it’s substantial. And so, I’m curious, in practice how that’s done. I guess it’s a bunch of salads, is probably the most direct answer. But what’s your take – how do people pull that off? I’ve heard about these greens supplements or beverages. Is that any good, or how do you think about this?

Megan Lyons

Yeah, I always think that eating your vegetable is the best, but then there are several supplements that if we’re just not able to achieve the best case, there are several out there that I’ll talk about. Just to give you an example of how it’s done – my average day in the life, for breakfast I’ll either have probably a breakfast hash, which is sweet potatoes, zucchini, Brussel sprouts, and some turkey and some spices, maybe some good quality healthy fat in there. Or I’ll have a green smoothie, or I have a crustless quiche recipe on my website that’s pretty popular with people. So something like that, I’ll get at least two, probably three servings of vegetables in my breakfast. You’ll notice that I eat a lot of food. I’m a smallish person, but I eat a lot of food. It just happens to be a lot of vegetables.
Then for lunch – you called it – a salad is generally a great way to get in your vegetables, however most people when they start trying to be healthy, it’s like, “Oh, salad. Hold the avocado, no dressing, please.” Something like that. And I really, really encourage you to have healthy fat with your salad, otherwise it’ll never fill you up, it’ll never satiate you, and then you’ll always think of salad as a bad, boring thing. So, load up that salad with a bunch of protein or a bunch of healthy fat and really have something that you enjoy. So that’s another four servings easily with my salad at lunch.
And then I have a veggie pack every single afternoon, which is one of the simplest things I’ve ever made up, but you would be amazed how many of my clients who have paid hundreds and thousands of dollars, they come back and they’re like, “That one thing that you told me, the veggie pack – that’s what changed my life.” So, it’s a little frustrating and positive all at the same time. But a veggie pack is simply a ziplock baggie, or I use these reusable stasher bags or any container full of raw vegetables. And I make seven of them on Sundays. I encourage myself, I eat that before any other snack in the day. I just get those vegetables in, and that lowers cravings throughout the day, that really does pick up your energy, increases the fiber that you’re consuming, so your digestion’s improved, helps you prevent overeating at dinner. So, so many benefits. So, that’s another two. I think I’m at… Let’s see, how many am I at? Eight or nine right now.
And then for dinner I’m generally having some kind of salmon and vegetables, or chicken cauliflower fried rice, with cauliflower obviously. Some kind of vegetables that give me another two or three servings. So for me, I average 10 to 11 per day. I understand that for someone who’s traveling like I used to do all the time, or someone who chooses not to prepare their food for whatever reason, that’s tough. So, you called it with the greens powders. My favorite one is Organifi. I have no connection with them; I just think it’s a really great company. And that’s a powder that you dump into a water bottle and just shake it up and drink it. It doesn’t taste so bad and it gives you some great quality vegetables and fruits in there. And then capsulized for people who can’t even or don’t even want to drink the juice. Juice Plus+ is another good one – that’s a capsule.

Pete Mockaitis

That’s good, thank you. And I’ve heard a lot about that Organifi, mostly from podcast ads.

Megan Lyons

I know, I know.

Pete Mockaitis

Organifi – you think it’s cool, and I’m intrigued now because I’ve heard a lot about it. But even more so, eating the vegetables in those moments – that’s handy. So, we got the water, we got the vegetables. Any other big ones?

Megan Lyons

Yes, I want to talk about sugar, but I want to throw in a stat, since you just reminded me that you’re so specific about your requests. So, I have a really great stat, one of my favorites from a 2017 report in the Journal of Epidemiology. It said that an estimated 5.6 to 7.8 million premature deaths worldwide every year could be reversed or maybe attributable to a deficiency in fruit and vegetable intake. So, that is huge. We’re talking millions and millions of deaths every single year, just by eating a veggie pack or something simple like that. So, do it. Eat those veggies, get those veggie packs in.
But then I have to talk about sugar as well. And I wrote a book a couple of years ago called Start Here, which gives some of these basic tips, but lots more statistics behind it. And the sugar chapter was absolutely my favorite chapter to write because I got to see how much of an issue this really is. It is almost impossible to reduce or to avoid added sugar. And I work in this field. I study this day in and day out, and I know more than the average person, but I’m still consuming added sugar all the time because it is in everything. I think it’s 72% of products in the average grocery store that are in a package have added sugar, so it’s just incessant.
And I really believe it’s causing a bunch of our health issues as Americans, but really as the world. If you plot some of the chronic diseases and our sugar consumption, it’s a pretty direct correlation. So, whether it’s actual sugar-laden foods that everyone knows – ice cream, cookies, cakes, things like that, or it’s just getting really, really conscious of where sugar’s hiding – in salad dressings and tomato sauces and yogurt and juices and drinks and bread and granola bars and all this kind of stuff, working on reducing your added sugar, or your sugar intake overall, would be incredibly helpful.

Pete Mockaitis

And what is the problem with sugar?

Megan Lyons

Oh, gosh. Again, do you have five hours? So the basic problem is that when we eat sugar, sugar in our blood stream is not good. Our body doesn’t like that. Our body likes sugar in our cells. And sugar in our cells is actually helpful to some extent. It’s glucose – a lot of people hear of it as glucose – and that powers the brain. It’s easiest for your brain to operate on glucose. So in the cells it’s not a bad thing, but in order to get it from the bloodstream into the cells, we need a hormone called insulin, which a lot of people have heard of, but they don’t know what it is. And I like to think of insulin as a Pacman. Pacman with the mouth opening and closing, it grabs onto the sugar in the bloodstream and it shuttles it into a cell. So it’s actually really, really helpful.
And when we eat something like an apple, the insulin response that we get when we eat an apple – let’s say it has 20 grams of sugar – we get the appropriate amount of insulin to get all those 20 grams into our cells, and nothing’s left over. But when we eat or drink a soda or something like that, which our body doesn’t really recognize – it’s different types of sugars; it’s high-fructose corn syrup and it doesn’t have nutrients and fiber and things that help our body deal with it – we get too much insulin secreted.
So, if you drink the same 20 grams of sugar from soda, you would get a higher insulin response, and that excess insulin is what causes issues. So it causes you to store belly fat, which a lot of people don’t like, but also it turns into much more significant issues in my mind – things like insulin resistance, which then turns into type 2 diabetes, which is something that everyone wants to avoid, and even things like Alzheimer’s. Neurological conditions are highly linked to an excess of insulin over time. I’m certainly not saying that if you have one soda in your life, you’re going to get Alzheimer’s or cancer or any of these things, but over time that excess insulin response is linked to so many of these things.

Pete Mockaitis

Okay, noted. So sugar is problematic. Any other key “don’ts” when it comes to getting that high level of energy and mental brilliance?

Megan Lyons

Yes. I really like to focus on the “do’s”, but I’m going to give you a few more “don’ts”, because like I said, positivity is my thing. I think added sugar’s number one. The number two “don’t” that I would say is false health products. So never believe anything that’s on the front of the package if it says “healthy” or “diet” or anything like that. I use in my presentations when I’m using PowerPoint, which is still my consultant crutch – I have a slide with this pure protein bar and it says “Eat good, look great, high protein, low sugar, gluten-free”, all these claims on the front, but people don’t realize that you can put anything on the front of a package – it’s widely unregulated.
And then you turn it over, the first thing I want you to look at is the ingredients there. I don’t really care if it has 20 grams of protein and 0 grams of sugar and 0 calories, which isn’t possible anyway. That doesn’t matter to me if the ingredients are junky. So I want you to look at the ingredients. And I have three rules for looking at ingredients. Number one – fewer is better. So, many of these protein bars and false health foods have 40, 50 ingredients. It’s like chemical soup in there. So, too many ingredients is number one.
Number two is ingredients that you recognize. There are some “energy bars” or “protein bars” – whatever you want to call them – that the ingredients are very simple. You may have seen the RXBAR, which says “5 almonds, 6 cashews, 3 dates, 2 egg whites, and no B.S.”, or something like that on the package. The point is, you recognize all of those ingredients. On many of these bars or health products, you don’t recognize the ingredients.
And then the last one, tying back into our sugar conversation is, I don’t want sugar in any of its forms to be in the first three ingredients. So, ingredients are listed in descending order of volume and I don’t want sugar to be one of the top ingredients. The only kicker here is that there are over 63… Well, that’s kind of a funny thing to say – over 63 – I believe there are 63 FDA-approved words for sugar, so you have to be pretty careful. Look for any kind of sugar – cane sugar, maple sugar, corn sugar, anything like that; any kind of syrup – high-fructose corn syrup, maple syrup, whatever; or anything ending in “ose”.

Pete Mockaitis

Okay. 63, interesting. Can we link to that? Do you have that catalogued somewhere?

Megan Lyons

Yes, I will find it for you and get it to you.

Pete Mockaitis

Thank you, cool. Okay, so we got some big “do’s” and some “don’ts”. I want to hear your meal planning and prepping approach. It seems like you’ve put tons of thought into this and have it down. And I guess I’m just coming to terms with, time after time I’m hungry and I just don’t have a plan. And then it’s just kind of whatever. It’s like whatever I can grab and put in my mouth in the time I have before the next appointment. And I think I’m just coming to terms with, “This ain’t working so well.” And you’ve really got a process down. Can you lay it out for us? How does that work?

Megan Lyons

Sure. First, I meal plan and food prep for exactly the reason you said. It’s not that I believe everyone has to do this or else you’re not fancy or something like that. It’s not for the Instagram, believe it or not. It’s just that my lifestyle is full, it’s busy, and I like it that way. But if I’m walking in from work at 8:30 p.m. and I’m starving, I’m not about to spend an hour cooking my dinner. I would much rather go pick something up or drive through something or whatever. But if I walk in at 8:30 p.m. and my meal is already ready to go, I’m excited about it, I’ve made it a few days before and all I have to do is heat it up, then I’m much more likely to go ahead and eat that. So, it all comes from… Have you ever heard of Shawn Achor? He wrote a book called…

Pete Mockaitis

The Happiness Advantage.

Megan Lyons

Yeah, exactly. He talks about lowering the activation energy of habits that you want to encourage, and this is a long-studied theory or tactic that I believe to be true. And almost every occasion when we make things easier that we want to do, we will actually do them. As silly, as simple as that sounds, it’s so true. So meal-planning and prepping is all about just making it easier for me to eat healthily. And basically what I do – I’m going to give you the 30-second version, and then I have a webinar that is maybe 45 minutes. For anyone who’s really interested in going into the weeds, they can access that.
But basically what I do is I have this template, which is a grid of the week, and all of the meals. I block off any events where I’m going to be served food or I’m going out to eat, and then I put a box by those occasions where I need it to be all ready to go, five minutes or less, no preparation required. And then I just start plotting in meals.
So I have probably four or five breakfasts that I rotate through all the time. I don’t really get bored for breakfast; it’s just something that I want nutritious and quick and delicious, and that’s it. So I plot one of those in. Then I do the same for lunch and dinner, with probably a little bit more variety. And then I go to the grocery store. As soon as I get back from the grocery store, I chop everything right then. Don’t even spend the time to put it back in the fridge. It seems like you’re just wasting two minutes, but those two minutes every single week add up, and then you have many more excuses later. So chop it right away.
And every single week I have something in the crock pot, something on the stove, something that’s raw, and something in the oven. And so, that just makes it easy for me to be like a mad scientist in the kitchen, doing four meals at once. By the time I’m done, I have, I like to say 21 meals for the week, but I really don’t actually. I probably prepare 18 of my meals for the week, and I have it all ready to go in glass storage containers, and it just makes my life so much easier.

Pete Mockaitis

That’s so good. One in the crock pot, one on the stove, one in the oven, and one raw, you say.

Megan Lyons

Yes, that’s right.

Pete Mockaitis

So then we can have all of them going at the same time – the crock pot’s crocking, the stove is burning. Well, not burning, you know…

Megan Lyons

Yup. Hopefully not burning. Although I have set off the fire alarm at least five times in my food prep.

Pete Mockaitis

Well, you had a few things going on at once. And then you’re making them in pretty substantial quantities. So is that fair to say, the crock pot might have six meals in it?

Megan Lyons

Exactly, yes.

Pete Mockaitis

That’s great. And so, let’s talk about these glass storage containers.

Megan Lyons

Sure.

Pete Mockaitis

I guess I’ve looked a couple of times at Amazon, and once again I interrogate the Amazon options. I don’t know how many times I’ve clicked into, “No, no, show me all reviews”, and now I want to keyword-search several things within them.

Megan Lyons

I like this.

Pete Mockaitis

It’s kind of my approach. So these storage containers, I guess in my world, I’ve yet to quite find the ultimate. And I’ve looked maybe three times and sort of aborted the mission after about 20 minutes of, “I can’t quite find what I want.” And then something else takes me away. So, I guess in my dream world, the perfect food storage container would be about meal-sized, so one meal – there you go. It stacks together, so you can stash them away in the kitchen without taking up gobs of space. You would have some kind of a lid or a spill prevention, so that if you needed to put it in a briefcase or a suitcase, you can do that. And then you can microwave it. And I’ve heard – and maybe you’ve got the dirt on this – is that it’s sort of bad news to microwave plastics, because it can release phytoestrogens or something bad.

Megan Lyons

Yeah, that’s the BPA thing that we hear about. I think it’s true. I wouldn’t stress about microwaving plastic one time, but if you’re going to do it every day, I definitely do recommend staying away from plastic.

Pete Mockaitis

So lay it on us – what is the perfect solution? You said you’re using glass.

Megan Lyons

Yeah, I do. I use these snapware glass dishes, I guess, that I got from Amazon, and I have a little bit.ly link. Do you use bit.ly links ever?

Pete Mockaitis

Oh, absolutely.

Megan Lyons

They just make my life easier, yeah. So it’s bit.ly/storemyfood, all lowercase, just to give people the exact ones that I use. But I have to say I’m not as particular as you, and I’m patting myself on the back because I meet all of your requirements. They are meal-size, they’re glass, they are leak-proof, they snap together, they don’t take up too much space, they’re dishwasher and microwave-safe, all that kind of stuff. And I really like them. They’re a bit of an investment upfront – I think they’re probably $4-$5 each – but they’re worth it over time.

Pete Mockaitis

Okay. Well, I want to go there immediately and take a look. So, that’s cool. And are they heavy if they’re glass?

Megan Lyons

Yeah, they’re heavy. So, I walk to work every day, and I just transitioned to a backpack. I’m regressing in my age. But I used to have a bag that was over one shoulder – then that was too heavy because I was bringing all my food. So I then switched to a roller bag, but then the roller bag was kind of a pain and it made loud noise. So I went back to the old school backpack. And I just consider it part of my extra workout to get my food all the way into the office and back.

Pete Mockaitis

Okay, understood. Well, thank you. At last, maybe we’ve cracked the code here. So, much appreciated.

Megan Lyons

Of course.

Pete Mockaitis

And then for the recipes – I am a fan of things you can make a bunch at once. So you mentioned the crockpot, so I think that’s great for stews or chili. What are some of the other go-to’s, like, “Hey, this is quick and easy to make a bunch of food at once that segments and stores and lasts well?”

Megan Lyons

Yeah, so in that meal-planning webinar I have, I think 20 or 30 of my favorite meal-prep recipes that people can download as well. But think of things that have some liquid in them or that you’re not just tasting one food at a time. So for people with texture issues, meal prep can be a little harder because something like a fillet of salmon doesn’t reheat as well as a chicken chili or something like that. But if you can do soups, stews, casseroles, quiches, any kind of stir fry dish, or I love cauliflower, rice and zucchini noodles, things like that, with sauces on them – all of those reheat really, really well.

Pete Mockaitis

Perfect, thank you. Well, Megan, tell me – this is so good. Anything else you really want to make sure to mention before we shift gears and hear about some of your favorite things?

Megan Lyons

Oh, there are just so many. I think the last thing that we didn’t talk about was the impact of the gut microbiome on our health. And this is just getting so much press lately. It’s one of my pet peeves when people come to me and they say, “I saw this study that says obese people have a different gut microbiome than non-obese people, and so this is just how I’m going to be the rest of my life.” Or whatever, fill in the blank with something other than obesity.
But one of my favorite studies is when they used mice, but they’re trying to right now extrapolate this to humans, and they switched the mice from a plant-rich diet to a Western diet with refined sugars, low quality fats, all this kind of stuff. And their microbiome, the gut bacteria, changed within one day. So it is true that if you are obese or you are sick or you have type 2 diabetes or something –  it is true that part of it is your gut microbiome, but it’s a bit of the chicken and the egg here. You have the power to change it.
So, I always encourage my clients – take one step in the right direction. Don’t get overwhelmed by all of this information and say, “I have to do everything or nothing”, because that’s why people do nothing. Just do one thing – make a veggie pack this week and have one every day, or try to trade your soda for water tomorrow. Just do one thing and you will feel so much better from that that you’ll get the snowball rolling and it’ll keep growing.

Pete Mockaitis

That’s excellent. So, quick question on the gut microbiome – are probiotics amazing? What’s you take?

Megan Lyons
The right quality probiotics are amazing. Unfortunately most probiotics on the market are heat-processed, and that deactivates most of the good stuff. So be sure you’re getting a good quality probiotic. The one that I usually recommend I get from Amazon or a health food store – it’s Garden of Life, The Ultimate Flora. I’ll give you a link to put that in the show notes as well. But if you’re not getting that one, just be sure that it says that it’s not been heat-processed or it’s in a dark glass container. Or even better, eat some probiotic-rich foods, like sauerkraut or kefir or kimchi or some of these things with weird names that taste a little bit bitter. If you’re getting true yogurt with actual probiotics and you tolerate dairy, that’s great too. It’s just as easy or just as possible to get your probiotic from food.

Pete Mockaitis

Perfect, alright. Well then, could you now share with us a favorite quote, something you find inspiring?

Megan Lyons

Absolutely. It’s one that many people will have heard, but I wrote it on my entrance to high school wall – we got to decorate the wall. So it’s always been my favorite. It’s Thoreau: “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”

Pete Mockaitis

Thank you. And how about a favorite study or experiment or a bit of research?

Megan Lyons

I think that one that says 5.6 to 7.8 million premature deaths could be prevented if we just eat five to eight servings of vegetables per day.

Pete Mockaitis

Okay. And how about a favorite book?

Megan Lyons

Right now my favorite book is Food: What the Heck Should I Eat by Mark Hyman.

Pete Mockaitis

And a favorite tool?

Megan Lyons

Favorite tool is FollowUpThen. It’s a free email tool that helps me keep track of my clients. It sends you a reminder when you should follow up with someone by email.

Pete Mockaitis

And how about a favorite habit?

Megan Lyons

My morning routine. I do a 10-set morning routine every morning – meditation, gratitude journal, exercise, drinking a bunch of water, things like that. And it just makes me so much more productive every day.

Pete Mockaitis

And is there a particular nugget you share with folks that really seems to connect and resonate and they say, “Wow, Megan, that’s so good!”

Megan Lyons

It’s, “Every day, every meal, every bite is a new opportunity. Make the most of it.”

Pete Mockaitis

And if folks want to learn more or get in touch, where would you point them?

Megan Lyons

My website – TheLyonsShare.org has almost everything, but they can also find me on social media at TheLyonsShare on Instagram or Facebook. Or they can email me – megan@thelyonsshare.org.

Pete Mockaitis

Yes. And I think it’s so important, so I’ll just say – Lyons Share, as in your name, as opposed to the animal. And two S’s – LyonsShare.org. So, great stuff. Thank you.

Megan Lyons

You are hired. You can be on my marketing team, because I say that so many times per day. Thank you for filling in the blanks here.

Pete Mockaitis

Well, you just shared so much important stuff, with regard to the recipes and the meal planning and the items. I think it’s so important that we don’t miss out, because that’s great.

Megan Lyons

Thank you.

Pete Mockaitis

Thank you. And do you have a final challenge or call to action you’d issue to folks seeking to be awesome at their jobs?

Megan Lyons

Well, we talked about the veggie packs enough, so I think that’s going to be the challenge. Make a veggie pack, one for every day. Start with five days during the week – raw vegetables, anything you like. Just get a fist size in there and eat that before any other snacks for one week, and let me know if you don’t feel better. I will be shocked.

Pete Mockaitis

Perfect. Megan, thank you so much for bringing some clarity and some sanity and some wisdom to this important topic. It’s been a lot of fun, and I wish you and The Lyons’ Share Wellness all the best!

Megan Lyons

Thank you, Pete. It’s been fun for me too.

314: How to Feel Less Busy With Laura Vanderkam

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Laura Vanderkam says: "Figure out where your time is actually going."

Laura Vanderkam gives her expert advice on feeling less busy, getting more done, and giving more value and meaning to your own time.

You’ll Learn:

  1. How those who feel their time is “vast” spend their day
  2. How to draw more energy by acknowledging the three selves
  3. How to stretch your experience of time

About Laura

Laura is the author of several time management and productivity books, like Off the Clock: Feel Less Busy While Getting More Done, I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, and 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think. Laura’s work has appeared in publications including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, City Journal, Fortune, and Fast Company. She has appeared on numerous television programs, radio segments, and has spoken about time and productivity to audiences of all sizes. Her TED talk, “How to gain control of your free time,” has been viewed more than 5 million times. She is the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the podcast Best of Both Worlds.

Items Mentioned in this Show:

Pete Mockaitis
Laura, thanks so much for joining us here on the How to Be Awesome At Your Job podcast.

Laura Vanderkam
Thank you for having me.

Pete Mockaitis
First I want to hear about this story behind you singing at Carnegie Hall.

Laura Vanderkam
Yes, I included that as my odd thing about me. I’ve sung for many years in various choirs. I lived in New York for quite a while. One of the things that is sometimes an opportunity is that a choir might do a show in Carnegie Hall, either an orchestra needs a choir for a bit or a singer needs a backup or sometimes choirs will rent it out.

I had a couple of those different experiences where I’ve been able to sing in that amazing space.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, multiple times. Excellent.

Laura Vanderkam
Yeah. It’s really about proximity and then also taking up these opportunities. It’s a beautiful place to sing.

Pete Mockaitis
I have to ask, it’s so corny, but did you ever ask anyone for directions to Carnegie Hall and did you get the old joke response?

Laura Vanderkam
I believe that I have in the sense of I would get into a cab and say, “Please take me to Carnegie Hall,” and then somebody guffaws.

No I’m – it’s the same – you live in New York for a while, these things that are sort of cultural touchstones elsewhere, you realize are not necessarily. I used to think like Broadway – oh Broadway is this mythical place. Then I realized it’s a street and a district is named for a street.

It’s more that certain theatres are associated with being high-end first run plays and all that and so those are considered being on Broadway but it’s not like they’re only on Broadway. They’re on various streets around there as well. Yeah, you learn these things.

Pete Mockaitis
So the cab driver didn’t say, “Well, the only way to get there is practice, practice, practice?”

Laura Vanderkam
Is to practice and also that I’ll drive you there and you pay money.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, understood. Established. Well, tell us about your latest book. You’ve got several and this is your latest. It’s called Off the Clock. What’s the big idea here?

Laura Vanderkam
Off the Clock is about how to feel less busy while getting more done. In essence it’s about how some people who have a lot going on in their lives still have this sense of time freedom. They feel like they do have time for the things they want to do. They feel like time is expansive, that’s it’s not slipping away from them, that it feels good.

I wanted to learn these people’s secrets. What are they doing with their lives? What are they doing with their hours? What can the rest of us learn from that?

Pete Mockaitis
That’s so fascinating. You use the term a lot time perception. Can you sort of define that in terms of how you think about it, what it looks, sounds, feels like as well as how you defined it precisely in your research?

Laura Vanderkam
Time perception is just what it sounds like, how you perceive time. Time obviously keeps moving along at the same rate regardless 24 hours a day, 168 hours a week. But you think about different times of our life feel very different.

Maybe like a week of summer camp when you were 12 felt very, very long, whereas for most people as adults, this past week probably didn’t feel that big for you. You may have very few memories of the past week of what makes it stand out for you more than anything else.

But it’s also about whether you feel like you have the time for the things that you want to do, like whether you feel in control of your time, whether you feel present or distracted, whether you simultaneously feel like time is rushing by too quickly at times and that also you spend a lot of time wishing minutes away.

That’s an unfortunate aspect of time perception. Many people are sitting there in a boring meeting being like I really wish it was 11 o’clock already. Time slipping from one side of the hourglass to the other and sometimes we’re trying to shove it along even more quickly.

Time perception in my research though had a more specific definition. I recruited for Off the Clock 900 people who had full time jobs and who also had families to track their time for a day. Monday, March 27, 2017 was the day. They recorded what they were doing on that day and then answered various questions about how they felt about their time.

These were various questions like “Yesterday, I generally felt present rather than distracted,” or “Yesterday, I generally felt I had enough time for the things that I wanted to do.’ Also questions about their life in general: “Broadly I have enough time for the things I want to do,” “I spend time in ways that make me happy,” various questions like this.

People get scores. They answer on these from strongly disagree to strongly agree. Assign those a one through seven point scale. The people at the high time perception scores were the ones who strongly agreed with various statements of time abundance like that. That they felt like they had enough time for the things that they wanted to do. People with low perception scores felt the opposite.

Then I could compare the schedules of people who had high time perception scores and people who had low time perception scores and see how their lives were actually different.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, so what’s so intriguing there is it sounds like for the – more or less the amount of actual quote/unquote free time that they had was probably somewhat comparable, like they do have full time jobs and they do have children and spouses to tend to. They’re sort of in a similar band there.

Yet, I’d like to get a sense from you just how much of a spread was there between their time perception. If you’ve got a one to seven, did we get the full gamut there? We’ve got some full blow one’s and full blown sevens?

Laura Vanderkam
Pretty much yeah. People who are down in the – close to the single digits, probably not exactly in the single digits. With anything like this very few people put ones or sevens on everything. That’s one of the reasons we give so many options. In general, most people like to be in the middle.

But there’s – giving people seven allows them to have the degrees within that. People will give you a two or three answer. They will give you a five or six. Those are different. Most people won’t say a one or seven regardless.

But there were people who felt pretty bad about their time. Then there were people who felt pretty awesome about it too.

They were all sort of objectively the same amount of business. It was interesting to see what wasn’t different. Pretty much everyone in the sample worked somewhere between seven and nine hours on that March Monday, which makes sense. They all have full time jobs. That’s pretty much what a full time job means. All had various family obligations and such.

Yeah, we’re not talking a huge range in terms of what time was available. Some of the differences were really in how they spent that discretionary time.

People who felt like they had a lot of time, for instance, were more likely to do what I kind of consider higher quality leisure activities, things like actively getting together with family or friends, reading, exercise, doing various, what I call sort of memorable activities. They’d have little adventures in their evenings, more interesting than one might think for a Monday night.

Whereas the people who had low time perception scores were more likely to spend a big chuck of that time watching TV or being on social media or other such electronic ways of spending time.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s so fascinating because wow. We do have the same hours in a day, just sort of the nature of the planet and the sun and how that works and yet the perceptions are vastly different. You can find that link there between their perception and the actual activities that they were engaged in.

It sounds like it wasn’t so much that the folks were reading or getting together with friends for more leisure hours than those who were on social media or TV hours.

Laura Vanderkam
No. The times themselves were not appreciatively different because, again, yes, we all have 24 hours in a day. But it’s just what you choose to do with this time that you do have available to you.

If you think about the time before you go to bed, many adults even those who are raising children have some quantity of leisure time before they go to bed in the evening. What do you choose to do with it?

It turns out that if you spend that time on Facebook looking at photos of people you didn’t like in high school anyway, you feel like you have less time. If you spend that time actually talking with your spouse or calling a friend or reading a book, that those are all sort of activities that make you feel like I’m the kind of person who has the time to do these things. That’s where the high time perception comes from.

Pete Mockaitis
Fascinating. Can you share a little bit in terms of – it certainly sounds more pleasant to operate in a world in which you perceive that you have enough time, but could you maybe unpack that all the further in terms of what are the advantages of having a high time perception?

Laura Vanderkam
Well, in general, you’ll probably be happier because feeling rushed and harried is obviously associated with high levels of stress and that’s no fun for anyone.

But it’s also about being effective because when you feel more in control of your time, then you’re more likely to spend it in ways that are meaningful for you. The people who felt like they generally had time for the things that they want to do, this is not particularly surprising, but they were highly likely to report that they had made progress on personal or professional goals in the previous 24 hours.

When you feel like you have enough time, you feel like you can allocate it to things that matter to you. That’s what people were doing.

Whereas when you feel like time is just getting away from you, like you have no grasp on time, then you don’t feel in a powerful enough position to allocate those hours to the things that are important to you. Sort of just react to what’s coming in.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, so it’s intriguing the specific uses of time, what folks were doing and how that played an impact or a role. I guess I’m wondering how does one cross the chasm there if you have a low time perception and you’re feeling like, “Oh my gosh, I don’t have enough hours in the day to handle everything,” to becoming one of those joyous folk who think that they’ve got plenty of time.

Laura Vanderkam
Well, that’s the goal of the self-help book. Those are the strategies I try to share in this book is what were these people doing differently because it’s one thing to tell you that yeah, some people perceive time differently than others, but that’s somewhat not helpful for anyone who would like to live a fulfilling and rewarding life.

There are seven strategies that I identified that people with high time perception scores were more likely to use. Just a few of them, just if people are thinking about this like what I can I do more immediately.

One thing is figure out where your time is actually going. I know that sounds like maybe something people don’t really want to do, but keeping track of your time is one of the best ways to see well, here’s where it’s actually going and then you can ask do I like this/do I not like this.

Being able to make that decision with good data allows you to make changes in a way that’s more effective than if you’re just sort of operating from various stories like, “Oh, I have no time for anything.” Well, if you are telling yourself you have no time for anything, it’s hard to do anything about that.

But if you track your time and say, “Oh, well I see that I was watching TV for two hours in the evening and I keep telling myself I’d like to read more. Maybe I could read for an hour and then turn on the TV. Wow, that’s an interesting idea.” Then it turns out you will probably feel like you have more time if you are willing to make a change like that.

One other finding that was somewhat surprising but was definitely there was that the people with the highest time perceptions scores were highly likely to do kind of interesting and out of the ordinary things even though this was a very normal March Monday that they were recording.

One person who responded to my survey had actually gone to salsa dancing lessons. That was on her time log for the evening. Somebody else went to like a big band concert on this Monday evening. There’s even more pedestrian stuff, like going to a movie on a Monday night or meeting a friend for a drink or taking the family to the park after dinner instead of sitting around watching TV.

Choosing to do interesting things with your time makes you feel like you’re the kind of person who does interesting things with his or her time. Again, that’s a thing that makes you feel in control, it makes you feel like you’re in a good place with this and can expand your experience of time.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, I guess where I think maybe the rubber meets the road in terms of am I going to watch TV or am I going to read a book, am I going to browse social media or am I going to get together with a friend, I think in those moments – well, one I guess it’s just kind of planning ahead in terms of you have a plan and you’re going to meet somebody.

But I think the other one is often just, “Oh, it just seems like so much work. I’d be so exhausted to change and leave the house and do this because I’ve just been beat down,” or whatever. It seems like the energy factor is huge in terms of what do folks think they can even handle taking on and doing say on a Monday evening. Do you address that perspective?

Laura Vanderkam
I do. I think what you need to realize with that energy question is that the self – please stick with me. People are going to turn off the podcast here. But I think this is an interesting point. The self – various psychologists have looked at this behavioral thing, but there’s really three selves.

There’s the part of you that is thinking forward to the future, so the anticipating self; the experiencing self, which is what you are feeling in the here and now, going through life; and then the remembering self, which is the part that is thinking back to things you have done in the past.

These are all three part of us, but the issue – and I quote this philosopher saying this is that we pamper the present like a spoiled child. We pay very much attention to our experiencing self, which makes sense. It’s how we’re going through life. But it’s really only one actor in what should be three-actor play.

Our anticipating self and our remembering selves are the ones who want us to go to salsa dancing lessons on a Monday night because it sounds awesome. When we get back we’ll be really happy we did it. Nobody ever exercises and is like, “Gosh, that was a horrible idea.” It feels great once you do it. Meeting your friends at the class, hearing the great music, it’s going to be awesome.

But you have to get yourself in the car and go do it. That’s when your experiencing self throws this temper tantrum like, “No, I don’t want to.”

What you really have to do is this idea of plan it in, do it anyway. You will draw energy from meaningful things. If you are not completely and totally exhausted, like you have some energy, like you could maybe walk out to your front door or something as opposed to being just completely passed out on the couch, if you could get yourself that far, probably you could make yourself do it.

If you think about how the other versions of yourself would react to this and pay attention to them, sometimes that can nudge you to pay a little bit less attention to the experiencing self.

Pete Mockaitis
Boy, that is just a master key for life right there. Wow.

Laura Vanderkam
Yeah, paying attention to how you feel right now is not actually the best way to go through life because our physical bodies are not always happy to move, but then you’ll never do anything.

You’ll do only effortless fun, which is the TV and web surfing and you won’t do the effortful fun, which is getting together with a friend, which is going to the salsa dancing lesson, which is even just going for a walk with your family. These are things that they will be great once you’ve done them, but you have to make yourself do them.

Pete Mockaitis
It’s interesting in terms of just the anticipating part. You’re right in terms of you can draw energy from remembering, “Hey that was a cool thing that happened. Yeah, I’m glad I did that,” as well as, “There’s a cool thing that’s happening soon. I’m looking forward to that.” Then it sort of even making the present experiencing self a little bit more fueled to begin going there.

I’m sort of visualizing just a very beautiful virtuous cycle or a vicious cycle in terms of whether you start to build in some great stuff versus you are just always sort of devoid of great stuff in doing the low effort fun.

Laura Vanderkam
Yeah, because it’s the effortful fun that we really have the memories of. It’s the difference between looking at photos on Instagram of other people’s dinner parties or having your own dinner party.

They are both ways you can spend your leisure time. One obviously takes a lot more effort than the other, but one is going to be a lot more fun than the other. One will make you very, very happy, will create great memories, you can look forward to it, you can remember it afterwards, you will enjoy it a lot at the moment, but you also have to invite the people and get the food to your house.

That takes effort, but effortful fun tends to be the fun we remember.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, can you tell us about some of these other practices such as lingering?

Laura Vanderkam
Lingering is about being able to stretch the present. It’s not about enjoy every minute. You can’t enjoy every minute. Plenty of minutes in life are just not actually enjoyable. But you can choose to enjoy the enjoyable ones more and to sort of linger in their happening and thus stretch the experience of time.

Part of that is about the anticipating and remembering of it. If you plan stuff in ahead of time that you know will be enjoyable, you can look forward to it and that kind of makes it bigger in your mind.

You can also attempt to be fully present during the experience itself. You can note that you’re having fun. There’s a certain mental thing. It’s not enough to have fun; you want to be aware that you’re having fun. You can tell other people that you’re enjoying yourself. You can make sure you’re remembering details.

Then after the fact, you can tell people about your fun or journal about it or whatever you want to do, look through old photos because that makes the memory come back and then you experience the pleasure a second time. All of these things can make any given unit of time seem more vast by making it more memorable.

Pete Mockaitis
It’s interesting as you sort of unpack this, it seems like maybe one easy way to get started and have your cake and eat it too could just be looking at some of your photos. You don’t even have to change out of your pajamas to do that.

Then in looking at those, it brings back a memory, like, “Oh, yeah that was really cool.” Then it also provides kind of a nudge and inspiration for, “Hey, I should do some more of this stuff.” It kind of gets the train in motion.

Laura Vanderkam
It does. People talk about dwelling in the past as being a negative thing and I don’t think that’s the case at all. This is how we create our stories of who we are. This is a big part of our identity is what our past is. We can nurture this relationship with the past as well to make it more of this living thing that helps us through the present as opposed to something that’s kind of just buried in a dusty drawer somewhere.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s really cool. I also wanted to get your take on people on a plane who are doing Facebook, how does that rub you?

Laura Vanderkam
Well, you do you. But it’s one of those – if you’re traveling, probably most of the people on the plane in the middle of the week are traveling for work. These are busy people. They’ve got a lot going on in their lives.

They’re probably the kind of people who are saying, “Oh, I never have time for X, Y, Z. I don’t have time to read. I don’t have time to think. I don’t have time to relax. I don’t have time to take a nap.” Well, the plane provides opportunities for all these things. You’re there for three hours. It’s relatively quiet or it can be if you put your headphones on.

There’s generally very few distractions if you don’t choose to then get the Wi-Fi and start checking Facebook. It’s a great time for that kind of focused work that people say they never get a chance for. Or if you’re not comfortable working on the plane for whatever reason–it’s a great time to read. You can make it through a great book in the three hours you’re in the air.

Using this time intentionally as opposed to just using it for the same thing that people use their bits of time for the rest of their lives is a great way to actually feel like you have more time.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, you have a great line. I don’t know if it’s an original or if you’re quoting a third party here. You say, “The fear of boredom is a waste of time.”

Laura Vanderkam
Yeah. The original impetus for that came from a great novel. Edith Wharton, she’s best known for The Age of Innocence or Ethan Frome. But she has a book that most people I guess haven’t read because it went out of print at some point, but it’s called Twilight Sleep.

The heroine of this book is this bustling, productive woman. This is 1920, so it’s a different sort of productivity that we think of now. She is basically terrified of having an empty hour. She will fill it with whatever she possibly can just to avoid this sense of having to think of everything.

I think that happens for us too. If you think about why you reach for your phone when you’ve got a few minutes. You can tell yourself, “Oh look at me, I’m being productive. I’m deleting email,” but there’s nothing coming in you really need to delete at this moment, especially if you looked at it ten minutes ago. It’s not – there’s nothing there. It’s just that we don’t actually want to sit there and be bored.

That’s fine, but there’s other things you can do with little bits of time that might be more meaningful or enjoyable and help you feel like you actually do have more time than when you have leisure time, you chop it up into these tiny bits through checking your phone.

Pete Mockaitis
I want to talk about the tiny bits and the phone piece because you successfully read the entire book War and Peace I understand primarily using the Kindle app on your phone. Is this true?

Laura Vanderkam
That is true.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s wild in terms of because when-

Laura Vanderkam
People are going to tell me that my eyesight’s got to be going from doing that, but it was little bits here and there.

Pete Mockaitis
Well because I guess that’s sort of – we talk about the energy piece, I think sometimes when I – just even conceiving reading War and Peace sounds huge, epic, massive, and then taking a moment to read some.

I guess my brain goes to this place and it’s probably false, so set me straight here. It’s like, “Oh boy, War and Peace, that’s pretty intense. That’s going to really require a whole lot of cognitive capability from me. Got to bring some good, smart energy.

I probably can’t do this in a three-minute bit to make tiny bites of progress to finish it because I’ve got to remember where we were before and sort of get into the scene and the characters and the picture that’s being painted and the themes and all that.”

How do you think about to what extent is it really manageable and doable to chop up something into tiny bits and to have that work out for them?

Laura Vanderkam
Well, the great thing about Tolstoy is he does it for you. People think of War and Peace as being this huge, intense, long novel, and it is very long, but the chapters are actually very short. If you look at the print book, most of the chapters are two to three pages.

In fact, it’s a book that lends itself incredibly well to reading on say the Kindle app in five minute spurts while you are waiting for a phone call to start, while you are waiting for a bus, while you’re waiting for your kid at soccer practice or whatever because these chapters are literally five-minute reading material.

There are a lot of them, but they are very, very short, which it’s one of the ways that Tolstoy keeps the story moving along, but he’s a very good writer. There’s a reason this book is still around as opposed to it being disappeared into the ash heap of history as they say.

First I would say it’s not as intimidating as it might sound. You could read it in those five-minute chunks. But if it’s not War and Peace, you could read a poem in five minutes. That’s a unit of itself. Load a book of poems on your Kindle and then read one when you’ve got five minutes. If you like it, read it again the next time you open it. If you weren’t so cool on it, move to the next one.

But using those little chunks of time for reading poetry as opposed to deleting J. Crew ads that have been emailed you just feels entirely different.

Pete Mockaitis
Yes. Tell me more about how you would articulate the distinction in terms of J. Crew deletion versus reading a poem.

Laura Vanderkam
Well, one is really doing nothing for you I guess is the best way to say it. Deleting email feels incredibly productive. I know. The reason is that what gets measured, gets done. Who knows if we made progress on our most important personal and professional goals today, but I know for sure that I got down from 150 unread messages to 75, so yay, go me.

Whereas, many other things do not lend themselves so easily to numbers, so it’s harder to necessarily feel productive doing them.

But poetry takes the brain to great places. It’s how we can see things that we wouldn’t have brought our minds to before, great emotions, ideas in history or that real people have gone through or memories. It can evoke memories if we have something similar to what it’s getting at. Just taking the brain into a completely different and higher level than making sure the inbox goes from 150 down to 75.

If you want to view it in terms of productivity, I don’t know if poetry lends itself to productivity, but I do know that giving our brains space to think about bigger things is often where we start to get good ideas.

Pete Mockaitis
Absolutely. That notion that sort of there’s a theme associated with those who have high time perception is that they’re doing things that are kind of unique and broke up the monotony. A poem, I think it’s very clever is that that’s a short way that goes about breaking up that monotony.

One thing I do – it’s kind of weird, but I don’t care I love it – is I will take a short break and sort of go to my backyard and jump on a trampoline for just a couple minutes. That is kind of like the opposite of being at a computer in terms of I’m standing, I’m bouncing, I’m outdoors. It’s very quick.

Sure enough, there’s something to that notion of doing something that is just the opposite or very much different on multiple dimensions than the baseline.

Laura Vanderkam
That’s a great idea. One of the things I talk about people should do is planning in breaks during their days in order to manage their energy.

What happens is people are like, “Oh look at me. I’m working all hard. I’m working through lunch. Look at how productive I’m being.” Then around 2:30 – 3 o’clock in the afternoon they’re reading the same email six times in a row and then falling down some sort of internet rabbit hole because their brain needs a break and they’re not taking one, so the brain forces the issues.

Whereas your trampoline break hits on all sorts of different dimensions. A) You’re outside, so getting fresh air adds to most people’s energy levels. You’re getting physical activity, another thing that adds to most people’s energy levels. This is a great way to just – whatever you were depleted from before to recharge yourself so you can get right back to work.

Pete Mockaitis
You had a nice turn of phrase about we’re often in denial about taking a break. What does that look like in practice and how can we break better?

Laura Vanderkam
Well, if you think about most of these social media breaks that people take during the day, a lot of those are kind of these fake breaks. But you think you’re still being productive because look at me, I’m still sitting at my computer. If somebody walked by, it looks like I’m still working.

But no, you are not. You’re on whatever thing. You’re reading headlines that are not remotely associated with your job. It’s just you need a break from whatever it was you were doing, so you go over and do this other thing that is sort of effortlessly pleasurable and is a break. But then you don’t consider it a break.

It’s not actually all that rejuvenating either. It doesn’t necessarily add to your energy levels to read headlines. Often it takes from it. It makes you stressed out about whatever is going on in the world.

Better to take a real break, to go jump on your trampoline if that’s what you do or go read for five minutes, read something real away from your screen or go outside or have a cup of tea or whatever it is, but go talk to a work friend whose company you really enjoy. Do something that is a true break because then you’ll be able to come back to work restored.

The fake breaks just don’t do that. Then we’re still dealing with the low energy levels afterwards.

Pete Mockaitis
Do you have a personal take on work time versus break time, the right rhythm intervals, flow ratio there.

Laura Vanderkam
I don’t know. There’s been various studies and people trot out – in the productivity world in trying to find what it is. I would assume most people couldn’t go more than 90 minutes before taking some sort of break. In many cases it’s probably less if it’s more intense type of work.

You can kind of make yourself do it to a degree by drinking a lot of water and you have to get up and refill your bottle or go to the bathroom. Those are all ways to kind of force yourself to get up and stand.

But I think it’s less time than you might thing. If you’re trying to work straight through in the afternoon, like 1 o’clock to 5 o’clock probably you’re not being as efficient as you would be if you put a break somewhere in the middle of that.

Pete Mockaitis
I want to make sure before we kind of shift gears to your favorite things that this time diaries approach, I think that it’s easy to start to do and fail if you’re trying to take an honest account and inventory of how you’re spending your time. What are your pro tips, best practices for executing this well?

Laura Vanderkam
Yeah, I’m a bit of a time management freak. I’ve actually been tracking my time for more than three years continuously now, which nobody else needs to do. I’ll put out there. But I do think it’s good to track your time for a week to see where it really goes.

I use just a spreadsheet that’s got the days of the week along the top. It’s got half hour blocks along the left going from 5 AM to 5AM, so if you think about the week, it’s 5 AM Monday to 5 AM Monday in half hour blocks.

I try to not to be perfectionist about it. I just check in three – four times a day and write down what I was doing since the last time. It’s okay to just put stuff like work, hangout with kids, eat dinner, drive to store, sleep, read.

The goal is not being so granular that you get every bathroom trip every time you went to the kitchen for whatever. It’s more that you broadly see where the time goes. Just doing that, even with those sort of fairly broad categories, it can still be enlightening.

I know in my case, I was spending a lot more time in the car than I thought I was because I usually work out of my home office when I’m not travelling for speeches or things like that, so I don’t have a daily commute, so time in the car wasn’t really registering to me as a category of my time and yet when I looked at my time logs it was a pretty big category of my time.

That’s good to know because I was just listening to the radio. I don’t even really like top 40 radio, but that was what was on, so I really needed to think about how can I spend that time better.

Pete Mockaitis
With the spreadsheet, is it just kind of in the background? Do you just click open the window from time to time on your computer or your print out and write in it, color coding, highlighters? How does it go down?

Laura Vanderkam
There’s no color coding. It’s on my computer, on my laptop. My laptop does tend to travel with me, so it’s not something where it’s ever gone very far. Because I have the home office, it’s there on the weekend too, so I can just stop in and write it down.

For different people you might want to do different things. Time tracking apps might be useful for people who don’t have a situation where a laptop is very accessible to them big chunks of the time.

You can just use a notebook too. If you want to write down during the week what you’re doing on your work computer and then on the weekend sort of write it down in a notebook and fill in the log when you come back on Monday for instance. That would be a good sort of compromise between those things.

It’s really what works for you and don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. I get people sending me these time logs that are in 15 minutes and they’ve color-coded everything in order to have certain categories that they want to be mutually exclusive and comprehensively exhaustive. It’s like, “Ah.” You don’t have to do that. It’s good.

Pete Mockaitis
It’s so funny. When you say MECE. I am a former strategy consultant. You’re talking about a spreadsheet.

Laura Vanderkam
Yup, I’m glad you got that.

Pete Mockaitis
So I am thinking, “Okay, once I’ve collected the data how do I go about working with it.” I would imagine … pivot table.

Laura Vanderkam
You don’t actually have to produce a pie chart. Okay, you don’t actually have to produce a pie chart, which means that your categories don’t actually have to be the MECE acronym.

It’s fine just to say, “This is the amount of time I spend in a car.” Maybe, “This is the amount of time I spent watching TV,” or “This is the amount of time I spent reading.” If there’s a big chunk of multitasked time, that’s okay. It’s just good to know that too. You don’t necessarily have to try to categorize it per se.

Pete Mockaitis
Very good. Well, Laura, tell me, anything else you really want to make sure to mention before we shift gears and hear about some of your favorite things?

Laura Vanderkam
No, I think we’ve covered a lot of it. That was great.

Pete Mockaitis
Cool, all right. Then can you share with us a favorite quote, something you find inspiring?

Laura Vanderkam
I actually put a ton of quotes in Off the Clock just at the start of every chapter. But one of my favorites was at the absolute start, the introduction. Mary Oliver, who is a poet. Most people know her line of, “What do you want to do with your one wild and precious life.” I’m misquoting that. That’s not my quote.

But she has – in one of her poems she has this line, “I look upon time as no more than an idea.” I really like that, that time is something we can maybe think about as an artist might use her materials as opposed to this kind of steady drumbeat marching toward doom. Having this sense of it as an idea you can kind of play around with is a lot more positive and implies that you can do a lot more with it.

Pete Mockaitis
Yeah, and the notion of an artist and materials is delightful. It just makes you think “Ah, what shall I create here?” It has a whole different feel. Yes, thank you.

How about a favorite study or experiment or a bit of research?

Laura Vanderkam
One that I find myself citing over and over again was done by Daniel Kahneman and Alan Krueger and a bunch of other people who are sort of known in the field of behavioral science and things like that. But they actually had people track through the day how happy they were as they were doing different things.

It was a study of like 900 Texas women as they went about a day. They would report if they were happy, if they were unhappy, what they were feeling at the time. You can see just this hierarchy of human happiness. As it turns out commuting to work is the low point of people’s day.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, but not if they listen to the How to Be Awesome At Your Job podcast.

Laura Vanderkam
Not if you’re listening to – well, that’s why you’ve got to listen to podcasts because anything you can do to take a minute that would be in this absolutely unenjoyable category at the bottom of human happiness and move it into something that’s actually more enjoyable. That’s a huge happiness booster right there. Yes, listen to your podcast, listen to great music and you’ll feel like you have more time.

Pete Mockaitis
Perfect. Thank you. How about a favorite book?

Laura Vanderkam
I have too many to really say. I would say that the one I have reread probably the most frequently is Virginia Woolf’s To the Lighthouse. It’s a short novel. It’s very lyrical. It’s just beautifully written. I’ve enjoyed reading it over and over again. I find something new every time. It’s one of those novels that can be reread and you see new things every time.

Pete Mockaitis
All right, how about a favorite habit?

Laura Vanderkam
I am one of those crazy people who runs every single day. I’ve been doing that since December 24, 2016. I’ve run at least a mile a day. That’s a little over 500 days now.

A mile isn’t that much, so it usually doesn’t take me more than like 10 minutes. It’s pretty hard to tell myself I can’t find ten minutes to exercise somewhere in my day. But usually by the time I’ve done the first mile, I’m happy to keep going.

It’s been good in getting me to run more and thinking more strategically about when I might exercise because if you know you need to run the mile a day, the question is not am I going to exercise, it’s when am I got to exercise. Then that’s just about problem solving as opposed to motivation.

Pete Mockaitis
I’m curious what was it about that Christmas Eve that made you say today I run.

Laura Vanderkam
Today I run and I will not stop. It was nothing. It was more that I ran that day and then we were – I was off work. We weren’t travelling anywhere that particular vacation, so I wound up running I think seven days in a row. I was like, “Oh, I wonder if I just kept going. What if I continue?”

It was around New Years as well and people often have these New Year’s resolutions. I thought well, I’ll just try it for a while, see if I can run 30 days straight. Then I was like, “Well let me see if I run 60 days straight.” By the time you’ve run 60 days straight, you’ve pretty much worked it into your life.

Pete Mockaitis
Laura, is there a particular nugget or piece that you share that really seems to connect, resonate, to get retweeted when you convey it?

Laura Vanderkam
One of my favorite thoughts for people is any time you’re going to say, “I don’t have time,” substitute the language, “It’s not a priority,” because that’s probably actually more accurate.

Whatever it is, you’re saying, “I don’t have time to iron my sheets,” but if somebody offered to pay you 100,000 dollars to iron your sheets, you would do it. It would go up the priority list very quickly. It’s not about lacking time. It’s that you don’t want to do it. You may not necessarily want to tell other people that whatever it is that they’re asking you to do is just not a priority for you.

Pete Mockaitis
Your wedding is not a priority.

Laura Vanderkam
Your wedding is not a priority. But if it’s true, it’s true. Own this truth about your desires in life and how you wish to spend your time because usually this language puts us back in control of it. It’s not the universe keeping us down. We actually do have many choices.

Even if life is in many constrained circumstances, there’s often at least choices with small bits of time. Once we can start to see that, then often we can expand that sphere of influence over time.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, Laura, if folks want to get in touch or learn more, where would you point them?

Laura Vanderkam
You can come visit my website, which is LauraVanderkam.com. I hope some of your listeners will check out some of my time management books as well. The new one Off the Clock is just out, but there are a few others. If you are looking for more time management titles, there’s a shelf full. I can hopefully help you rethink how you spend your time.

Pete Mockaitis
Do you have a final challenge or call to action for folks seeking to be awesome at their jobs?

Laura Vanderkam
I think that being intentional about how you spend your time is really the most important time management tip. Don’t show up at work without having thought through what would make this an awesome day.

That doesn’t necessarily mean you will inevitably do that thing that will make it an awesome day. Stuff does come back, but at least having an idea of why this day will be special and memorable and amazing for you can help you be awesome at your job.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, Laura, thank you so much for sharing this good stuff. It’s eye opening. It’s powerful. I wish you and Off the Clock tons of luck and success and sales and all that good stuff.

Laura Vanderkam
Thank you so much.

310: Managing Your Energy to Perform at Your Best with Tony Schwartz

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Tony Schwartz says: "It's the energy you expend, not the time you spend."

Tony Schwartz delves into principles of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual energy expenditure and renewal for optimal performance.

You’ll Learn:

  1. Why and how to manage your energy for performance
  2. Actionable ways to achieve high-positive energy
  3. Why you should work in 90-minute sprints

About Tony

Tony Schwartz is the CEO and founder of The Energy Project, a consulting firm that helps individuals and organizations solve intractable problems and add more value in the world by widening their world view. His clients include Google, Whole Foods, the National Security Agency, and the Los Angeles Police Department. Tony is considered one of the world’s thought leaders around sustainable high performance and building more human workplaces. He began his career as a journalist and has been a reporter for the New York Times, a writer for Newsweek, and a contributor to publications such as New York, Esquire, Vanity Fair, and Fast Company. His book The Power of Full Engagement spent 28 weeks on the New York Times best-seller List.

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Pete Mockaitis
Tony, thanks so much for joining us here on the How to Be Awesome At Your Job podcast.

Tony Schwartz
Thank you. Really happy to be with you.

Pete Mockaitis
I’d love to hear from all of your energy management practices how’s that paying off when it comes to being a grandpa.

Tony Schwartz
Yeah, I have four grandkids and it’s all joy, no pain because as they tell you, it turns out to be true, you don’t have to actually be responsible when things start to blow up and they always do with young children. But you get all the fun time and then the moment that it isn’t fun, you hand them back over to the parents.

It’s all renewal. On that energy expenditure/energy renewal axis which we focus on, grandkids are one more way to get renewal. In fact, I’m sitting in the apartment of one of my daughters. When this over I’ll go hang out with my grandkids, two of them.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s awesome, yes. You don’t have the night shift to contend with either.

Tony Schwartz
Yeah, that’s right. I sleep at night. That’s my thing.

Pete Mockaitis
Absolutely. I want to dig into The Energy Project. Tell me what is this organization all about.

Tony Schwartz
We are a company that helps big companies or big organizations understand what I would say are the invisible human factors that stand in the way of great performance, whether that’s a lack of energy or it’s blind spots and fears or stories that people tell themselves.

There’s just an enormous amount that organizations generally do not take into account that stands in the way of getting stuff done. It’s what’s going on inside people. What’s going on inside people has a profound impact on how they show up in the world. But we haven’t been comfortable as a culture talking about those things.

What we’ve done at The Energy Project is really to create a language that allows leaders of organizations to feel comfortable and their employees as well in addressing all these things that have up till now simply lurked in the background having a big influence that no one was willing to address.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, I’d love it if you could give me just a couple biggy examples.

Tony Schwartz
Yeah. Let’s say you have a leader who is very angry and frustrated, a person who spends a lot of time in what we would call the survival zone. That leader is easily triggered by what he perceives to be as examples of incompetence or not getting his needs met.

What we would focus on is what’s going on inside that is making you feel that way. What are you missing? What are you not seeing that’s your responsibility? What kinds of strategies could you undertake to better manage the way you show up, the way you respond under stress or under pressure?

Pete Mockaitis
Excellent.

Tony Schwartz
That would be an example. Let me give you an organizational example.

You have an organization that is incredibly collegial. This would be an example I’m taking from one of our clients. People treat each other with great care and kindness. There’s very little conflict in that organization.

On its face it looks like everything is great except decision making is completely paralyzed and people are actually extremely anxious because they don’t know beneath the surface comments that are so positive what’s actually going on because nobody has permission to actually say what’s actually going on.

In a case like that we would try to help them understand how to find a better balance between candor and compassion, between candor and care. In fact, one of the primary, what I would call set of opposites that we work with leaders on is to both be challenging and nurturing or challenging and nourishing.

To understand that if you’re too challenging, you overwhelm people and if you’re too nurturing, you are disempowering them. Understanding how to find that balance between those two qualities is the kind of thing we would do with a given leader.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s great stuff. Very useful. What really made me want to interview is long ago I read your book The Power of Full Engagement and it was just so, so helpful. I’d love it if you could orient us to a bit of the work you’re doing when it comes to energy and orienting us to the four sources of energy and just kicking us off there.

Tony Schwartz
Sure. The core work of The Energy Project, which is now 16 years old, is built around energy and the notion that it’s as important to manage your energy as it is to manage your time. The notion of energy, we really introduced into the organizational well because nobody thought about it.

Energy in physics is simply the capacity to do work. If you have more energy, you have more capacity. Capacity doesn’t matter so long as demand is less than the capacity you have, but that has completely, Pete, shifted as you well know.

The intensity of demand in people’s lives, almost no one would disagree, has increased dramatically primarily by virtue of the internet and all the demands it puts on us and the fact that we are, by definition, almost never offline anymore.

What we really have worked with to understand is what is energy in the human system. What’s the fuel you need in your time to truly bring your talent and skill to life?

They talk about engagement in the workplace. It’s a very, very important variable that organizations try to measure because it’s one of those things that there’s been a clear correlation made between the level of a person’s engagement and the level of their performance. It’s a very important factor over the last 20 years – 15 years. It refers to the willingness to invest discretionary effort on the job.

What we realized is that willing no longer guarantees able. Energy is about able. You need four sources of energy in order to be firing on all cylinders at work. What are they?

You need physical energy. That’s the ground of energy. That’s the most basic form. Without that nothing else is possible. When I say physical energy, I’m really referring to four components: fitness, sleep, nutrition, and rest.

Rest meaning daytime rest. I was referring to it at the very start of our talk in terms of what provides renewal. I was referring to my grandkids, but of course sleep provides renewal, hanging out, even working out provides both mental and emotional renewal even if it’s physically energy consuming. Those are the four components of physical energy.

Then there’s emotional energy, which is really how you feel because how you feel profoundly influences how you perform. There’s only a very specific way you can feel or there’s a specific way that you do feel when you’re performing at your best. We are helping people to cultivate that way of feeling.

Mental energy really refers to the control of attention, which is of course something we’re all struggling with in the world we live in. It’s the ability to focus on one thing at a time in an absorbed way for a sustained period of time. Critical factor in being able to be effective at work.

Then the fourth one is what we call spiritual energy. If people get nervous around that word, we call it the energy of the human spirit or the energy of purpose, the sense that what you’re doing really matters, that it serves something larger than yourself. Because if you have that feeling and I have it – I’ve got to tell you – almost every minute of every day.

I do something that really gives me a sense of purpose, which is talking about the kinds of things I’m sharing with you right now. It’s an enormous energy source for me in my life and for anybody who takes advantage of it who has a connection to why they’re doing what they’re doing.

Physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Our core work is training people to better manage those four sources of energy and training leaders to better manage not only their own energy, but the energy of those they lead.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, awesome. Well, I want to dig into a lot of what you said there, but first I was just so intrigued by your emotional energy comment. You said there’s one way we feel that really unlocks just great performance. What is that way of feeling and how do we get there?

Tony Schwartz
Pete, it’s how you feel when you’re performing at your best.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, it kind of varies person by person.

Tony Schwartz
No, it’s always the same.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay.

Tony Schwartz
I’m going to ask you how do you feel when you’re performing at your best? Give me three or four adjectives.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, sure. I feel flowing, grooving, enthusiastic. It’s kind of like “All right, let’s keep it going.” It’s kind of like I get into it in such a sense that if I am interrupted, I’ll be irritated by it. I try to ….

Tony Schwartz
Yup, so flowing, grooving, energized. Then the other kinds of words we hear all the time are excited, confident, optimistic, focused, absorbed. Those are the kinds of words that we consistently hear. We never hear somebody say, “Hey, when I’m at my best what I feel is angry,” or, “At my best I’m really anxious.”

The way we feel when we’re performing our best is what we call high positive energy. There are almost no exceptions. That’s the way people perform at their best. We’ve asked literally 200,000 people that question over the last 16 years and always we get the same dozen adjectives or so that people say.

In a way that’s not a big piece of news because if you ask someone, they’ll always tell you. But what most people don’t recognize consciously in everyday life is if I’m not feeling that way, and most people aren’t much of the time, then I’m not capable of performing at my best. That’s what we mean by the right emotions when it comes to performing well.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay. I’m intrigued then in terms of how to be there more often. I know you teach a lot in terms of strategies and practices, but what would you say are maybe just the real top, top practical actionable prescriptions that just give you a tremendous return on your investment for bringing forth more high-positive energy?

Tony Schwartz
Yeah, well I’d say it depends on which of the four dimensions because all four of them influence high-positive energy. In the end, the feeling is a consequence of how well you’re managing each of these four dimensions.

At the physical level for example, which is the simplest one to describe, the most important thing you can do is sleep at least seven to eight hours a day. 98% of people require at least seven to eight hours of sleep in order to feel fully rested. Vastly fewer than 98% get seven to eight hours a night. If you don’t, by definition, everything else is going to be undermined.

There’s no single practice you can do that more powerfully and immediately influences your overall experience, the degree to which you feel high-positive energy when you’re getting enough sleep.

Second to that, would be intermittently resting throughout the day, meaning your body’s designed to work in cycles of 90 minutes, very much like what happens at night when you move in a 90-minute cycle called the basic rest activity cycle between very light sleep and then down into deep sleep and back out through something most people know as REM sleep, rapid eye movement sleep.

It turns out that the same exact cycle exists during the day. The only difference is that you move from a high state of alertness into a state of physiological fatigue every 90 minutes if – or the degree to which you move into that trough depends on how intensely you’ve worked during those 90 minutes.

But if you build a rhythm into your life of sprint and recover, sprint and recover it’s a vastly more efficient way to get things done and it feeds a better overall feeling in you then working continuously, which of course you can’t do at 100% any more than you can sprint two miles continuously. You’d fall and collapse if you do that. That’s very much at the most basic level, Pete.

I’ve already described to you this spiritual dimension. A practice that makes sense spiritually is to really look – there’s an awareness process that goes into identifying what is it that gives me a sense of meaning, what is it that makes me feel excited to get up in the morning  and go to work, that makes me feel like I’m adding value in the world.

That’s a blend of identifying what you do best because the things that you do best tend to be the things that provide often, all other factors being equal, the greatest source of satisfaction. But they are not necessarily what give you the most immediate pleasure or satisfaction.

In other words you may be – you may love – I mean you may be incredibly good on the saxophone but if your job is to be a salesman, that saxophone is not going to be a source of satisfaction at work. If it is, you’re probably not going to work there very long.

A second component is what do I enjoy doing in the context of what my responsibilities are. A third one is what am I doing that makes me feel I’m adding value to the world or to others. What’s adding value? What do I enjoy most? What am I best at?

Creating a Venn diagram around that, in other words finding the places where all three of those are happening for you is an awareness piece that really allows you to hone in on what deserves more of your attention.

Then once you’ve identified that, we would be helping the people who go through our work to figure out in the context of the work responsibilities that they have, how can they do more of those things in which they’re getting all three of those sources of satisfaction. That’s a couple of examples.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s powerful stuff. Thank you for laying this out. I’m so curious to hear some more inside each of these further. Let’s start with sleep then. Seven to eight hours is just putting in the time. Are there any pro tips other than just sort of blocking that out and getting into the bed? …

Tony Schwartz
Yeah, yeah, there certainly are. There certainly are. I’m happy to share them because this is so critical.

Probably on average when we do our corporate work and I’ll ask the question, “How many people in the room by a raise of hands have got at least seven to eight hours of sleep for at least five of the last seven nights?” I would say the average is probably about 40%. 60% of the audiences I’m seeing are not getting enough sleep.

That doesn’t even address the quality of their sleep. Let’s just say the number of hours that their eyes are closed and they’re more or less asleep.

A couple of really critical things. Number one, you’ve got to identify a time to go to sleep that is consistent and a time to wake up that’s consistent. First of all that will drive a better quality of sleep. Second of all, it will make it less likely that you drift, particularly at night, later and later and end up getting too little sleep.

Building it as a ritual, which is very much at the heart of the way we help people make behavioral change. In other words, a ritual is a highly specific behavior that you do over and over at the same time until it becomes automatic and you don’t have to think about it anymore. Because, Pete, the longer you have to think about doing something, the less likely you are to do it. That’s number one about sleep.

The second thing is that you want to wind down rather than simply trying to go to sleep instantly when you turn out the light. From an hour before you go to sleep, 45 minutes minimum, your ritual ought to include that winding down.

Let me give you an example of what isn’t winding down. Watching reruns of 24 is not winding down. Doing your email, your work email, much less even your personal email is not winding down. Why not? Because the screen creates more alertness and makes it harder to go to sleep.

Taking a shower or one shower or much less – or even better a warm bath or having a cup of herbal tea or having a – reading a book would also be a really good way to wind down. In fact, better a boring book than a thriller because you’re going to fall asleep faster. You wouldn’t want to read John le Carré or any other thriller writer because that might keep you up. There’s a lot of common sense in this.

Then the third tip, if this is not the third or the fourth, I’m not keeping track. The third tip would be that before you go to sleep if you’re the kind of person who struggles to go to sleep because you perseverate, because you start to think of things that you’re worried about and then you repetitively rem them in your mind.

That can happen to people before they go to sleep or it can happen when they wake up in the middle of the night and they can’t get back to sleep. What we suggest and we have seen work really, really effectively is that if you are such a person, write down before you go to sleep on a pad right by the side of your bed what it is you’re worrying about, what is on your mind.

Because by writing it down, you get it off your mind. You give your mind permission not to think about it because your mind is being told by your writing that it will be there for you in the morning just as reliably as if you tried to run it over and over in your head.

There are three just very simple ways to increase the likelihood that you’ll get seven to eight hours of sleep.

Pete Mockaitis
Excellent. Thank you. Well, now I want to talk a little bit about the intermittent resting. First of all, is that 90 minutes pretty universal across all human beings? Are some 70? Are some 110? Or is 90 the number?

Tony Schwartz
I would say science doesn’t tell us an exact answer to that question, but just as it doesn’t tell us what your sleep cycle will be. It is I would say plus or minus ten minutes probably in the 90s as a percentage. That plus or minus relative to 90 minutes is how long a sleep cycle lasts and how long a what we call an ultradian rhythm.

The sleep cycle is the circadian rhythm of night and day. I’m sorry, the sleep cycle takes place in the context of the circadian rhythm of night and day because the biggest rhythm you have is awake and asleep. Then when you go down into sleep then you have these 90-minute cycles.

Then during the day it’s called an ultradian rhythm. It too, I would say, is a 90 minute rhythm for the vast majority of human beings and within ten minutes or so of that.

I very much have adapted over 16 years, or even longer than that, 20 years during which I’ve been doing this work, my body so that particularly when I’m working intensely, my body begins to scream at me around 80 minutes. I get a little internal alarm clock, which is obviously cued up with an internal rhythm that exists in my body, that’s saying to me give me a break.

Most of us – all of us get this signal somewhere between 70 and – or 80 and 100 minutes, somewhere in there, but we override it. We override it with coffee. We override it with sugar. We override it most of all with adrenaline and cortisol. We override it with our own stress hormones because our anxiety can be arise by any number of – as you well know – any number of things that happen to you over the course of a day.

We use all of these techniques. In the case of adrenaline, we don’t do it consciously. In fact, the more intensely and the more continuously that you work, the more likely it is that you will begin to generate stress hormones. They’re like an emergency source of fuel. But they’re not an ideal source of fuel. Just as coffee is not an ideal source of fuel.

Your best way to energize yourself is to rhythmically move between work and rest. At that 90-minute interval what you want to do is you want to change channels. That might mean mentally and emotionally that what you want to do is quiet the body.

But it also might mean you want to, if you’ve been sitting, you might want to elevate the body because – elevate your physiology, meaning use natural means to increase your heart rate.

Because when you increase your heart rate one of the things that happens is the left hemisphere begins to let go, the verbal part of your brain begins to let go and anybody who has done any kind of aerobics or training, physical training, knows this experience that the more intensely you’re working out the more unlikely or even impossible it is to think. If you can turn off your thinking, that’s a very powerful source of recovery.

It’s the same – not quite for the same reasons – but ultimately the same thing that happens emotionally. Most people find that if they move the body intensely, it’s a source of emotional renewal or positive emotion. It prompts a reduction in anxiety.

Now, the flip side – I call that active renewal. The flip side is passive renewal. Meditation, yoga, taking a walk in nature. All of those are positive and useful renewal activities that you can use in that period when you are disengaging from work and you are in renewal or recovery mode.

Pete Mockaitis
When it comes to these cycles, if 90 minutes is the on cycle, about how long is the off cycle?

Tony Schwartz
The off cycle is completely determined by the individual, meaning it’s when you feel refueled and renewed. You can get in an amazingly short period of time if you are skilled at it, if you ritualize it, if you practice it, you can completely clear the bloodstream of cortisol, which is the most insidious of the stress hormones in one minute by breathing in and breathing out.

The particular breathing technique that we recommend is in to a count of three, out to a count of six. In through your nose, out through your mouth. The reason that we think that works better is that it extends the recovery, meaning a long out breath is a way to recover.

You know that even just by its opposite, which is if you breathe very quickly, you know when you’re frightened, it actually uses up your energy. It’s very energy consuming and anxiety provoking.

You can get this very powerful recovery in a very short time, meaning the point is not how long you recover, it’s how effectively your recover. Just as on the flip side, it’s not how long, how many hours you work, it’s how absorbed you are, how intensely you focus during the time that you do work.

For example, I’ve now written five books. I’m in the middle of my sixth. The last three, including the one I’m writing, I wrote with a full awareness of these rhythms. My way of writing as in this very moment when I’m writing a new book, is that I’m up at 6 o’clock.

I do not do any other activity before writing. If I do, if I were to look online and start reading the internet news or if I were to check my email or if I were to do some activity in my house, the likelihood that I would get my writing done would drop dramatically because it’s hard to write.

I sit down. I turn off all my devices and I work in an absorbed way for 90 minutes. I will tell you I don’t work for 100 and I don’t work for 70. I work for 90 or 80. I don’t work for 80 and I don’t work for 100. I work for 90 minutes and then I take a break.

That first break is usually breakfast. Then I work for 90 minutes more. Then I take a run. That run is a source of mental and emotional recovery after a very intense cognitive demand that I put myself under. This is how I use my time.

Now, in the first three books that I wrote, each of them took me at least a year to write. One took me nine months, but nine months to a year. I was working 12-hour days. I wasn’t working efficiently. I wasn’t working effectively. I was often finding excuses to stop writing. But I sat at my desk for up to 11 or 12 hours a day as many writers I know do, stupid writers.

In the last three books, I write in three – actually for this book it’s only two, because I also run a company – but the two previous books I wrote in three 90-minute sprints with breaks in between and that was my total writing day, four and a half hours. In those four and a half hours, I wrote each of those books in six months. In the 12 hours I never wrote a book in less than a year.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s powerful.

Tony Schwartz
It’s the energy you expend, not the time you spend.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, nice little rhyming turn of phrase. I’m digging it. I also want to zoom in on this one-minute practice. With the breathing in, I’m imagining one should breathe into the diaphragm or belly as opposed to the shoulders and the ….

Tony Schwartz
Absolutely. Yeah, okay. Good for you. Imagine, let’s do it together. You go in through your nose and you’re counting. And now you exhale through your mouth, presumably from your diaphragm. Six. You may want to purse your lips because you want to extend the breath so you’ve got more time out than in. In three, out six.

Pete Mockaitis
And my mental attention is upon the count or where is ….

Tony Schwartz
Yes, 100%. That’s what will keep you focused and absorbed.

Pete Mockaitis
Are we thinking eyes open/eyes closed? Sitting/standing posture?

Tony Schwartz
I would say sitting, though there is no rule about this. I would also say eyes closed preferable to eyes open. But listen, if you are able to be absorbed with your eyes open, it’s fine. What you’re trying to do is prompt a physiological shift. Whatever works for you, God bless.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, very nice. Very nice. Well, Tony, tell me, anything else you really want to make sure to highlight before we shift gears and hear about a few of your favorite things?

Tony Schwartz
I want to reconnect you to what I started with, which was to talk about the idea that The Energy Project’s work is about the invisible human factors that are standing in the way of great performance. I have walked you through now some description of the factors related to energy: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. But those are not the only factors that stand in the way of great performance.

One of the big insights for us was that the same understanding we came to about this simple concept of energy expenditure by itself is not the ideal way to get things done, but rather

Energy expenditure balanced with energy renewal is a much more effective and efficient way to get work done.

Likewise, no quality, no strength by itself is a virtue. Honesty, as appealing and impressive as it is as a virtue, when it gets overused becomes cruelty. Balancing opposite to ensure that honesty doesn’t become cruelty is compassion.

A person who wants to operate with the greatest amount of flexibility and effectiveness is someone who can move gracefully between honesty and compassion just as they can move between energy expenditure and energy renewal or between confidence and humility or between courage and prudence.

A lot of our work now is focusing on helping people to recognize the ways in which they choose up sides on behalf of one quality at the relative expense of the other and that expense to their own full humanity and maximum effectiveness.

There’s a very close tie between what we understood in our energy work and what we now understand in what we would think of as our human or adult development work.

Pete Mockaitis
I like that. It feels very Aristotelian if that’s the word.

Tony Schwartz
It is Aristotelian. There is an Aristotelian notion that we have adapted.

There’s nothing new under the sun, as you know. I think our contribution in the world is not so much that we’re offering wholly original ideas because almost no one is, but rather that we’re creating a language and a framework in which people can make use of what in some cases are ideas that have been around for thousands of years.

Pete Mockaitis
Awesome. Well now can you share with us a favorite quote, something you find inspiring?

Tony Schwartz
Yeah, I’m going to give you a shortened version of my favorite quote, which comes from the Jungian psychologist James Hillman, no longer with us but a wonderful thinker. There’s some Zen practitioners who’ve created various versions of this I think, which is “We have to accept ourselves exactly as we are and never stop trying to grow and change.”

That captures that paradox that I think is so important, which is that there is no single answer. There are no absolutes at this stage in our complex world. The notion that you can accept yourself exactly as you are, frees you to invest your energy in becoming better. But neither by itself is sufficient.

Pete Mockaitis
Thank you. How about a favorite tool?

Tony Schwartz
Well, I have to say that my PowerBook is my favorite tool still to this day even more so than some of the other modern technologies because I’m a writer.

I’m a writer who actually has a notebook that I have probably several hundred of them that I keep my ongoing reflections in by hand. I still value a pen as a tool as well. But I write my books and I write my articles on a PowerBook. I’ve always used a Mac and I don’t want to advertise for Apple, but that I would say is the most important tool in my life, the most important technology tool.

Pete Mockaitis
Is there a particular nugget that you share-

Tony Schwartz
By the way, one other.

Pete Mockaitis
All right.

Tony Schwartz
An old-fashioned juice press because I’m a margarita lover and part of the key to great margaritas is fresh lime so that’s a very important tool in my life too.

Pete Mockaitis
It sounds critical.

Tony Schwartz
Yeah, critical.

Pete Mockaitis
If folks want to learn more or get in touch, where would you point them?

Tony Schwartz
Info@TheEnergyProject.com. Of course, if you just want to read more about what we do it is TheEnergyProject.com. My blogs are plentifully on our website. The book that I would recommend to people until my new one comes out next year is called The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working. That’s the one I’d send people in the direction of.

Pete Mockaitis
Perfect. Do you have a final challenge or call to action that you’d issue to folks seeking to be awesome at their jobs?

Tony Schwartz
Make waves.

Pete Mockaitis
Beautiful. Well, Tony, this has been so much fun at long last to meet the man behind one of my favorite books. Thank you and keep doing all the great work that you’re doing.

Tony Schwartz
All right, thanks very much.

309: Preventing Burnout in Yourself and Your Whole Organization with PwC’s Karlo Siriban and Anne Donovan

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Karlo Siriban and Anne Donovan say: "If you don't ask for what... you need, then you're going to end up leaving at the wrong time."

PwC employees Karlo Siriban and Anne Donovan share their story of preventing burnout within themselves and transforming a whole work environment to prevent it for others.

You’ll Learn:

  1. Key signs that burnout is looming near
  2. How to talk to your boss about your burnout
  3. How PwC rolled out a broad flexibility initiative and saw retention soar

About Karlo & Anne

Karlo Siriban transforms businesses. He understand companies’ missions and develop strategies to achieve and frameworks to execute their visions successfully. He is a strategic, creative thinker, not afraid to challenge the status quo to achieve more effective and efficient results.

Anne Donovan is the U.S. People Innovation Leader at PwC. She’s responsible for strategy and innovation around culture change. She has a strong background in operational effectiveness and in engaging and supporting the firm and its people in leading positive change, including a variety of initiatives related to the work environment, workforce demographics and business model change.

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Pete Mockaitis
Karlo and Anne, thanks so much for joining us here on the How to Be Awesome At Your Job podcast.

Karlo Siriban
Thanks for having us.

Anne Donovan
Happy to be here.

Pete Mockaitis
I think we’re going to have a lot of fun with this one. A little different and but different good. First Karlo, I want to hear where are we with the Hamilton audition process? What’s the tale here?

Karlo Siriban
Do you want the whole background of it?

Pete Mockaitis
I’d like to hear – you’re into music. How did you say, “You know what? This is a thing I’m going to go for?”

Karlo Siriban
Yeah, I’ve always been into performance, particularly in stage musicals and singing. I used to do it all throughout my schooling, from elementary school all the way through college. Then when I started work it all just stopped. Work was my number one goal and wanting to do well was what I wanted to do. I found myself just wanting to – naturally wanting to go back into performing.

Hamilton, this was I think two and a half – three years ago, Hamilton was just becoming big in New York and they were having open casting calls. Unfortunately, I travel for work Monday through Thursday, Monday through Friday every week, so I couldn’t go to the open calls. My fiancé, my now fiancé, luckily saw some fine print at the bottom that said if you can’t make it please send in a video audition.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay.

Karlo Siriban
I was very hesitant to. I didn’t want to, but she pushed me to do it. My video was sitting out there for a couple of months. After about three – four months I got a call that they wanted me to attend some callback auditions. About 12 auditions later I was at the final callbacks for Hamilton.

Pete Mockaitis
12.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh man. Well, they’ve got to do something to justify that high ticket price.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s good. The excellence that goes into it. 12, wow. What happened after the 12?

Karlo Siriban
After the 12 unfortunately my journey ended there. I’m still in contact with some of the casting agents there.

But for the past year I’ve really been focusing on my career and getting a promotion. That was my goal this year, which fortunately I’ve gotten.

Karlo Siriban
Now that I’ve achieved that I’m going to be going back into auditioning for shows, not just Hamilton but Off Broadway and Broadway shows. Luckily I’m based in New York, so makes it a little easier.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s cool. That’s cool. Talk about career. Can you orient us a little bit to PWC and your role within it?

Karlo Siriban
Yup. PWC, big four public accounting firm. We structure ourselves within three lines of service. Assurance, which offers your basic accounting services. You have tax and you have advisory which covers consulting. I work in our advisory line of service. I’m an advisory consultant and I focus on large-scale business transformation.

Pete Mockaitis
Cool. All right. Well, I worked in strategy consulting at Bain. You say you travel a lot. You’re on the client site and you’re meeting with executives and such and plenty of slides I imagine.

Karlo Siriban
Oh absolutely. My life is on PowerPoint.

Anne Donovan
You know it well.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, so I see the picture there. I want to hear the story of you notice you were starting to feel kind of burnt out. Can you share with us what was going on and what were sort of the indicators like, “Uh oh, something needs to change here?”

Karlo Siriban
Yeah. This was about three years ago. Just the general travelling every week it started to take a toll on me. Waking up on Monday mornings to go catch a plane wasn’t as enticing anymore. I was having trouble focusing at work. Then even outside of work in my personal life, I found myself not as willing to go try new things, willing to go out with friends and family.

I realized something was wrong. I didn’t know what it was. I think most people when you hit that point, you sort of think, “Oh, what are the stressful things in my life.” For me that was work. I realized here’s my burnout. Something I don’t think a lot of people realize is yeah, there may be things stressing you out, but sometimes adding things to your life can help alleviate that burnout.

Pete Mockaitis
Yeah.

Karlo Siriban
For a lot of people, and I think this is said very often, is “Oh, go, wake up in the morning and go exercise.” That can really help you gain more energy and more happiness throughout the day. I tried that for a little bit, wasn’t working.

I realize what makes me happy. What is it? It was music. I turned back to music. It started with joining an a cappella group and just practicing and playing music in my house, finding time to play music in my apartment and at some pubs around New York City.

Slowly that just added up to the Hamilton audition and getting involved in more and bigger things. But I found myself having added that to my life, it was giving me more energy within work and it was helping me focus. It was just keeping me happy and keeping me satisfied, keeping my whole self-satisfied.

Pete Mockaitis
That is an awesome insight because when you’re in that mode, that zone of burnout, overwhelm, there’s too much, the thought of taking on an additional thing is like, “Are you crazy? I’m just trying to keep it together right now? I can’t imagine adding something.” You’re saying, “Oh, no, no. Adding something, in fact, is an improvement as opposed to more overwhelm.”

Karlo Siriban
Mm-hm, absolutely. I think it’s because when you add something that you’re passionate about, you’ll naturally find time to make it happen. That means saying no to things and managing your time a little more effectively just by the nature of wanting to do something you’re passionate about.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s cool. I want to hear about the part in which you shared this with some folks at PWC, like I imagine that could be a little nerve-wracking in terms of saying, “Hey, I’m feeling burnt out.” You’re just like, “Oh, they’re going to think I’m weak,” or you’re not up to the high standards of performance or not an achiever, high potential.

What was going on inside your head and how did you have that conversation?

Karlo Siriban
I think that’s a very natural thought to have. You described it perfectly. Just going – the way PWC is structured, it’s a partnership structure. The partner is the be all, end all to your group and feels like your career sometimes.

I was saying to myself, “I need to make this – I need to have protected time for myself to be able to do this, to be able to pursue this.” Because traveling every week and working 40 to 60 however many hours a week, it becomes a lot.

My partner, very high performing, very focused on results. My career up until that point, I had also been focused on that. I had been very aligned with the firm first and work first and wanting to be a high performer. I thought that my idea of making time for myself wouldn’t gel with what I thought was the firm’s idea of what an employee should be.

I had spent time talking to a coach during one of our leadership conferences, talking to a coach about how I structure this and how I can present this. A week afterwards after some intense structuring sessions and messaging sessions, I went up to my partner and talked to him about it expecting the worse. It ended up being extremely easy.

He was extremely supportive of what it is I wanted to do and the passion I had. I think what helped that conversation was the fact that he knew I was devoted and dedicated to work and still performing at a high level. He also knew how passionate I was about music, and about singing, and about performing. He saw that as a way for me to sort of flex my creative muscle and flex my professional muscle.

I think the coaching that he received and the coaching that I received, it’s just a – there’s this culture of everybody’s a person. Our number one piece of capital or our number one investment at the firm is people. If you don’t keep your people happy, if you don’t keep your people trained, if you don’t keep your people whole, then what good is having them in a firm like this at PWC?

Pete Mockaitis
Certainly. I’m intrigued. This coach, that was provided by PWC?

Karlo Siriban
Yes, my coach was provided by PWC. There is a – when you make senior associate, so this is about three – four years into your career, you’re sent to a leadership conference to sort of develop – it’s called Discover.

It’s to develop yourself, to discover within you what drives you, what motivates you, why are you here and what best parts about you can you bring back to your professional life and to your personal life to improve everything.

In that session, it’s about a week long, they assign everyone a career coach to help talk to you about those topics. Your career coach is – most of them I believe are non-PWCers if not all of them are non-PWCers. Anne, you can keep me honest on that one.

Anne Donovan
Yup.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah, they have a very objective point of view in how you can develop yourself, which I think is refreshing.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, that’s great.

Karlo Siriban
That the firm would do that.

Pete Mockaitis
Absolutely. I’ve done some coaching and I would love to be participating in that. That sounds really cool. Were there some follow-ups then or it all happened within the context of that one event?

Karlo Siriban
That one event is where it – where that idea blossomed. Towards the end of that week I had a formal discussion with my coach. Probably four weeks afterwards there were follow-up sessions, where we just spoke to each other over the phone, over Facebook, over text to help me build up the courage to actually have that conversation.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s good. You said you worked a lot on the structuring and messaging. Were there any choice words, phrases, sentences that you thought, “Oh yeah, that’s perfect. I’ve got to make sure to say that,” and you thought that they landed outstandingly when you had that conversation with the partner?

Karlo Siriban
Yeah, actually in forming my thoughts and my message, initially I had completely neglected to address the fact that I still wanted to be at the firm and I still wanted to be a high performer. Initially it was all about I need to go into music and I need to spend my time making music.

He helped me form it in such a way that I do want to make music but it doesn’t mean I want to leave this behind. It doesn’t mean that I – that you should expect less from me. In fact, you should expect the same from me and this will help me focus and help me deliver for you and for the firm.

Pete Mockaitis
That is a nice turn of a phrase. You should not expect less from me. In a way that’s kind of inspiring on multiple levels in terms of 1) you’re making a commitment and so you want to rise up and live up to it and 2) it’s like oh good, this doesn’t mean – “Karlo’s great, but hey, I guess not everyone can be the hardcore rock star, all-star, so I guess I’ll have to put him in the sort of maintenance mode as opposed to gunning for it mode.”

That’s really cool. You had the conversation, went super well. Any kind of pro tips when it comes to if others are feeling the burnout kind of beginning to settle in, how should they go about doing some reflection or engaging in that conversation?

Karlo Siriban
Yeah, I think everyone should take some time to slow down first. When people are approaching burnout mode it’s often when they’re very stressed. When you’re stressed you get into this panic mode and you need things to happen fast and you want things to happen fast. When that happens, you have a tendency to take missteps or to make decisions irrationally.

I think when that happens it’s important to take some time to breathe and to, like you said, reflect on everything about your life, not just work, but home and your friends and your community, and your spirituality, reflect on all of that and understand where your life stands on all of those places. Once you have that view, then try to build a plan about how you try to improve it. It’s all – just take that breath.

Pete Mockaitis
That is good, yes. When it comes to the fear, I guess bosses come in all shapes and sizes and varying levels of receptiveness to such a conversation, so any thoughts in terms of – that was a great sentence in terms of “don’t expect less from me” but any other thoughts to address the fear like, “I can’t tell my boss that?”

Karlo Siriban
That’s a tough question because you’re right every boss is different. I think if you build an open, honest – if you’re lucky enough to be able to build an open, honest relationship with your boss, that conversation will always be easier in real life than it is in your head.

If you have a challenging boss or if you have a challenging work environment, regardless I think it’s important to be open and honest with yourself first and to assess how your view of what will make you happy in the future fits in with your career.

Pete Mockaitis
Mm-hm.

Anne Donovan
Pete, can I add something here?

Pete Mockaitis
Oh yeah.

Anne Donovan
I just can’t help myself. What I always advise our staff is if they don’t step up to ask for what they want, the end result is they’re going to quit the firm. They’ll go along and keep doing what they’re being asked to do and do it really, really well, and get into burnout mode. Then the end result is they quit the firm. Then the firm ends up being the loser.

I actually believe in most cases the staff ends up being the loser too because they end up quitting the firm at the wrong time. Because I do believe that most people end up quitting the firm. We don’t have a partnership that has thousands, and thousands, and thousands of partners. Ultimately we know people will end up leaving the firm.

But you want to leave the firm, and I tell staff this including my family, who are staff, you want to leave the firm at the right time, when it’s the right time and you have the right job. If you leave the firm at the wrong time, you’re the loser.

If you don’t ask for what you want and get the work environment that you need, then you’re going to end up leaving at the wrong time. There is absolutely no harm in asking for what you want, no harm at all. You might get a no, but probably you’re not going to. But if you don’t ask, the answer is always going to be no.

Pete Mockaitis
Right.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah.

Anne Donovan
I just – I say this every single time I sit in front of anyone who will listen to me. You must ask the question. You must ask for what you want because probably what you’re asking for is absolutely not unreasonable. You’ve got to ask for it. You’ve got to create the work environment that you need to make your life happy. It will more than likely be accommodated.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah, that’s extremely true, what you said. The worst that happens is they say no. What happens there is now your want and your passion is out there and people are thinking about it and people have talked about it rather than you’re in the status quo and nothing changes.

Pete Mockaitis
Certainly and you have some more clarity for your own decision making. It’s like, “Okay, well-“

Anne Donovan
Absolutely. Now you know.

Pete Mockaitis
“I need this and I can’t get it, so maybe I should-“

Anne Donovan
That’s right.

Pete Mockaitis
“-put a little more effort towards …”

Anne Donovan
That’s exactly right. But at least you know as opposed to making up in your head what the answer is going to be.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s great.

Anne Donovan
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, Karlo, can you give us the lay of the land now in terms of your burnout-ness in terms of – the Hamilton audition has come and gone but there will be new opportunities? How‘s your day-to-day in terms of energy and stress and motivation?

Karlo Siriban
It’s – I’ve become much better at identifying when I’m getting close to burnout. I’m happy to say in the past two years I haven’t approached burnout at all.

Also, just having put out wanting to perform out there, I’ve been more involved in internal PWC initiatives for performance. For example, this summer PWC has what they call a Promotion Day, where everybody who’s getting promoted gets promoted at the same time.

In New York they throw a large event and I’m leading a band, a band of about 12 of us. We’re playing a 45-minute set for all of our colleagues in New York.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, that’s fun. That’s really cool. Could you unpack a little bit of what are some of the early wanting signs? Before full burnout is upon you, what are the little indicators like, “Uh oh, getting kind of closer?” What is that for you internally?

Karlo Siriban
For me it’s if I find myself waking up later and later.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, that’s very specific. Thank you.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah, very specific.

Pete Mockaitis
Cool. Any other indicators?

Karlo Siriban
It’s waking up later. I find myself being unable to focus at work. Just little things. If I have a quick – usually I’m pretty good about if I have a five-minute task that’s something that I can complete right away. I take that time out of my day. If I find myself those tasks are taking longer, I push them off further and further, then I find myself I need to reassess what’s happening in my life and refocus.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s good. Cool. Awesome success story. So glad to hear it that you came to the brink and came back and you’re wiser for having done so and have a more fun work and life situation going on there.

Anne, could you maybe broaden the scope of the conversation a little bit, so beyond Karlo’s story. You’ve got a full blown flexibility initiative. What’s the story with that at PWC?

Anne Donovan
Yeah, we are in year six of that initiative. I will tell you that seven years ago we could not spell the word flexibility at PWC. We did some work, did lots of focus groups, kind of travelled around.

Actually we did a lot of work studying our Millennial population and did some actually pretty scientific work, taking a look at what our Millennials wanted verse our Gen-Xers and got some pretty good data around the kind of top three things our Millennials wanted.

We’re pretty – got some pretty solid information that although they certainly wanted to be paid well and wanted stuff that the rest of us wanted, flexibility was in the top three things that Millennial wanted out of the workplace.

Pete Mockaitis
What are the other two things and how did that compare to the other generations?

Anne Donovan
Yup. Top three things Millennials want out of the workplace based on our study: flexibility, appreciation and support from their supervisors, and teamwork. They wanted to work on teams that they felt worked well together. It was really about the work environment for Millennials.

For Gen-X it was about having control over their work, working on good stuff, so really good kind of developmental stuff, and pay. For Gen-X it was about the real kind of traditional stuff that we had set up the work environment around, the traditional work environment which was like, “We’re going to pay you well and you’ve got a lot of autonomy. We’re going to give you good stuff.”

Then Millennials come into the workforce and they’re like, “Well, we want to feel good and we want you to appreciate us. We want flexibility.” Those two things had a – there was a big gap between those two things.

Pete Mockaitis
Understood.

Anne Donovan
We had this data and said, “Whoa, we’ve got to change the work environment.” Because we had autonomy, we had good pay. We still have good pay, but we had this setup that was appealing to the prior generation and we had this entire set of workers who said that we want to feel good. We changed the entire – we shifted the entire environment.

Pete Mockaitis
All right. What are some of the prongs or components of the flexibility initiative?

Anne Donovan
Well we started our work. We started at the top. Got our partners all understanding the business case for it, all understanding that if we wanted to keep this entire new generation of worker, we had to really completely turn the environment on its head.

It all was based on trust, first set of rules was you didn’t have to earn flexibility. You walked in the door earning flexibility. Everyone is trusted with the work that they’re set out to do. You don’t have to have face time to earn your stripes.

We’ve got all the technology in the world. You can do it sort of whenever, wherever, however. I say however, we have all of our standards, etcetera, but what I mean is you don’t have to sit next to the guy to get your work down.

Now, that doesn’t mean that every single day we’ve got people working all over and wherever they want. But it means that in general if you’ve got to go leave tomorrow at 3 o’clock and our people work hard, but if you’ve got to go leave at 3 o’clock and you’re going to come back online at 7 o’clock to make your life work.

By the way, making your life work doesn’t mean you have to have a doctor’s appointment. It means I’m going to go play softball. We were very careful about that, Pete, because we don’t – it doesn’t have to be an emergency.

It doesn’t also have to be childcare. It doesn’t have to stuff that’s another job, that’s another thing to do. It can be because I want to do this thing that’s fun. I want to go audition. We were very careful to make sure that people understood that. It’s because you want to have life. We were very explicit about that.

We just started talking about it. We started making the leaders and the partners and the managers understand that that was how it was going to be from here on out. It really did take us three – four – five years to get the culture sort of inculcated with these messages, but we’ve done it.

I will tell you, flexibility is on every single person’s lips in the firm. You do not have to ask for it. You do not have to apply for it. You don’t have to plan for it. It’s just there.

I work from home. I don’t – I don’t hide it. My dog barks in the background. I don’t care. It’s where I am. I get on video. I’ve got bed hair. It doesn’t matter. It’s just the way it is. I’m so, so proud of it. It’s just fantastic because it’s who we are. We trust each other. We don’t have to slap on a uniform to get the job done.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s really cool. I’m curious to hear during that kind of transition time, were there some key kind of rocky moments or rocky obstacles or leaders who weren’t on board or abusers of flexibility? How did that emerge?

Anne Donovan
Actually we had less abusers than we had leaders who weren’t on board. We definitely had guys and gals who took a long time to come around. But that’s just – that’s the way life is. Change is hard.

It just took – it really took our leaders at the top, our senior partner was all about it and he pushed us hard to – he made every day a flex day. We actually changed our time reporting system that you didn’t have to report time every day. He pushed us hard to really change processes and procedures and to just push the firm to make things happen.

Eventually – I suppose there’s some pockets out there where we’ve still got holdouts, but they’re pretty few and far between. I will tell you, we have not had a – we have not had abusers.

I now speak too in front of groups frequently and I speak to clients who are interested in what we’ve done. We get asked about what policies we put in place and what are the written rules. I’ll tell you, we were lucky. We did not put policies in place. We did not put written rules in place. Like I said, you don’t have to apply for anything. It’s all based on trust.

Now, we are lucky, Pete, we don’t – these are all salaried employees, so we don’t have a lot of wage and hour laws and things like that. We don’t have union workers because we’re a salaried group of people. We didn’t have a lot of those kinds of things to worry about in our work environment.

But we really – we didn’t deal with a lot of rules. We left people up to their own devices and we let groups of people out there on client engagements make their own rules and make it work for themselves and just hit their own deadlines. It magically worked very, very well.

Karlo, I will ask you to hold me accountable if that was not true on the ground, in the field.

Karlo Siriban
No, I think definitely the adoption took a while. You are absolutely spot on. But yeah, at this point, you’re right. It is on everybody’s lips. It’s on everybody’s mind. It holds true.

Pete Mockaitis
I want to hear a little bit more about – so previously there was a policy or rule to report time every day. What’s the new situation with regard to time reporting?

Anne Donovan
The new situation is you report your time in a week. As long as – if you’re a 40-hour worker, and most of us obviously report way more than 40 hours, you just have to cover your 40 hours some time over the week.

If you happen to cover those 40 hours in a two-day timeframe, the other three days don’t have to show the 40 hours. In other words, you can flex your time however it flexes for you. It used to be that you had to show how you covered those hours in five-days’ time so that you had to account for where you were. Now it just doesn’t matter. It’s just flexibility.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, that’s great.

Anne Donovan
I know. It’s really cool.

Pete Mockaitis
You said many are reporting more than 40 hours.

Anne Donovan
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
What’s kind of the – I know, hey accounting, right? Folks can get fixated on numbers.

Anne Donovan
Yes.

Pete Mockaitis
Is there a sense – maybe either of you can tackle this one in terms of a number of hours that is good or too few versus too many or is it just kind of like, “Hey, it’s different every week and we’re all good with that?”

Anne Donovan
It is different every week. In general I would say most of our employees work more than 40 hours a week. It’s just how we run.

But if you’ve got weeks that aren’t as busy, certainly we want you to work 40 hours. That’s – we want people to take advantage of times that aren’t as busy knowing that if you’re working on a deal and you’re an advisory or if it’s busy season and you’re in auditor or tax, insurance or tax, you’re certainly going to work more that. It’s kind of an up and down business.

Pete Mockaitis
Sure. For the non-intense weeks are you still shooting for a 40 hour minimum?

Anne Donovan
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
Or it’s kind of like, “Hey, last week was 70, so this week 20 is cool?”

Anne Donovan
No, I think we in general shoot for the 40.

Pete Mockaitis
Got you. I’m with you there. I’m curious to hear any other kind of pro tips or best practices if you say your clients are starting to ask, “Hey, how’d you pull this off?” in terms of having success with this kind of a shift or intervention.

Anne Donovan
Well, I just think that I have not met a group of workers and I’ve not met a client group that was not interested in this topic.

I think and I say this to these groups, if you can figure out a way to bring this to your organization, it’s really important. It is free to offer your employees. Again, if you can bring this into your workplace and you’ve got the kind of workforce that makes it easy. Again, not dealing with hourly employees or employees that clock in, I recommend it because it is free to offer and it means a lot.

Giving your employees the freedom to have some kind of flexibility in their work day, it really – it hits home. It’s a home run. Again, it doesn’t cost money to do it.

I will tell you, we took flexibility to the next level when we introduced flexibility of dress. We have what we call dress for your day now at PWC. That includes jeans. We just got rid of that whole concept of sort of the uniform. In all of our PWC offices we’re a jeans firm now.

We’ve always been a you’ve got to dress like your client. When we’re out at a – we-wear-suits clients, then we have to wear suits. But when we’re in our offices, we wear jeans too. That was a big home run with our staff as well.

Because, again, whatever kind of breath of fresh air you can bring to your staff, why not do it? Again, a freebie. We can bring it and make our staff happy, so we did it. We’ve kind of brought that in under the flexibility umbrella as well.

Just trying to – life is kind of hard enough, work is kind of hard enough, anything you can bring in that just breathes some air into the place, that’s what we’re trying to do.

Pete Mockaitis
Absolutely. Can you share a little bit from all of these efforts, are you seeing – what’s the lift looking like in terms of before/after attrition or retention rates?

Anne Donovan
We’ve got really – we’ve had some really good impact on our retention. That’s one of our – both our retention and our engagement scores on our annual survey. For us retention is a big deal. Turnover is very costly in a firm like ours. We’ve had a big hit on our retention rate. We’re seeing actual very nice dollars flow straight to our bottom line, which makes me very happy.

Pete Mockaitis
Excellent. Could you give us a rough sense of what kind of proportion lift you’re talking about here?

Anne Donovan
Yeah, well. Yes. The sort of conventional wisdom is then when someone walks out the door it costs the firm about 100,000 dollars. Every head that stays around is a savings to us and that’s all – that includes all kinds of things: training costs, replacement costs.

When you can keep someone around it saves a lot of money. We have 50,000 people, so when you think about even saving 1% of your people, that’s – on 50,000 people that’s a lot of money.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh certainly. Roughly what extra percentage of your people are you saving as a result of all this?

Anne Donovan
Well, we’ve certainly seen a good – probably – my boss probably wouldn’t want me quoting our retention rates, but I will tell you that we’ve seen some really good savings on retention rates. I better leave it at that.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, then. Well, any final thoughts before we shift gears to hear about some of your favorite things?

Anne Donovan
No, again, I just – I think we’re afraid – we’re afraid of change. We as leaders think that these kinds of changes are going to wreak havoc because we’re going to see abuse in the system.

I guess my advice to leaders is that I think you’ll see less abuse then you think you’re going to see. I would take the leap on something like flexibility because I think you’ll see much more benefit than you’ll see abuse. I guess that’s my big piece of advice.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh cool. Thank you. Well, now Anne or Karlo, whoever’s feeling it in the moment. Let’s hear about some of your favorite things. Is there a favorite quote, something you find inspiring?

Anne Donovan
Karlo, I’ll let you go first.

Karlo Siriban
The quote I always say is, it’s a Rolling Stone quote, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need.”

Pete Mockaitis
Awesome.

Anne Donovan
Oh, I love that, Karlo. It’s so much hipper than anything I was going to come up with.

Mine’s not a quote. I just try every single day to remember what I’m grateful for because I think we can get caught up in how hard life is.

I really – before my feet hit the ground in the morning, I don’t let myself get out of bed before I remember the things for which I am very, very grateful. However small those things might be, that might be my wonderful soft pillow, but I have a lot to be grateful for and I just really, really try to live in that gratitude.

Pete Mockaitis
Awesome. How about a favorite study or experiment or a bit of research?

Anne Donovan
Oh my gosh, mine is the Millennial study. I’m happy that is a public report. I’m happy, Pete, to make that available if anyone wants to take a look at it.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, yes, please. We’d love to link to that.

Pete Mockaitis
Fair enough, fair enough. How about a favorite book?

Anne Donovan
Mine is Maya Angelou, Why the Caged Bird Sings.

Karlo Siriban
Mine is How to Be Black by Baratunde Thurston.

Pete Mockaitis
I met him at a book signing and I have a signed copy of How to Be Black on my shelf.

Karlo Siriban
Really?

Pete Mockaitis
I did, yes.

Karlo Siriban:
Oh you lucky duck.

Pete Mockaitis
He’s good friends with my buddy, Mawi, who was episode number one. Small world. He’s a funny guy. He deliberately said the opposite of what I asked him to say in the inscription. I said something like, “Can you say that I’m tough or a baller.” I don’t remember what I asked for, but he said, “You are so not a baller.”

Anne Donovan
I love it.

Pete Mockaitis
I guess I have to get rid of this book now. Very good.

Anne Donovan
I love it.

Pete Mockaitis
How about a favorite tool, something that helps you be awesome at your job?

Anne Donovan
My phone. I can’t live without it. My phone, which I look at every day for everything.

Karlo Siriban
Mine is my new ergonomic mouse.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, tell us all about it. What is it? Where can I buy it?

Karlo Siriban
I got it off of Amazon. Without plugging too hard, it’s an Anchor mouse. It turns your wrist so it’s like you’re shaking a hand.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh, right. Yes.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
Very cool.

Karlo Siriban
My arms feel so much better now.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s a good move. Yeah. Let’s link that too.

Tell us, is there a particular nugget that you find yourself saying often that really connects and resonates with people?

Anne Donovan
Breathe. Just breathe everybody.

Karlo Siriban
Yeah.

Anne Donovan
Oh I actually – no, I shouldn’t say this on the air. I have three staff and they are all women. They all happen to be women. I have two grown kids. I have 21-year-old twins.

Every time my kids irritate me I always type to these gals in text #don’thavekids. These three women all have young babies at home so that’s our team motto #don’thavekids. We always laugh at each other #don’thavekids. That’s our motto – team motto to all of us who have a bunch of kids.

Pete Mockaitis
It’s too late I have a five-month-old.

Anne Donovan
Oh my gosh, Pete, I’m going to put you on our Twitter – on our tweet #don’thavekids there you go.

Pete Mockaitis
I’m honored. Thank you.

Karlo Siriban
I have one from my grandfather. He always says “ayos lang” which is Tagalog. It’s the Filipino language. It just means it’s going to be okay.

Anne Donovan
Lovely.

Pete Mockaitis
Cool. Thank you.

Anne Donovan
Lovely.

Pete Mockaitis
Karlo, Anne if folks want to get in touch or learn more, where would you point them?

Karlo Siriban
Anne, I leave that to you.

Anne Donovan
Well, follow me on Twitter because I’m always tweeting about staff that we’re finding interesting. I’m going to send the study, Pete, so I’d like you to take a look at that.

I just think keep plugging away on the flexibility stuff. I guess that’s it. I think you’ve got to keep trying and ask for what you want people. Ask for what you want in your workplace because you have to be happy at work.

Pete Mockaitis
Karlo, any final thoughts in terms of a challenge or call to action?

Karlo Siriban
I challenge everyone to be more mindful of everything outside of work and outside of the things that stress you. You’re a whole person; treat yourself like a whole person.

Pete Mockaitis
Beautiful. Well, Karlo, Anne, this has been a whole lot of fun. Kudos for the good work that’s producing good results for people and profits. Keep it up.

Karlo Siriban
Thank you.

Anne Donovan
Yay, thank you for the opportunity.

Karlo Siriban
Had a great time.

306: Taking Care of Your Brain With Dr. Mike Dow

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Dr. Mike Dow says: "It's just really incredible that these... natural strategies are maybe really potent medicine."

Dr. Mike Dow speaks on how to keep your brain healthy and continuously improve its functionality.

You’ll Learn:

  1. Key foods that keep your brain healthy
  2. The types and benefits of different Omega-3s
  3. How and why to practice mindfulness every day

About Mike

Dr. Mike Dow is a psychotherapist, bestselling author, brain health expert and television personality. Inspired by his brother who suffered a massive stroke when he was just 10 years old, Dr. Mike made it his personal mission to help others in their quest for health and happiness. In his new book,

Heal Your Drained Brain: Naturally Relieve Anxiety, Combat Insomnia, and Balance Your Brain in Just 14 Days (Hay House), he shares information, actionable steps and guidance to naturally relieve anxiety, combat insomnia, and balance your brain in just 14 days. Dr. Mike has hosted series on TLC, E!, VH1 and Investigation Discovery. He is a recurring guest co-host on The Doctors, one of The Dr. Oz Show core experts and makes regular appearances on Today, Good Morning America, Rachael Ray, The Talk and more. Dr. Mike holds a Master of Science degree in marriage and family therapy and a doctorate in psychology. Other bestselling books include The Brain Fog Fix and Healing the Broken Brain.

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Pete Mockaitis
Dr. Mike, thanks so much for joining us here on the How to be Awesome at Your Job podcast.

Michael Dow
Thank you so much for having me.

Pete Mockaitis
I’d love to get started a little bit – normally we have sort of a fun opener, but your opener is kind of intense. You’ve got a tale of how your brother had a stroke at a young age that really shaped your whole path. Can you share a little bit of that with us?

Michael Dow
Yeah, so when my brother was just ten years old, he had a massive stroke. One doctor told us that his stroke was just too massive, the damage in his brain was just too bad, that we should just put him in a nursing home for the rest of his life, that physical and speech therapy probably wouldn’t help enough.

I saw what you can do if you use your brain in the right way, if you challenge yourself. Today, I can tell you that my brother – he still can’t use his right arm – but my brother is living a happy, independent life. He travels, he drives, he walks, he runs, all the things that people told us – one naysaying doctor told us that it would be literally medically impossible.

My brother did some of the things that I recommend in Heal Your Drained Brain and also my other books, like The Brain Fog Fix and that the book that my brother and I – my brother is also, by the way, now a published author because we wrote a book about stroke recovery, Healing the Broken Brain, omega-3 super foods, high doses of omega-3’s, challenging your brain each and every day in your work, in what you do.

You have the power to rewire, to work your brain each and every single day in novel and challenging experiences. That’s why I became a brain health expert because I saw what you can do in the little, the mundane, the challenges, in the spreadsheets, in speech therapy.

But it’s not just these formal therapy modalities; it’s what you do at your Mac, in front of your – in that Excel document, in challenging, in rewiring the brain. It’s kind of cool.

Pete Mockaitis
There’s already so much I want to follow up on here. I’m an Excel enthusiast myself. I have fallen off the train of taking my morning fish oil. Let’s maybe just very quickly touch on these before we lose the moment. Omega-3’s are a big deal, huh?

Michael Dow
They’re huge. Most Americans aren’t getting enough omega-3’s. There are two types of omega-3’s that are usable for the brain. In Heal Your Drain Brain, which is my latest book, there are two usable forms. People get really confused and most omega-3’s on the market – I was just having this conversation with a tech enthusiast the other day.

He was like, “Well, I’m just taking an omega-3.” I’m like, “Well, what kind of omega-3?” He’s like, “Well, I’m just going to start taking massive doses.” I’m like, “Well, are you taking a high EPA or are you taking high DHA?” He’s like, “Well, does that matter?” I said, “Well, yeah, it matters because there are different benefits for both.”

In Heal Your Drained Brain I talk about EPA as your stressless omega-3. In The Brain Fog Fix, I called it your feel better omega-3 because EPA is associated with better mood and less stress. If that’s your target – it also helps you to fall asleep because you have less anxiety.

If that’s what you want and that’s your problem, you want to look for an omega-3 supplement that has very, very high levels of the omega-3 EPA and very low levels of the omega-3 DHA. You want like a seven to one ratio. On the back of the bottle, you’d want something that says like EPA, let’s say like, something around like 700 milligrams and something around let’s say like 100 milligrams – or that’s the ballpark because they’re all a little bit different.

But if you want to think better – so in Brain Fog Fix I think I called DHA your think better omega-3 because that book was more about dementia prevention and brain fog. In Heal Your Drained Brain, I called it your sleep soundly omega-3 because DHA does two things. It’s all about cognition. It’s about dementia prevention and it’s about deep sleep.

If you’re somebody who is not sleeping soundly – so EPA helps you to fall asleep if it’s anxiety, but DHA in research helps to improve deep sleep. DHA if that’s what you want, then maybe you want an omega-3 that has higher levels of DHA or maybe you just want like a –

If you want both, then just get one of the vanilla supplements – not a vanilla flavored, but just an everyday omega-3 supplement because most supplements on the market have like a one-to-one ratio of EPA and DHA or a two-to-three ratio or a three to two.

But if you’re specifically targeting one of those targets in mood or cognition that I just mentioned, you may actually want to go higher on one or the other.

Pete Mockaitis
Well, now is the ratio what makes the difference or is it the dosage, that thought from the buddy you mentioned who’s just going to take massive doses, would that give me everything I want? I want better mood. I want better stress. I want to sleep faster and sleep deeper and think better.

Michael Dow
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
… bunch of both, would that do the trick or is the ratio important?

Michael Dow
Yes, yes. That’s a great question. It is both because they compete for space in your cells so that’s why the dose and the ratio matters.
We know from research that if you want the mood benefits, you can’t just take a ton and just think, “Oh, well, I’ll just take a ton of both because then I’ll get both benefits,” because the DHA actually sort of in your brain cells pushes the EPA out.

Then you can take a very, very high EPA dose of – let’s say for anxiety the research shows that you need if you want really potent anti-anxiety effects, you need about 2,000 milligrams of EPA, but you also need a seven-to-one ratio of EPA to DHA.

This is all in my book because I know it’s really confusing to people who are just listening to this really, really quickly. It’s all written down. I know you probably have show notes or something or they can get this transcribed.

It’s about both. It’s about the dosage but also the ratio because they compete for space in your cells. These two omega-3’s can sort of push each other out.

I’m also going to give you one more thing that is going to possibly confuse people and that is if you’re vegan, you’re probably not getting enough DHA because the vegetarian sources of omega-3’s like walnuts and flax seed convert to EPA but hardly any of that converts into DHA. You’re probably not getting DHA at all. The way to remedy that is to take a plant-based, algae-based DHA supplement.

I coined a phrase because it’s sort of my dietary philosophy that I preach in my books, it’s what I follow. I follow a Keto-Terranean diet, which is a Ketogenic plus Mediterranean, so Keto-Terranean.

The Mediterranean is the best diet for brain health, but I do a little bit of intermittent fasting and lower carb principle, so it’s Keto-Terranean. If you sort of put those two philosophies together or if you’re vegan, I would do a Kegan, sort of a Mediterranean but also a lower carb, sort of a Kegan diet.

Americans are really all or nothing thinkers. We get really obsessed with one thing and we use a lot of black or white thinking.

We get obsessed with like one thing and we do that, like it’s all Atkins all the time. Then okay, we’re going to throw that out the window. Now it’s all vegan all the time. There’s all of these different strategies make sense, but we kind of have to take a little bit of everything. We have to use a little grey area thinking.

This is very true for work too because I think there’s a lot of people out there who say, “Oh, just quit your job and just follow your dreams,” Well, yeah, but I also have to pay the rent and feed my children and have health insurance.

I think we have to sort of click all the boxes, which is why I was really excited to be on this podcast because I know that’s what you really talk to your listeners about. It’s how to click all the boxes at the same time, right?

Pete Mockaitis
Cool. Yes, thank you. Boy, we just went deep right away in terms of the EPA and DHA and all that.

But maybe could you paint a little bit of a picture in terms of just how much of a difference does this stuff make? Is it like I’ll be able to think 10% clearer or it’s like night and day, my cognition is transformed because of omega-3’s?

Michael Dow
You will feel a difference. There are some things – in Heal Your Drained Brain, some of the things you’re going to feel right away, some of the practices, some of the tools and tips and tricks and hacks that I give you, some of them are in the moment, here’s a little hack.

I just talked about identifying when polarized thinking shows up in your life. Let’s say you’re at work and you see some YouTube video and you’re like, “Yeah, I need to follow my dreams and quit my job,” and you realize, “Oh my God, that’s black and white thinking and I need to nip that in the bud.”

I need to realize how maybe I can – a great example is how can I use grey area thinking and have a side hustle and build my side hustle until that is generating enough income so that I can – when I left – I used to work for the Department of Mental Health in LA.

I heard this quote that I loved and it was, “Sometimes you have to jump and build your wings on the way down,” but I didn’t jump until – I was building a private practice while I was working for the Department of Mental Health.

For me, to just jump – I would say I did jump, but I had a soft landing. For me to jump and leave the department of Mental Health and leave my health care plan and all that would have been really sort of, it would have been sort of foolish. But I also believe in people following their dreams.

Then I jumped from private practice into writing books. I help people to follow their dreams all the time. But if you have three kids, I’m not going to tell somebody to quit their job with nothing built. I’m going to help you to sort of create stepping stones. Oh gosh, I digress.

Pete Mockaitis
Sure thing. I was just wondering, how substantial is the impact of some of these interventions?

Michael Dow
Yes, thank you.

Pete Mockaitis
Is omega-3’s the big one to start with?

Michael Dow
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
Or is it the black and white versus grey thinking-?

Michael Dow
Yes, thank you.

Pete Mockaitis
-that will give you the most bang for your buck?

Michael Dow
Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
I’d love to hear some hard-hitting numbers from the research and like, “Holy smokes, if I do this, I can see that.”

Michael Dow
Yeah, thank you. Omega-3’s – and I have a chapter in Heal Your Drained Brain about – I call probiotics the new Paxil. Both omega-3 dosing and just simply eating a probiotic and combining that with a prebiotic, like the prebiotic fiber in a banana or onions. By the way, Heal Your Drained Brain also has recipes in the appendix that helps you to do that.

We know from research – there was a really groundbreaking study at UCLA that had people – and this was not placebo effect. What they did to make sure it wasn’t placebo effect, they gave women in one group a dairy product that contained probiotics, so like yogurt that had those good gut bacteria and then they gave another group a dairy product, but they sort of took out the probiotics.

After a month, they scanned their brains and they assessed for their anxiety and they found that the women who consumed one – dairy products, like something as simple as drinking kefir. I say kefir. Some people pronounce it the fancy way, but-

Pete Mockaitis
Like Keifer Sutherland?

Michael Dow
Yeah, exactly.

Pete Mockaitis
Drinking Jack Bauer.

Michael Dow
Yeah, exactly. But just doing that will help to decrease your anxiety after 30 days in this research and they saw the changes in brain scans.

Similarly, omega-3’s after 30 days there was this research in Canada.

There are some people who need prescription medication. I’m not going to tell somebody who’s diagnosed with bipolar one disorder or schizophrenia to manage their symptoms with nutrition and exercise. I’m not going to do that. But most Americans are getting prescription anti-depressants from their primary care physician.

Here’s a study that came out of Canada. They gave people diagnosed with major depressive disorders, so we’re not talking about, “Oh, I just feel a little blue,” and they gave half of them the high EPA omega-3 that we started on. They gave the other half a prescription SSRI.

Pete Mockaitis
A selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor?

Michael Dow
Yes.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, we’re on the same page.

Michael Dow
So all these really popular medications, Paxil, Prozac, Celexa, Lexapro, all these medications that are so popular with Americans. They found that the high EPA, so it has to be that seven-to-one ratio that we talked about, was as effective in treating major depressive disorder as the prescription SSRI anti-depressant.

That to me is groundbreaking, like what. Why are so many Americans still taking these anti-depressants that cause weight gain, sexual side effects, emotional blunting.

There was also another study I believe that was out of Australia that was just published in the past year that found that the Mediterranean diet, of course I modify it as the Keto-Terranean diet with a little bit of lower carb intermittent fasting thrown in, not just prevented, but treated, was effective in treating major depressive disorder.

Are Americans, are they trying diet? Are they trying omega-3’s before they’re trying Paxil and Lexapro. Are they trying probiotics? Because listen, probiotics manufacture – there are different strains that manufacture GABA, serotonin in your gut. Those are the same two neurotransmitters that are manufactured by Xanax and Paxil.

To me it’s just – for lack of a better word, it’s crazy that we’re taking so many medications, which is why the subtitle in my book is – the word natural is in there because my book is chockfull of natural approaches to treating anxiety disorders, which are by the way, twice as common as depression.

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in America. Not shocking because Americans are more stressed out than ever.

Pete Mockaitis
Intriguing. Well then that’s the anxiety side of things. Can you give us a perspective for when you’re talking about healing your brain drain, what are sort of the primary culprits of our brains getting drained in the first place and some of the other kind of really high leverage intervention?

It sounds like bad diet is big, but maybe could we get a little bit more precise, like these are some foods that are really troublesome.

Michael Dow
Yeah, well sugar shrinks your brain.

Pete Mockaitis
There you go.

Michael Dow
Here’s the thing.

Pete Mockaitis
Shrinks your brain.

Michael Dow
This is crazy. It shrinks a part of the brain, the hippocampus that makes you more resilient to deal with stress in the long term. It’s sort of a vicious cycle because the crazy thing is that when you are stressed out, you are more likely to crave sugar and flour and then you eat the sugar –

Okay, so let me – you’re sitting at your desk and you have an awful co-worker who gets on your nerves.

Pete Mockaitis
She’s the worst.

Michael Dow
And you have a boss. She is the worst. Then your boss calls you in for this meeting. You have this deadline and your kid is texting you or mom is texting you. You have stuff going on. It’s called life. Then what do you want to do? You want to reach for that bag of chips or you want to reach for that candy bar, whatever – that blood sugar spiking junk food.

Repeatedly – and listen, we all have our little cheats. My cheat food is macaroni and cheese. But what repeatedly when we spike our blood sugar with sugar, flour, soda, you name it, these junk food coffee beverages, so we put skim milk, high-sugar skim milk in our coffee or these sugar coffee beverages that have like 400 calories.

We shrink that part of our brain that in the long term helps us to remain resilient, so now we’re less likely to deal with stress and now we need more sugar and flour and pasta to deal with the stress and the cycle goes on and on and on.

I think the thing that really helps is cognitive behavioral therapy. I think in 2018 people are less likely to go therapy once a week just because we’re busier than ever and we have so many balls up in the air.

Listen, I have a private practice and I think people need it more than ever, but if you can’t go this week to your therapist, I think we need to realize that the way we interpret the events in our life, affects the way our brains are going to release what I call our three brain draining stress hormones, which are adrenaline, norepinephrine and cortisol.

I showed this on The Rachael Ray Show. I showed my graph. You want your cortisol levels – cortisol levels in general, we want them to be low, but we also want them to rise 50% when we wake up. That’s called the cortisol awakening response.

In a healthy brain, that stress hormone cortisol should rise 50%. That helps to wake you up. Then cortisol levels should slowly go down throughout the day.

For example, we can use high levels of vitamin C to bring down very generally high levels of cortisol and just one of the – I have hundreds of interventions in my book, but if the cortisol is not rising and falling at the appropriate time of day, we can use – there’s a chapter in my book, cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia or CBTI, we adjust your circadian rhythms because there is an inverse relationship.

Cortisol rises when melatonin falls and vice versa. At night, when cortisol is falling, melatonin is supposed to be rising. Let me give you an example. It’s 10 PM and – so what are you doing at – let me ask you a question. What are you doing at 10 PM? Have you ever been doing something that you’re not supposed to be doing at night? Watching TV or checking your iPhone for emails?

Pete Mockaitis
I’m usually asleep, but it does happen sometimes Netflix, etcetera, 10 PM.

Michael Dow
Yup, I’m guilty.

Pete Mockaitis
With … of course, but still Netflix.

Michael Dow
I’m guilty of that as well. Netflix is bad, but checking your phone is even worse. If we’re checking our phone and a work email pops in. Americans are guilty of this.

We’re going to wear our work polo’s everywhere we go. We’re going to email – they’re going to email you at 11 PM and they’re going to expect you to work on a clock. That’s a cultural thing.

What happens when you get that email from your boss at 11 PM, your cortisol levels rise when they should be falling. Number two, the blue light from electronics sends a signal to the pineal gland in your brain to suppress melatonin production, so melatonin goes down when it should be going up.

Which means that you can’t fall asleep, which means that your circadian rhythms are off, which means that you have insomnia, which means that the next day when you go to work and you’re groggy, you’re much more likely to experience high levels of stress and anxiety and then the cycle, and then you’re more likely to drink a lot of caffeine, and then you’re less likely to fall asleep the next day.

You just feel cranky. Then the cycle gets worse and worse and worse.

When we can test for this with a simple saliva test, it gives us a little snapshot. I recommend that people test – because it is a one-day test, test it on a normal day. Like if you sleep terribly the night before and you have a kid and your kid didn’t sleep the night before, don’t test on that day. Test your saliva on a normal day, so we get a good snapshot of your cortisol levels.

But I think it’s really interesting that so many of these strategies are so natural so that people don’t have to rely so much on Xanax and Ambien and anti-depressants and we can rely more on probiotics and vitamin C and vitamin B rich foods. I’m obsessed with B vitamins and foliate and vitamin B 12 because they’re just so incredible for the brain.

Pete Mockaitis
Very cool. So given all of these potential levers, I’d love to get your take. If you’re a professional and if your brain is drained, and tired, and stressed, and stressed and not creative as a result of all these things, what would be sort of your top three, okay, this is easy and if you do it, you’ll feel a huge difference recommendations?

Michael Dow
Yeah, I think changing your diets is number one.

Pete Mockaitis
Less sugar.

Michael Dow
Less sugar. Well, can I give you my top three diet and then two others?

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, let’s do it.

Michael Dow
My top three diet recommendations because diet is – it’s just the most important thing we do. Less sugar, more omega-3’s and more B vitamins.

Of the B vitamins foliate – so get those – not folic acid. Folic acid is just terrible for you. If you’re supplementing, you want to look for methyl-foliate. Foliate converts to methyl-foliate. You want to get the more expensive form of foliate, so methyl-foliate.

The same thing goes for vitamin B 12. You want to get – you want to look at the back of the label. You want methyl-B 12 or what you can just do is get the natural forms of both by eating lots and lots and what I recommend in my book is seven servings of vegetables and whole fruits a day, lots of dark, leafy greens and remember, drinking fruit juice is like drinking a soda in terms of your blood sugar.

Don’t forget to eat your fruit, so whole fruits. If you want, you can just remember the little phrase, “Eat your fruits, drink your vegetables.” You can also eat your vegetables, but it’s okay, so I love drinking vegetable juice. Of course lemon and lime make a great low calorie – those are the fruits that it’s okay to squeeze lots of great lemon juice to cut that bitter vegetable flavor.

In terms of the three top practices to heal your brain, I love, and this is a chapter in my book, it has a sort of a funny – I actually got to – I don’t know if any of your listeners got to see it. This episode aired recently and hopefully it will replay and people can Google this, but I got to hypnotize Dr. Oz on his show.

Now hypnosis is really fascinating because it moves the brain into fast – from fast beta waves – and if you’re working on that spreadsheet at work, your brain on an EEG would read very fast – it would show very fast beta waves, which are associated with anxiety. Hypnosis moves it into very slow theta brainwaves, which are the brainwaves that you’re in when you’re dreaming.

No surprise, your dreams are usually very creative. Well, guess what? When you’re in hypnosis you tend to be very, very creative.

If you’re trying to solve a problem doing a little self-hypnosis and I have a script in the book that can help you to be really creative. If you are a tech executive or you’re an ad executive or you want to write a chapter in your book and you’re a little stuck, do a little self-hypnosis.

A little anecdote is when Thomas Edison was inventing the light bulb, when he tried to solve a problem, he would hold these ball bearings and he would take a nap. When we fall asleep we pass from beta down into alpha, which is in between, then into theta, then into delta, which is dreamless sleep.

But in order to get from awake to sleep, we pass through theta on our way down into dreamless sleep. At that point our bodies sort of go limp and he would drop the ball bearings and that would wake him up.

He knew that he would be in that creative state and he would then wake up and he would be more creative. We could say that that theta brainwave that you’re in during hypnosis helped Thomas Edison to invent the light bulb. Isn’t that cool?

Pete Mockaitis
Yeah, that is cool. I’m curious then, so there’s different brain states. The beta, I suppose, is useful if you were doing sort of the high-alertness, less creativity stuff.

Michael Dow
That’s right. That’s right.

Pete Mockaitis
Is there a way to get to there quickly if that’s what the situation calls for?

Michael Dow
Yeah, there is. You can put your – if you’re in a shared work space environment, if you’re working at a WeWork or a space like that, if you’re in one of these tech offices with no doors and no one has offices, you can put your Bose noise-cancelling headphones and you can put on hard rock music or any sort of like really fast music.

If you want to slow the brain down, you can put on really slow classical music. Because really slow heavy metal will help the brain go into a beta wave state. Or you can just think about something really stressful, but I don’t recommend that because sometimes those brainwaves are hard to get out of and you’re probably also going to release a lot of adrenaline and cortisol, which is not only cardio toxic, but also depresses your immune system.

But listen, beta brainwaves are great in small bursts and for shorts amount of time. They can be really helpful while you are trying to stay really focused.

What’s also interesting is that patients diagnosed with ADHD have too many theta brainwaves and not enough beta and patients with anxiety disorders have too much beta and not enough theta, which makes sense, right? If you’re brain is too fast, you’re anxious. If your brain is too slow, you have inattentive ADHD.

Pete Mockaitis
Can you give us the one-minute version of how does one do a self-hypnosis?

Michael Dow
Yeah, so the one-minute version is take yourself to a relaxed state. Imagine in your mind’s eye you’re going down an elevator from the tenth floor down to the first floor. See yourself in a really happy, peaceful place. Then see yourself solving whatever creative problem you need to solve.

Then once you have that answer, take yourself back up that elevator and then crack that computer code or that ad sale that you need to solve or that new chapter in your book.

Pete Mockaitis
Okay, good. So we’ve got the diet. We’ve got the self-hypnosis. What else?

Michael Dow
Mindfulness. I’m going to give your listeners a mindfulness hack. Some people think they have to go to some really fancy yoga meditation studio and pay 26 dollars. But the way, I love these new meditation studios and I love meditation apps.

But if you want to do something and you’re really busy just the next shower that you take, make that your meditation because all you have to do to be mindful and I have a little section on mindfulness in the book, is mindfulness is simply paying attention on purpose to the present moment.

We all, hopefully all your listeners shower, so all you have to do is pay attention to the smell of your soap or your shampoo and you have to pay attention to the temperature of the water on your skin and all of the skin receptors telling you that the skin is feeling the water running down the back of your neck. That’s sort of a shower meditation.

If you don’t have any extra time to take the L train into the city and to the yoga studio, then you can just take a five-minute shower, which hopefully you’re going to do anyway and you can make that into a meditation.

Then you can take a walk. You probably have to walk from your car or from the train into your office building and you can make that your meditation. You can put down your phone and turn your ringer off and on your lunch hour today. You can take a mindful walk. That will allow your brain to unplug.

A little hack, remember that – listen, I’m not somebody who – I’m a little bit of a hippy. I believe that we should choose natural strategies whenever we can, but I also love my iPhone and I love apps. But the electric signals are not great for our brain.

Instead of just turning your ringer off, what I recommend is give yourself a 20-minute practice over work and put your plane on airplane mode, turn of the Wi-Fi, turn off the towers because then your body is not getting all that radiation, the electrical signals and you’ll get a little break.

Take a 20-minute walk that will help you to actually be even more mindful. You can actually stop checking Instagram and you can just take a walk around the park and be mindful for those 20 minutes. It will just really change your brain and actually thicken the most human part of your brain, which is your prefrontal cortex, which is kind of cool.

Pete Mockaitis
When you say mindful, part of it is not looking at technology. What else makes a walk mindful?

Michael Dow
It’s simply using your five senses. Pay attention to three things that you see, two things that you can hear, one thing that you can taste, maybe another thing that you can smell. Maybe there’s even a taste landing on your tongue. Just pay attention to those five senses.

Those five senses that you are perceiving in the only moment when your life is unfolding, which is right here and right now as you’re walking will suck you into that present moment.

Pete Mockaitis
Lovely, thank you. Tell me, anything else you want to make sure to cover before we shift gears and hear a few of your favorite things?

Michael Dow
Yeah, I think just the power of relationships and connections. Whether or not you’re in a relationship, just remember – I’m actually doing this interview with you and Rocco is on my lap and I’m actually – he’s very high maintenance, so I actually prevent him from barking when I’m doing podcast interviews from home by petting him.

Oxytocin is an incredible – in Heal Your Drained Brain, I have those three brain draining stress hormones, which I already mentioned, but I also have the brain balancers. Those are the feel-good neurotransmitters, which include GABA, serotonin, and also oxytocin and some others that I mentioned in the book.

Remember that connection is potent. Whether or not you’re in a relationship, there are many ways you can release feel-good neurotransmitters. I’m releasing oxytocin just by petting Rocco right now, my little rescue – my tough guy who I rescued from South Central LA. It’s just – it’s amazing there are natural strategies we can use each and every moment.

Pete Mockaitis
Oh absolutely, it’s so exciting the stuff with oxytocin. We had Paul Zak, a big researcher in the field back in episode 124 and it’s so huge.

I’m curious when it comes to say petting the dog, is there a certain dosage. Like if I were to take a break and hang out with my precious baby Jonathan, just how much touch kind of releases a dose?

Michael Dow
Well, I would say the more the better. I don’t have a dose specific. I should measure that.

Because when it comes to the brain and also anxiety disorders, one of the pieces of research that I was most excited that I had to put in my book was the fact that intranasal oxytocin given to people who went through a trauma actually prevented them from developing post-traumatic stress disorder.

It’s just really incredible that these so-called hippy airy fairy quote natural strategies are maybe really potent medicine. I can’t – I’m just so excited about them. I have to – it’s why I was so called to write this book because I think people just need to know how incredibly potent and powerful they really are.

Pete Mockaitis
That’s great. Now can you share with us a favorite quote, something you find inspiring?

Michael Dow
Yeah, I think it really was that quote, “Sometimes you have to jump and build your wings on the way down,” but the other quote that I really love that helped me was that, “It’s that intersection where preparation meets opportunity.”

I think that’s so true for all of us. I think the success that I’ve had in my career – this is really interesting. My first book was published by Penguin. It was a huge failure.

Then I’m now about to publish my – I just published Heal Your Drained Brain, which was my fourth book. This fall I’m releasing – I’m writing the next Chicken Soup for the Soul. It’s called Think, Act & Be Happy, which is my fifth book.

What’s so crazy, after my first book was – I got a very sizeable advance and it was a very huge bomb. Then my second book was – I had to take – it was very hard for any – my lit agent said, “Mike, it’s going to be really hard for me to get any publisher to take a chance on you after the huge disaster that was your first book, but I’ll try.”

We went directly – the first book we did like bidding war and all that nonsense. I – she said, “Who-“ even that first time around there was one publisher that I really loved. The second time around I said, “I really want to be a Hay House author,” so we went directly to Hay House.

We didn’t do the bidding war thing. I just took a small advance relatively speaking. It wasn’t like 10 dollars or anything like that and I was very, very grateful for the advance that they gave me and that book became a New York Times bestseller.

It’s crazy when preparation meets opportunity. I feel like everything in my life now looking back sort of makes sense. You just have to be ready and you have to look at the failures, the so-called failures, I guess, to me I have reframed as learning opportunities.

I’ve learned – I think I’ve – I’ve definitely learned as much or I guess probably more from my failures as I’ve learned from my success. That’s kind of cool. Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
All right. How about a favorite book?

Michael Dow
The Alchemist. I think as a – looking at my own neurochemistry, I’m an explorer. I’m an ENFJ. I like the way dopamine feels in my brain.

I have a chapter in my book in Heal Your Drained Brain that helps people to really understand their neurochemistry and their personality type. Just giving you an example, people who are like me, if you are a sensation seeker, you’re more likely to be diagnosed with addiction, but less likely to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.

The opposite, the converse is true if you’re an introvert or a sensation avoider. That sort of makes sense. I think it helps people to understand the intersection between sort of your genetics and epigenetics and sort of this whole nature and nurture question.

For me, The Alchemist really helps to keep me – for me The Alchemist is sort of – it’s this story of this seeker who like has to like seek, go around the world, but then he sort of realizes that everything was sort of here all along. That’s for me as an explorer and a sensation-seeker, that’s a message that really grounds me because as somebody who really my brain chemicals are really the way dopamine feels.

My only problem with that is sometimes I can just never be happy with what I – not that I’m not happy with what I have, but I can – I sometimes have to realize I can just want more and more and more.

I have to also realize that – I’m the kind of person who gets really excited about things, so I could literally try to write like 18 books a year. I have to realize that the book that I’m writing now is the book that I’m meant to keep my focus on and I can’t get distracted and write 18 books because I have to focus on this book because this book is important too. Yeah.

Pete Mockaitis
How about a favorite tool?

Michael Dow
Yeah, I think for me I’m just generally obsessed with apps in general. I love workout apps and I love all apps these days. I think Uber was the first app that sort of like landed on the general public’s sort of – on the public stage and was sort of like first app that your grandmother has heard of.

But for me now, I love Audible. Audible has allowed me to read, or listen to I guess you would say, a new book a week. It has allowed me – every time we challenge our brain, we’re forming new neurons.

Before it was – a car ride was just music. I love music. Music is great. Music is good for your brain in a different way, but for me to hear a book without advertising and I’m challenging my brain and learning something new, I can increase my productivity with the time that I already have and I don’t have to carve out any new time. My time is so limited. That app has allowed me to take the time that I have.

Also workout apps have allowed me – I love – I have ClassPass, so I can take – instead of belonging – I used to belong to all these different classes, but it’s like okay, well they have classes at 12 and 4 and 6, but if I have a call and that conference call goes over and then I have to be in my private practice and I need to treat these people at this time or I’m doing a talk show and it goes over.

Well, I can either look at ClassPass and find a class that starts an hour later or I now can go on my phone and do a workout at a gym and still have a trainer talking to me and music playing in my ear so I can still get a great workout anytime I want. I think apps have really sort of helped me to grow my own brain in really cool ways.

Pete Mockaitis
Beautiful. Is there a particular nugget that you share that really seems to connect and resonate and get quoted frequently?

Michael Dow
Yeah, use it or lose it. It’s sort of for stroke survivors and for people that’s a brain health little nugget but I think it’s not just for people who are recovering from a stroke. I think all of us need to realize that all of us have a brain.

Listen, we all have brains that are actually, and listen, of course we talked about this, if we are eating sugar, we’re actually doing this more rapidly, but if you are an adult, your brain is actually shrinking a little bit just with age every year, but if you are exercising, if you are consuming a lot of omega-3’s and B vitamins, you can prevent your brain – and learning new things.

There’s something really cool, we’re talking about – there’s all this new research on stem cells, but guess what? Stem cells are already here and you don’t have to go to a university hospital. There’s this really cool stuff, BDNF, Brain Drive Neurotropic Factor.

We can boost this through the power of exercise, omega-3’s, all of these cool things that we know help to increase neurogenesis, the birth of new brain cells. We do it with our everyday tasks.

I always go back to this nugget of use it or lose it when it comes to the brain, but I’m going to – I take it one step further which is use it and improve it. We always have to look at the brain, which is our most important organ and always be looking for opportunities to use it and improve it because yes, –

When my brother had a stroke 20 years ago, my brother is now in his 30’s, they thought that neurogenesis was something that didn’t happen after you were 18 or in your early 20’s. But we now know that you have the power to make new brain cells throughout your adult life.

Yeah, everything that I recommend in my book is always geared towards use it and improve it, create new brain cells, use exercise, use omega-3’s, use – consume turmeric every day. These – and combine them with – I call them probiotic boosters, these anti-oxidants, make sure you have lots of curry in your diet because they work synergistically.

Coffee, turmeric, they work synergistically with the probiotics and the prebiotics to make sure that your brain is improving every day. It’s just incredible that if we really get on board with these sort of actually new strategies, that we can quote use it and improve it, it being our brain.

Pete Mockaitis
Lovely. If folks want to learn more or get in touch with you, where would you point them?

Michael Dow
I love Facebook. I do a lot of Facebook lives because I love long form. I do a lot of 20-minute videos, like backstage from the doctors and Dr. Oz. I do a lot of stuff on Facebook, so I’ll go to my Facebook page or DrMikeDow.com.

Pete Mockaitis
All right. Do you have a final challenge or call to action you’d issue to folks seeking to be awesome at their jobs?

Michael Dow
Yeah, I would say that to be awesome at your job, use your brain to  – just figure out a way that today you can use that adage of use it and improve it and by doing so you’re probably going to be a little bit more awesome at your job and you’ll probably also be a little happier too.

Pete Mockaitis
Beautiful. Well, Dr. Mike this has been really fun. I wish you so much luck as you continue to spread the good word and heal drained brains and appear on all the cool shows and keep it up.

Michael Dow
Thank you so much. I really appreciate you having me.

Pete Mockaitis
All right, that’s the recording.

Michael Dow
Awesome, Pete.