
Thi Nguyen draws on the philosophy of games to explain how scores and metrics impact our lives—and what we can do to use them more meaningfully.
You’ll Learn
- How metrics can coopt our values and behavior
- The hidden costs of the desire to quantify everything
- Why the wrong people often seem to get ahead
About Thi
Thi Nguyen is associate professor of philosophy at the University of Utah, and a specialist in the philosophy of games, the philosophy of technology, and the theory of value.
A former food writer for the Los Angeles Times, Nguyen is active in public philosophy, writing for The New York Times, The Washington Post, New Statesman, and elsewhere.
- Book: The Score: How to Stop Playing Somebody Else’s Game
- Website: Objectionable.net
- Bluesky: @add-hawk
Resources Mentioned
- Study: The Cultural Evolution of Bad Science by Paul Smaldino and Richard McElrath
- Book: Seeing Like a State: How Certain Schemes to Improve the Human Condition Have Failed (The Institution for Social and Policy St) by James Scott
- Book: Trust and Antitrust: A Philosophical Exploration of Ethics by Annette Baier
- Book: The Grasshopper – Third Edition: Games, Life and Utopia by Bernard Suits
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Thi Nguyen Interview Transcript
Pete Mockaitis
Thi, welcome!
Thi Nguyen
Hello. Hello.
Pete Mockaitis
Well, I am so excited we have a learned philosopher here that, I think, the first time we’ve had a full-blown, legit, credentialed philosopher on the show, and I’m stoked.
Thi Nguyen
I’m sorry, I’m about to under-meet your expectations.
Pete Mockaitis
We’ll see. Well, your book, The Score, I found absolutely riveting, fantastic, plowed through it. And I’ve got one burning question I want to address right away, which was, you mentioned you loved just about every game you’ve played, or rather, more pointedly, the one game you regret playing was the computer game Civilization. What’s the story here?
Thi Nguyen
I think one thing I realized, one of the, actually, origin points about thinking about this, about what kinds of things that we did in our lives are worthwhile and not, is that, I don’t know, I spent a whole summer playing Civilization and I just have this memory of a vague anxiety sweat blur of like nothingness.
And when I think about other times I’ve spent with other games, like everything from rock climbing to Go to like really interesting video games, like, Baba Is You, I have this thick memory of how many interesting things happened, how many things I did. And Civilization is just, I don’t know, that time is just gone.
Pete Mockaitis
Interesting. So this kind of reminds me of the distinction between liking and wanting. It sounds like if your whole summer went away, you had a whole lot of wanting, you had to get back to it, see what happened with your trade routes or your armies or your whatever. But there wasn’t a rich memory that felt uplifting afterwards.
Thi Nguyen
Yeah, I also think, one of the things that exposed to me is something that I think we can be wrong about whether we’re having fun or having a good time. And I’ve had this in relationships, friendships, and games.
And I think my favorite example of this is my experience with the first Star Wars prequel movie, which I was so excited for at the time, in which I convinced myself that I had a great time at. And I spent a week being like, “That was awesome.”
And it took me a week to realize that I was talking myself into thinking that it was valuable, that I kind of overwritten the actual experience with my need to think of it as a valuable experience. And I think that’s actually something that can happen in a lot of places.
And I think when I play Civilization, I tell myself, “This is fun, I can tell. Like, it’s a good game, I’m into it.” But, actually, afterwards the time seems valueless.
Pete Mockaitis
Oh, yeah. I think that’s so true that we can talk ourselves into it. For any number of reasons, we want to think we haven’t been duped, we want to justify the money, the time we’ve invested. And, yeah, I think we totally have the capacity, a great capacity for self-deception.
Well, let’s get into things a little bit with regard to The Score: How to Stop Playing Somebody Else’s Game. Could you maybe tell us a little bit of the backstory for how these ideas got swirling around your head and seemed like a worthwhile thing to spend years researching and putting together some great writings on?
Thi Nguyen
So, a bunch of this comes, I’ve spent a lot of the years of my life working kind of an insane path through philosophy. I’ve been obsessed with a part of philosophy that I think isn’t even supposed to be part of my field, which is the philosophy of games.
I’ve been trying to figure out what games are and why they’re valuable. And this started way back when, because I was reading a bunch of stuff with some students about video games. They wanted to know whether video games were art, and we read about, you know, a bunch of articles about it.
And most people were trying to say that video games were art because they were like a movie. And I was like, “Yeah, some games are like a movie. Some games have cool cutscenes.” But, actually, the thing that I really care about is how it feels to be playing, the fact that I get to make interesting decisions or interesting movements.
And when I was trying to figure this out, I found this moment from my favorite game designer, Reiner Knizia, he’s a German board game designer. And in one of his talks, he says that the most important part of his game design toolbox is the scoring system because it tells the players what to care about. It sets their desires.
And that, I think, is the moment where I was like, “Oh, this is so interesting. This is even more interesting than I realized.” Because games, I think they don’t just create worlds, they create alternate selves for us to plunge into.
And so I wrote an entire book about the beauty of games and how game designers use scoring systems to push around our motivations, to give us alternate ways of caring, and to create all this incredibly beautiful, rich action.
And then I started worrying about gamification because I think a lot of people were saying like, “Oh, you love games. You must love gamification. Let’s gamify the classroom and let’s gamify the workplace.” And I thought that if we actually understood what made games really valuable, we would understand why most gamification was rotten and why it sucked out what was really valuable.
And so I ended up telling a story about what is wrong with gamification, and what is wrong with thin metrics in the workplace, especially when they start to capture our values and change our sense about what’s valuable in our life.
And I got to this point where I realized I had an entire story where scoring systems in games turned out to be beautiful, delightful, the seat of joy. And then I had this story about how scoring systems in bureaucracy, government, and corporations, seemed to suck the life out of people, and I wanted to understand why.
And that’s basically why I wrote this book. I was obsessed with why scoring systems were basically responsible for my favorite parts of life and my least favorite parts of my life.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah. And I think you do a masterful job in the book, as you say, that it hits different when we’re scoring in a game versus when we’re being scored at work or with the KPIs and the metrics associated with performance there.
Can you maybe tell us a cautionary tale for professionals of why should this be on our radar? Why should we have our antenna up to these philosophically concepts in terms of our real-world life, happiness, flourishing career implications?
Thi Nguyen
Let me tell two stories. One is personal and one is institutional, and I think there’s a lot of lessons to be learned from both. So the personal story, I mean, I went into philosophy because I thought, I mean, philosophy is a terrible career decision, right? Like, jobs are hard, pay is terrible, work is hard.
The only reason you do it is because you love it, because it’s this weird, fascinating thing. And there are particular kinds of questions and ways of asking about the world that I loved. And then I got plunged into the world of philosophy.
And philosophy, just like every other world, is a profession that has its internal metrics and indicators. There is a status ranking of journals and a status ranking of universities. And I, like a lot of other people, were brought up to aim intensely at getting articles published in the highest status journals. Let me really clear how we did that.
What you did was that you had to write a very specific, very narrow, very technical kind of philosophy on very specific kinds of topics. And it was really boring. And I, basically, spent five years in this field that I was supposed to love, working on things that were more and more boring to me, precisely because I’d come to be guided by a system that represented, not like my sense of what was important, but some kind of like external redigestion and like vomiting back of what people in general thought was important. There’s one story.
I think another one, one thing that I’ve started to think about is not just like the external metrics are external, that they’re somebody else’s, but there’s a particular flavor to them. And I think most people know what I’m talking about. They feel inhumane, in a way. They feel distant, they feel rigid, they feel like they don’t capture what’s actually important. And I’ve been trying to figure out why.
And there’s all these examples that I find really interesting. So here’s one. Sally Engle Merry is an anthropologist who studied human rights work, and she got really interested in the ranking of, so the US State Department issued something called the Trafficking in Persons Report. It’s their sex trafficking report. And they’re rating countries on various countries’ ability to combat sex trafficking.
And the primary metric is conviction rates of sex traffickers. And what Merry points out is that this is actually a terrible metric because a lot of sex trafficking is highly correlated with ambient poverty. So if a country manages to decrease general poverty, uplift the economic status of its poor citizens, actual sex trafficking evaporates.
But since it’s evaporated, there are no sex traffickers to convict. So, by the metric, an actual successful lifting of general citizen well-being, and an actual reduction in sex trafficking, counts as a failure because the thing that the metric is picking up on, it’s not actual sex trafficking, but a very rough proxy of when that kind of activity enters into the government site via a particular kind of interaction, the arrest of a sex trafficker.
I think one of her reasons she says why this happens is because actual sex trafficking is actually incredibly hard to track partially because, by its nature, it occurs out of view and because it’s really, like what counts as a sex trafficking victim and an actual sex trafficker is really, really fuzzy on the edges.
She has this incredible example. She says, imagine someone who’s starving, a woman who’s starving, who crosses an international boundary to work in a brothel. And then the next year, they bring their friend, who’s also starving, across the boundary to work in the same brothel. Is the first woman now an international sex trafficker, right?
Really hard to answer those questions. You don’t have to answer them if you go to conviction rate, right? It’s so easy. It’s so bright. It’s right in front of us. Another example nearby is the example of Charity Navigator. Do you know Charity Navigator?
Pete Mockaitis
I’ve been there many times.
Thi Nguyen
So Charity Navigator is supposed to be a nonprofit watchdog that watches on other nonprofits and rates them for how good they are at charity. And for a really long time, it’s changed recently due to these exact criticisms, but for a long time, over a decade, I think, their primary metric for rating nonprofits was a throughput ratio.
It was a ratio of how many donations were given versus how many of those domain donations emerged on the other side, and were given as resources or money to the other place, to whatever the target is.
It turns out, this is, again, a terrible metric. And the reason it’s terrible is because by that metric anything spent internal to the nonprofit counts as waste. The metric depends on this image that nonprofits are just kind of pipelines for money. And, say, any money that a nonprofit wants to spend on an internal expert, will make it plunge in the rankings.
This example is so interesting to me, because the reason that we seize on that metric is because, in order to actually rate nonprofits, we would actually have to know a huge amount about their very specific domain.
So we would have to understand, like, about the housing crisis in one particular part of the world, and the lack of doctors in another part of the world. And we would somehow have to figure out how to compare those in a clear way. That’s really hard.
Accounting, on the other hand, is really stable and nonprofits do it in a similar way. And so if you focus on that layer, right, the accounting layer, you can find a kind of similar-enough quality that automatically outputs a kind of quantitative measure.
So you can generate an objective ranking, but you’ve generated that objective ranking by shifting the target over from what actually matters to a topic matter that has been chosen precisely because it can create an easy ranking.
There’s more kind of large-scale explanation to unpack, but I think these are really interesting examples of how the process of measuring things at scale seizes on certain kinds of parts of the world and has a lot of trouble coping with the parts of the world that actually might matter.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah, and I hope, I know the way some people’s brains just fire off. They see implications right away. And sometimes you need a little bit of a bridge. And so, as you’re saying these, and I’m hearing it, and I thought like, “Whoa, this is actually epically high-stakes transformational stuff.”
Because when you say what counts as a sex trafficker, I mean, like you bring it into a business, like, “What counts as revenue? What counts as a customer? What counts as customer satisfaction?” And then, “What is the underlying view?” Like, nonprofits are pipelines for money. You make a point here that metrics are not neutral and objective. They’re values-laden.
Like, a person decided, “This is the metric we’re going for and this is what counts and this is what doesn’t,” based upon what they were trying to accomplish. And that has major downstream amplifications or ramifications for everyone that’s engaging with these numbers.
Thi Nguyen
So I’m not a philosopher of science, but I hang out with lot of philosophers of science, and there’s philosophy of science in this other field nearby called science and technology studies.
One of the primary themes that emerges from this work is that a lot of people tend to think that a lot of scientific tools, a lot of measurement tools, and a lot of data collection systems are value-neutral. They just represent the world in a kind of neutral way, but actually these tools are value-laden. This means they represent a particular point of view with particular interests. And they often do that by what they put in and what they leave out.
One of the places this becomes really clear to me is just thinking about maps. So maps are a kind of representation. You might think that a map is neutral, but a map, by definition, deletes most of the world, right? What a map is doing is something that highlights certain parts of the world. Who chose what to highlight, right?
Maps are good for certain kinds of things and not good for others based on decisions we made in the background. So most of the maps I look at are very good for telling you how to find a business or how to drive there. They’re not really good at telling you where the places that sound pleasant are, where the friendly neighborhoods are.
And they could do that, right? You could create a map that represents where nightlife is or represents where nature is. And people do make those maps, but the standard maps leave that out. They represent an interest.
The data system, I think about this a lot, so at my school, the administration is interested in lifting student success, which sounds awesome. But student success is largely defined in terms of graduation rate and graduation speed, and it’s not defined in terms of things like reflectiveness or thoughtfulness or creativity or ethics, right?
So, for example, if your primary measure for student success is graduation speed, and I meet a student who is bored, their major isn’t doing well for them, they’re not that good at it, they’re kind of frustrated. And I convinced them that the major is the wrong one for them.
And we talk and we’re like, “Oh, that’s what they’re really interested in,” and we help them find another major that’s better fit for them, that makes them happier, that fits their skill set more, but it’s going to take another year, that counts as a failure.
Hobbes, Thomas Hobbes, the political philosopher, I think a lot of people might know that he said that morality comes down to political power, and political power comes from the tyrant, whoever has the ability to, like, get people to do what they want.
And Hobbes actually says that the real source of political power, the ultimate form of political power is not military strength or might, or even economic strength. It’s power over language. Because if you can dictate to them what success and failure mean, then you can control them from the inside. And these are the stakes, I think.
What metrics actually are, are a way of fixing what counts as success and fixing what we should all be moving towards. And if there’s some systematic slippage between what actually matters and the kinds of things that it’s easy to build metrics about, then our entire internal guidance system is going to be deeply rewritten at its core based on somebody else’s values, right, some particular person that made the measurement system.
So I was reading this paper from a philosopher named Philippi about values and measurement systems. And he was pointing out how value-laden the idea of intelligence is, right? So intelligence testing is a very value-laden measure.
So you might know that IQ tests are racially and gender-biased. That might be true, but that’s not the center of what he’s talking about. Here’s the value-laden system inside our intelligence tests. The intelligence tests we have right now all encode into them the view that mathematical and logical ability is more important than emotional sensitivity, right?
There is such a thing as emotional intelligence. But think about the fact that our intelligence tests either don’t test it or, if they test it, it’s barely weighted, right? That is a particular set of interests and a representation of how people should be that’s baked into a measurement system that then looks objective once it’s become like a kind of standard use measurement system.
People just think that’s the way the world is, “Of course, that’s what intelligence is,” But it’s a decision that somebody made to weight things that way.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah. And I’m thinking about, so we missed the emotional intelligence, but we also missed some of the creativity-type intelligences, or I’ve got a posse of craftsmen who are fixing some water damage right now and doing some amazing things, and that’s a different kind of intelligence than what shows up on the ACT.
Thi Nguyen
Imagine what it would be like if we didn’t use that system. You could start to think about people as having hundreds of different capacities, each of which you could think about in a different way. Some people are good at drawing, some people are good at sensitivity, some people are good at telling stories, some people are good at logical and mathematical ability.
But instead, what we’ve done is we’ve created something that says, “No, all of these boil down to one thing.” And the idea that there’s one thing that is intelligence is a worldview that’s subtly been baked into a kind of metric.
Pete Mockaitis
Absolutely. And it’s so interesting when you talked about scoring sets their desires, and it’s true. I think about strategy games. You probably know the name for this. There’s a principle at which, if there is a dominant strategy, folks are going to do it. And so a great game, they say, is one in which there’s not a clear cut, overpowered strategy, but rather a variety that you can choose from.
And I found myself doing this. Like, I’m playing this game, ostensibly, to have fun. And yet, if I find there’s a winning thing I can do, even if it’s not fun, I do it. And I wanted to hear your take on values capture. I remember back when I was consulting at Bain, we had what’s called a sell weekend or offeree weekend, in which the folks who had received offers to work at this consulting firm come out and we try to show them a great time, and how cool it is to work at Bain and all that.
And this one person, I remember, she also had an offer from McKinsey & Co., a rival consulting firm. And she was torn, you know, between this. And then she said, “I feel like I’m choosing between happiness…” which was Bain, “…and prestige or pleasing my parents,” which was apparently Mackenzie, is what these things represent to her.
I don’t know if that’s really a fair summary, but that’s how she saw the world. But she did, she went with McKinsey. And so the scoring, in terms of like the rankings of prestige, kind of like the philosophy schools, whether they’re consulting firms or whatever, does, in fact, have the ability to set our desires, and we can just kind of default to stuff without even thinking about it.
Can you expand upon your concept of values capture? How does it happen and how do we guard against it?
Thi Nguyen
So value capture is a term I came up with to describe something I was feeling all the time, and I think a lot of people were, which is that your values are rich and subtle or they’re developing, and then you get put in some kind of institutional or social setting that presents a simplified, typically quantified version, and then the simplified or quantified version takes over in your heart.
I want to be clear that value capture is not the same as being incentivized. So I think a lot of people know Goodhart’s law, right? When a measure becomes an incentive, it stops being a good measure. And Goodhart’s law is gesturing at the same thing. It’s gesturing at this idea that incentives don’t capture what’s important.
But I think there’s a big difference between the first stage, when a metric incentivizes us, right, when we think like, “Oh, if I go to the higher-ranked thing, I’m more likely to get a job. I’m more likely to get more money.” And the second-stage thing of when the metric intrudes into you and starts to become how you conceive of the point of everything.
I think is that different? For me, like, here’s an example. I think that’s a big thing to ike, “Oh, you know, I’m on Twitter. I need to build a bigger following in order to get my message across.” But if you understand that you’re doing it just to get the kind of power to do the thing you really want, you’re not going to sacrifice your message just to get a bigger following.
But if your soul gets redefined and you start thinking like, “No, the thing that I care about in the end is just having the most followers and likes,” then that’s going to transform your entire way of interacting with that system. I’m not sure about your case.
I think there’s a big difference between a student, for example, who thinks, “I’m more likely to get a job if I go to a higher-status university,” versus a student that thinks, “Success in life is going to the highest-ranked university.”
Because once you go to the second thing, you no longer have a standpoint to reflect on whether or not the metric is working for you. If it’s the first thing, if it hasn’t gone all the way to your core, you can always think to yourself, like, “Well, I know this is important for money or resources or whatever, but is it really worth it to me? Is it really making me happy?”
And you can step back. People can step back from high-paying jobs and high-status jobs because it’s making them less happy. But if you’ve redefined in yourself that that’s what success is, then you’re no longer going to think to yourself, “I should stop doing this because it doesn’t make me happy.”
And I think that’s actually one of the cases I’m most interested in. Like, what happens when you forget to listen to your own sense of happiness or your own sense of value? And it’s gotten overwritten by this easy, clear, outside meter.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah. And I think the easy, clear, outside meter is what’s so darn tricky about it. Like, money or compensation is, I think you call it, the most fungible of scores in terms of, yeah, you could turn that into a lot of different things, and we all understand it, and it is compared across many different opportunities.
And yet, it could be a lot harder to evaluate two options, like, “Well, one is clearly more money. Cool. But the other makes my heart come alive more, I think, but I can’t quantify heart coming aliveness on it as quite nearly as readily and directly as I can money.”
Thi Nguyen
Yeah. I mean, this is one way to put it. In many cases, I’m not saying that the metric is bad or even that it doesn’t track something real and something important. I’m interested in the fact that easily measured things tend to win out in justification fights against less easily measured things.
Like, should you eat rich cheeses high in saturated fats? On the one hand, there’s data about correlations with lifespan and heart attack rate. And on the other side, there’s the fact that it’s delicious and it makes you happy.
And it’s really hard to hang onto that in the face of those other numbers, especially when you have to have a public fight, right? This is the weird thing. Like, before I say this next thing, I just want to say I’m not anti-science. I believe science gets real truths.
But the world in which all our policies need to be evidence-based and data-based is a world in which we can only target things that are easy to count and easy to data-fy, and we lose our grip in things that are hard to data-fy. And I think, if you think that everything in the world that matters, can be counted by bureaucratic processes, then you have no problem.
But I think we have a really good reason to think that much of what’s really important tends to elude the specific institutional character of large-scale counting processes.
Pete Mockaitis
Yes, absolutely. And when you mentioned there, when there’s a slippage in metrics between what we’re going for and what actually is captured in the cut and dry definitional metrics, all kinds of implications can ensue. I think, perhaps the most terrifying part of your book was when you described five conditions that, when they’re present, folks who game the system will prosper or rise. And so could you just lay this out for us?
Thi Nguyen
So this is based on an article from Paul Smaldino and Richard McElrath, who are scientists, anthropologists, and computer modelers, and they have a paper called “The Cultural Evolution of Bad Science.”
And they do a computer model of a scientific community where the following is true. One, status is connected to publication rate. Two, if you use the most rigorous, most careful method, you’re going to publish more slowly.
So the people that will gain the most status and power are the people that are going to game the system and use the least rigorous method that will get them just barely over the finish line of publication.
And then if you assume, the last assumption of the model is that if young scientists imitate people with higher-status jobs and their methodologies, then we should expect science to turn pretty crappy pretty fast. And I thought this argument generalized.
The general version is, first, if you think there’s a gap between what’s important and what’s easy to measure, and then you think that the institutions we have tend to reward people with power and resources for hitting the easy-to-measure metric, then you should think, “Look, then there’ll be two populations.”
There’ll be the people who still care about what they care about and are aware of the importance of the metric, but trade off between them. And then they’re the fully value-captured people, the people that are just going to go all out and just game the system and ignore what’s really important and just aim at the metric. And we should expect that the latter population, the narrow hyper gamers, are going to be the people that win out, right?
And if they win out and they, in particular, if they re-tune their institutions once they gain power to make the metrics even more powerful, then you should expect a terrifying feedback loop where, over time, the systems will tend to sort for the people that are willing to ignore the quiet whisper of what’s really important, and just target hell or high water the thin metric that is written, and that kind of narrowness will systematically gather all the social power. That’s the model. Then you can decide for yourself about whether it fits reality.
Pete Mockaitis
Well, and it’s spooky and it’s partially explanatory for all kinds of things, you know, why the rich get richer, why we have corrupt politicians, why that idiot is the boss, you know, in terms of, “Oh, well, they were rewarded not so much based upon their inspirational leadership. They were rewarded because they hit a number,” or, “The board thought they really liked that guy and he seemed sharp.”
And so, like, there was a gap between what was readily measurable or observable versus what we would hope is the fundamental thing. And the first thing that came to mind when I was reading this was just about politicians and votes.
Like, we would hope in, like, in a representative democratic republic situation, “Well, yeah, votes are kind of the measure by which we have, and which we feel someone’s doing a good job of representing us or should represent us.”
And yet, that is a tremendously gameable metric via monies that can just blast enough advertising to, apparently, get enough votes, as well as polarizing messaging, “What gets people mad enough to actually show up at the polls instead of just sitting on the sidelines?”
And then you could just imagine this in all kinds of scenarios, like, “It seems like this person is at the top, but they don’t deserve to be?” Head scratch, “What’s behind that?” Well, I think, a decent amount of the time, it’s exactly this underlying dynamic that you’ve spelled out.
Thi Nguyen
I think a big part of the background is that I think a lot of metrics are extremely usable if used with care, if we know that they’re just a rough approximate proxy. It’s only when we treat them as all important.
I think there’s an important piece of the background puzzle, of the background picture to put in right now, which is why metrics have this character, right? I mean, one response you might have to all of this is, “Let’s just fix them. Let’s just get better metrics. And then the people that are all hell-or-high water gaming the metric, will just do what’s good.”
But I think that’s not going to work. I had this intuition that it wouldn’t work. And I think the best explanation came from a bunch of historians. So, Theodore Porter, I think, helped me understand a lot of what was going on. He’s a historian of quantification culture.
And he’s trying to explain why he thinks that bureaucrats and politicians compulsively reach for quantificative reasoning even when the metric they know is bad, right, even when it’s just a blatantly terrible metric.
His explanation was that qualitative and quantitative reasoning were different styles of thinking and justification that were good at different things. So qualitative reasoning, he said, is rich and subtle and context-sensitive and dynamic, and can capture all kinds of complexity, but it travels badly between contexts because it requires a lot of shared background knowledge to understand. And it doesn’t aggregate.
And part of why it doesn’t aggregate is specifically because it’s working on so many different dimensions, right? When I’m writing qualitative descriptions to my students about their philosophy essays, I’ll talk about their originality, their rigor, their carefulness, their curiosity, all along different dimensions. And then somebody else might write in their qualitative assessment a bunch of different dimensions. How do you aggregate those?
To make quantitative data, says Porter, we identify a context-invariant kernel and we stabilize it across context. So we make it rigid. And to make it work across context, we have to figure out the bit that everybody understands the same way, which means that bit cannot depend on specific context, specific background, or specific sensitivities.
So, for me, this is like letter grades, like A, B, C, and D. There’s not a lot of information there. But what information there is, is thin enough and simple enough that everyone can understand it the same way. And so that message travels, right? And it aggregates instantly.
So Porter’s insight is that quantitative measures communicate well and are an incredibly good way to connect people and coordinate people because they’ve been designed to communicate, right? His claim is that quantitative data is portable, it travels well between contexts. But portability is a design achievement achieved at the cost of high context, and it’s not just accidental.
Removing context is the thing that makes it extremely accessible and extremely cross-cutting across contexts. And that vision, I think, is really terrifying to me. Because, for me, this shows me that this is not a trap we can get out of, right?
The essential thing that gives metrics their juice and makes them so powerful is that they are narrow by design, and that narrowness is precisely what makes them so usable and so dangerous.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah. And I guess, maybe to have some hope in here, I think just having a bright light of awareness, which you are providing here, can work wonders for ourselves and our own spheres of influence, and leadership, and families, and organizations, and communities, and careers, to know, “Okay, a narrow, dogged, ferocious, focus on a metric or two or three will necessarily be incomplete and comes with some major downsides. So we got to really check ourselves and note, ‘Okay, this is a rough gauge and it gets an approximation of a thing and it can’t be the whole thing.”
Thi Nguyen
And yet, we also see why it’s so tempting to treat it as the whole thing. But, yeah, there’s not a world in which we can have our institutions work without metrics and without measures that we coordinate over, but they’re so dangerously thin, and it’s so easy to forget. And part of why it’s easy to forget is, if you use them, you’re instantly comprehensible to everybody. And I think that’s very tempting.
Pete Mockaitis
Very much. Well, Thi, tell me, as you think about this domain of knowledge, and when it comes to individual professionals navigating their work lives, their careers, do you have any top do’s and don’ts you think that come to light or emerge out of this rich set of ideas?
Thi Nguyen
I have a goofy idea I want to run by you and see what you think. So a lot of the problem of metrics comes from their being established very distantly at scale and being rigidified, right? They’re distant measures of our success.
I’ve been trying to think about various solutions. And, for me, games are an inspiration. And one of the ways they’re an inspiration is that game scoring systems aren’t distant. They’re modifiable in a few ways. You can move between them. You can change them. You can house-rule them. You can design your own.
And so I’ve been wondering if this can be applied to institutions, too. So here’s something I tried. In the age of trying to figure out how to grade students in the era of ChatGPT, in my last class, I let the students design their own grading system.
I let them design, as part of the class through a conversation, what the assignments would be and how they would be graded on them, given what their goals were and what the limits were, and how the world was changing.
So here’s one thought. Maybe in the workplace, if you’re a manager, what you can do is constantly redesign your metrics in conversation with the people that are being measured about to capture what is a value. Is this goofy and insane? Part of the problem is that you’re not going to be able to export them readily, and you’re not going to be able to take off the shelf a pre-established form of measurement, but roll your own. What do you think?
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah. Well, I like it a lot. And I’m thinking about how I’m on the board of a nonprofit. And so the board always says, “Hey, Pete, so you’re going to run the performance review for the executive director, right?” And I’ll say, “I guess I’m the How to be Awesome at Your Job guy, so, okay, I’ll take that on.”
And what I think is cool is that, well, each year she has her goals, and each year the goals are different in terms of what is needed at the time. And, thusly, each year, the metrics can change. And I think, because we’re, well, it is, it’s context rich, you know.
Like, I’m in it. I understand it, like what we’re doing, what we’re trying to achieve and how these numbers are incomplete and they’re are means to an end, but also like they do have value and give us a gauge in terms of, “Does this look more or less like a win, or like a loss, or something in between?”
And so, if the numbers are way, way low when they should be higher, it’s like, “Well, yeah, that looks like a loss, even though they’re imprecise and imperfect, that will show up accordingly in the performance review.” So I think that it is, it’s very much doable. And, in a way, kind of fun, keeps it fresh and relevant. But it does, it takes a heightened level of commitment, as opposed to a one-size-fits-all, “Here’s your production goal. Make sure you hit it each quarter. Boom!”
Thi Nguyen
Yeah, and you won’t be able to compare between groups. The whole point is that it’s not that metrics are bad in and of themselves. It’s that the thing that makes them insensitive is their fixity at scale. And that’s also what lets them aggregate easily.
And so the proposal here is just at a different point in the trade-off scale. Now you’re going to be thinking in a context-sensitive way about what you care about at particular moment, and you might set up a metric for a period of time and then change it.
But you won’t be able to auto-compare teams, you won’t be able to auto-compare one person’s performance over a huge amount of time, but you will be able to generate metrics that are responsive to the details of what matters in the case. But, again, it’s a massive trade-off.
Pete Mockaitis
Oh, thank you. Can we hear a favorite quote, something you find inspiring?
Thi Nguyen
William James, philosopher, pragmatist, says, “When you’re seeking truth, there are two totally different goals that people confuse. One is to get the most truths in the end, and the other is to avoid error. And they’re totally different and they suggest different strategies.”
If what you want is a lot of truths, you might actually want to be really risky and take a lot of risks and make a lot of mistakes. Because if you take a lot of risks and try a lot of things and make a lot of mistakes, you will move more quickly towards the truth.
If you want to avoid mistakes, you should be very careful and conservative with what you try out. And these are two totally different strategies.
Pete Mockaitis
Well, yeah, that’s exciting. And I’m imagining, I don’t know who said it, but I thought there was some wisdom to it. Like, most great thinkers, a fair critique to just about all of them is, “Nice idea, but you took it too far.” And that really sounds like the first group that’s trying to maximize truths. It’s like, “Ooh, yeah, you made some mistakes, and there was some mess and dirt along the way there. But you did, you really advanced some stuff, and all of mankind is enriched as a result of having done so.”
And how about a favorite study or experiment or piece of research?
Thi Nguyen
I think one of the most interesting studies and a huge inspiration for this book was James Scott’s Seeing Like a State. And this is a book about how, you’ll recognize the themes, but it’s a book about states.
And by states he means governments and corporations, and about how they can only see the parts of the world that are processable through large-scale bureaucratic means, exactly what we’ve been talking about so far.
And then the second part of the study is an argument that states, “In order to make the world more processable, tend to reorder it to make it easier to count.” So they tend to want to even things out to make things easier to count. And it’s a study that crosses about 50 different historical case studies, and it’s extraordinary.
Pete Mockaitis
And a favorite book?
Thi Nguyen
Well, it’s in a book, it’s a paper. It’s by Annette Baier. It’s called “Trust and Antitrust.” And it’s a paper that taught me, I think about the most important ingredient in social life. She thinks that the center of human life is trust. And what trust is, is making ourselves vulnerable to some external power by putting something of ours in their power.
And that we have to do this to extend ourselves and to cooperate, but that human life is, essentially, one where we are constantly at risk because we constantly are so entangled that we’re entrusting ourselves to other people. And this, I found, just incredibly explanatory of the state of the world.
Pete Mockaitis
And a favorite tool, something you use that helps you be awesome at your job?
Thi Nguyen
I think my favorite tool is walking away. I think, sometimes, the right answer to being stuck, for me, is to put everything I’m stuck, write everything I’m stuck, on a whiteboard so I don’t forget it, and then just walk away. Leave the office. Leave the desk. Leave that problem. Go work on something else for days, weeks.
Pete Mockaitis
Okay. And is there a key nugget you share with students or readers that really seems to connect and resonate, they retweet, they Kindle book highlight, they say, “Professor, this was amazing”?
Thi Nguyen
I often give students the argument that Bernard Suits, this philosopher of games that I was really inspired by, that he gives the end of his book. And he says at the end of his book, “Imagine utopia where we’ve solved all our practical problems. What would we do if we cured all medical problems and all technological problems?”
He says, “We would play games or we would be bored out of our minds. So games must be the meaning of life.” And, you know, it’s kind of a goofy argument, but what he’s really saying is he’s restating an old nugget from Aristotle, which is that the meaning of human activity can’t come from stuff we make or the outcomes of our actions. It has to come from the action itself. It has to come from the process of doing.
And if we drain out all the interesting processes of doing just to make a ton of stuff, then we’ve accidentally leaked away a meaningful life.
Pete Mockaitis
Thi, if folks want to learn more and get in touch, where would you point them?
Thi Nguyen
My website is Objectionable.net. I’m on Bluesky @add-hawk, A-D-D, underscore H-A-W-K.
Pete Mockaitis
And do you have a final challenge or call to action for folks looking to be awesome at their jobs?
Thi Nguyen
Every time you look at a metric, be suspicious and ask what values it’s imposing on you.
Pete Mockaitis
Perfect. Well, Thi, thank you. This was a treat. I wish you many, many high scores of the most meaningful sort.
Thi Nguyen
Thanks, man.

Brad Stulberg shares foundational principles for making the process of self-development more fun and fulfilling.
You’ll Learn
- What true excellence looks and feels like
- Why to stop chasing happiness—and what to focus on instead
- The best tool for building focus and concentration
About Brad
Brad Stulberg researches, writes, and coaches on performance, well-being, and sustainable excellence. He is the bestselling author of The Practice of Groundedness and Master of Change, and coauthor of Peak Performance.
Stulberg regularly contributes to the New York Times and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal and The Atlantic, among many other outlets. He serves as the co-host of the podcast “excellence, actually” and is on faculty at the University of Michigan. He lives in Asheville, North Carolina.
- Book: The Way of Excellence: A Guide to True Greatness and Deep Satisfaction in a Chaotic World
- Website: BradStulberg.com
Resources Mentioned
- Study: “The comparison of Imagery ability in elite, sub-elite and non-elite swimmers” by P. Duarte-Mendes, et al.
- Study: “Brain Drain: The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity” by Adrian F. Ward, Kristen Duke, Ayelet Gneezy, and Maarten W. Bos
- Book: Brave New World by Aldous Huxley
- Book: The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains by Nicholas Carr
- Book: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance: An Inquiry into Values by Robert Pirsig
- Past episode: 164: Sustaining Your Peak and Avoiding Burnouts with Brad Stulberg
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Brad Stulberg Interview Transcript
Pete Mockaitis
Brad, welcome back!
Brad Stulberg
Pete, it’s a pleasure.
Pete Mockaitis
Well, I’m excited to talk about excellence. That’s one of my favorite things. And so you will share with us the way, but I’m very curious upfront. You have achieved excellence in lifting vast quantities of weight. Can you tell us a little bit of the story of this journey and what that illustrates about excellence?
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, I can. So, I am an armchair power lifter, I’d say armchair because I’m not actually being a national or world-class level or anything like that. But I got really into deadlifting, in particular, maybe five or six years ago, and I’ve just been working toward the craft for that period of time.
And my PR deadlift is 530 pounds. I pulled that at a body weight of about 200 pounds, so more than twice my body weight, which is a pretty, pretty significant pull.
And the way that I like to think about pursuing excellence in the process of that is, yeah, I’m working toward this goal of deadlifting a lot, but the deadlift is also working on me. So I’m learning about the power of community. I’m learning about being comfortable, being uncomfortable. I’m learning about fear. I’m learning about vulnerability. I’m learning about resilience. I’m learning about patience. I’m learning about setbacks.
So all of these things that happen in the gym are life lessons that I can carry with me into my marriage, into how I raise my kids, into how I write, into how I show up for my community members, and so on and so forth. So I think it’s actually like this really nice encapsulation of excellence because, on its face, all dead lifting is is lifting a bunch of weight from the ground to your hips.
But it can be full of meaning because of all the things that you learn in the process of trying to lift that heavy-ass weight from the ground to your hips.
Pete Mockaitis
Well, could you maybe give us an example of, I imagine, there’s a lot of little learnings associated with, “Oh, place my feet like this, or grip it like that, or train according to this schedule with this many reps and weights, etc”? Can you share with us an abstraction or a carryover or a takeaway that goes beyond the deadlifting itself into other domains?
Brad Stulberg
One of my favorites that has impacted me is when you’re attempting a really heavy lift, perhaps more weight than you’ve ever lifted before, there’s often a real element of fear. And that fear is not because you’re scared that you’re going to miss the lift, I mean, unless you’re competing in the Olympics, no one really cares if you make the lift or not.
It’s a fear of what it’s going to feel like. Like, it feels genuinely uncomfortable, like death, to try to pressurize your body to lift that much weight. And a couple of years ago, I was about to attempt a PR and my training partner at the time, his name is Justin, he looked at me and he just said, “Brave new world.”
And what he meant by that is, “I don’t know if I’m going to make the lift or not, but it’s sure going to be interesting to see.” So I didn’t walk up to the bar scared because that’s not a good position to make a lift in. I didn’t walk up to the bar lying to myself and saying, “I know I’m going to hit the lift,” because I didn’t know if I was going to hit the lift. I walked up to the bar with a mindset and an attitude of curiosity.
And what I’ve learned since is that it is literally impossible to be scared and curious at the same time. So the neural circuitry that is involved in fear and that is involved in curiosity, it competes for resources. So you cannot be curious and scared at the same time.
So when we’re taking on big challenges, when we’re confronting unknown horizons, if we can go into those with a mindset of brave new world, like, “I don’t know what’s going to happen, but let’s find out,” that shifts us out of fear and into a more playful state that allows us to perform our best.
You asked how that transfers outside of the gym. It’s probably self-explanatory, but one very concrete example is when my wife gave birth to our second child in the delivery room, I looked at her and I’m just, like, “Brave new world. Like, we know how to do one, but I don’t know what two’s going to be like. Brave new world.”
You take on a big writing assignment, or you get a new job, or you get a promotion and you’re feeling a little bit apprehensive, “Brave new world. Like, let’s find out what this is all about.” And it’s that mindset of curiosity that is so powerful.
Pete Mockaitis
So, brave new world, well, now I’m thinking about the book and all of the dystopian things. So we’re not talking about that at all. You just mean we’re entering into a new world, a reality that is fundamentally different from the prior reality. And so we could experience fear, terror, “Oh, my gosh, what the heck is this going to be about?” or more of a sense of curiosity, wonder, fun, enchantment, like, “Oh, here’s an adventure that we’re going in on.”
Brad Stulberg
That’s 100% right. And there’s so much research in performance science that shows that that mindset of adventure, that mindset of curiosity, is associated with not only feeling better, but with performing better. There’s this incredible quote from the late basketball player, Kobe Bryant, who was asked if he’s the kind of player that plays to win or plays not to lose.
And he answered by saying, “I’m neither. I play to figure things out.” And he went on to say that if you play to win, then you become fragile because if you lose, you’re frustrated. And if you play not to lose, you’re constantly on your heels. You can never really assert yourself. You’re always in this, like, kind of preventing the worst state.
But if you just play to figure things out, if you play to learn about yourself and learn about the game, you’re going to end up playing the best that you can possibly play. And this came from Kobe Bryant. He was known for his killer mentality on the court. Yet, when he stepped onto the court, he didn’t try to be a killer. He was just really curious.
Pete Mockaitis
Absolutely. That’s just a lot of fun. And when you’re in a fun groove, a lot of things flow nicely from that just naturally.
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, I mean, I think that it’s very much related to having fun, and having fun is one of the best competitive advantages there is. I think there’s this misnomer that you either have to be full of intensity or full of joy. But in my research for this book, what I found is that the most excellent performers, they have both intensity and joy. Intensity and joy can coexist at the same time.
Pete Mockaitis
Yes. And I don’t remember who pointed it out, but I think they were critiquing the notion of the optimal dosage of stress in the stress response curve. And there is a theory, and it probably holds true in some contexts, like, “Oh, if you’re too low on stress, you’ll underperform because you’re sleepy. If you’re too high on stress, you’ll underperform because you’re freaking out.”
And so you want to be at just the right level of stress, or a medium level of stress. And yet, if you look at high performers doing their thing, they don’t look medium stressed. They just look like they’re having a ball.
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, but I think that they are. I’m so glad you brought that up. That’s the Yerke-Dodson’s curve, I think, you’re referencing, in the optimal performance zone, which is different for everyone. But, yeah, it’s exactly what you said, that you want to have this optimal amount of stimulus or stress.
So I do think, like, when Steph Curry steps on the basketball court, or when a Grammy award-winning musician takes the stage, or when a master chef is competing on one of the Food Network competitive reality shows, I do think that they’re feeling adrenaline. I think they’re feeling nerves, but I think that they’ve learned to laugh at themselves and to smile while feeling that way.
Like, they have trained themselves to embrace that is this, like, signal of growth or of, “My body is getting ready to do its thing, and I’m going to do it with a smile on my face.” So I personally experience this. I do a fair amount of public speaking and I’ve become desensitized to it just by putting in all these reps. But every once in a while, I still get nervous out of my mind. And this happened recently.
I was speaking for this new book in New Orleans, and it was at this historic theater. And it was my first time speaking at a theater where I was down on the stage, and there were thousands of people up, and the lights were on me, and the acoustics were perfect.
Like my heart rate was through the roof, my palms were sweaty. I mean, I was feeling a lot of feels. And I remember telling myself, “Man, I got to practice what I preach.” So the first thing I said is, I’m like, “What I’m feeling, it’s not good or bad, it just is. And it’s like my nervous system getting primed to perform.”
And then the second thing I said is, “How crazy is it that I’m getting paid all this money and that they invited me to this theater to give a talk?” and I just kind of laughed at myself. And then I went on a stage and I nailed it because I didn’t go out on stage with, like, this mindset of, “I’ve got to do well,” or, “I’m terrified.” It was like, “I’m terrified but it’s kind of hilarious that I’m even in this position to begin with.”
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah, I love that. It’s kind of hilarious that you’re in this position as opposed to, “Oh, better not screw it up. They paid a boatload of money. I don’t want to rip them off by bombing this here.” Like, that’s a whole ‘nother zone of thought, which is the opposite of fun and will lead you to a not high-performing place.
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, 100%. And what ends up happening is then you take a negative, which is you’re feeling nervous, and you turn it into a double negative, which is you’re feeling nervous and you’re freaking out about feeling nervous. Whereas, if you can just feel nervous and not turn it into a double negative, well then you’re fine.
There’s research from Olympians, and particularly swimmers, that shows that world-class athletes and non-world-class athletes, they have the exact same physiological sensations before a big race. So their heart rates are the same, their cortisol, their stress hormone is the same, their perspiration rate, so their sweat rate is the same.
The only difference is that the non-elite athletes, they freak out about those feelings and they try to make them go away. In the elite athletes, they smile at the feelings. That’s it. Same feelings. It’s just how you appraise them.
Pete Mockaitis
That’s fun. Well, I also want to ask, was there a particularly surprising and fascinating discovery you made while putting together The Way of Excellence?
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, I think that this notion of intensity and joy coexisting was something that I kind of knew but I didn’t really have these concrete examples for. And then in reporting on the book, I found, time and time again, in every elite performer, whether they were an athlete, a business person, a creative, an entrepreneur, an executive, they all have this ability to flip a switch and become very intense. And at the same time, they experience deep joy and they have a lot of fun in what they’re doing.
And I think part of the reason that’s surprising is, I think, especially in maybe more like masculine-coded spaces, there’s this kind of David Goggins approach to greatness, where, like, you always have to be pissed off, you always have to be angry, you’ve got to have a chip on your shoulder, you’re out to kind of, you know, beat everyone else and beat yourself.
Pete Mockaitis
You got to stay hard, Brad.
Brad Stulberg
You got to stay hard, that’s what he says. You got to stay hard. And I did find that a lot of excellent performers, like, they have the Goggin switch, like they can flip that switch, but it’s just that, it’s a switch and they turn it on and then they turn it off. And when they turn it off, they can be the most fun, loving, humorous, kind, soft people. And then they turn that switch on when they need it.
So it’s not that the stay-hard Goggins approach is all wrong. It’s just it’s not the only thing. Like, it’s a switch. And great performers, they know when to turn that switch on, but they also know that if they try to keep that switch on more than they need to, it’s going to actually hurt their performance and hurt their joy in life. So not intensity or joy, but intensity and joy. And, man, like, I would never bet against the person that has a lot of fun working hard toward a big goal.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah, I hear you. And so you suggest in your book that the pursuit of excellence is not just for elite performers, NBA athletes, Navy SEALs, etc., but for everyone. Can you expound on this thesis?
Brad Stulberg
I define excellence as involved engagement and caring deeply about something worthwhile that aligns with your values and goals. So excellence is not winning at all cost. Excellence is not perfectionism. Excellence is not rote optimization. It’s not having a 47-step routine that starts at 4:00 in the morning that you need to broadcast for everyone on social media.
Excellence is not impeccable genetics. Excellence is not a standard. Excellence is a process of identifying something that you care about and giving it your all. And if you do that and you work really hard at it, eventually, you’re going to get some good results.
And the results matter. It’s not to say results don’t matter. The only people that say results don’t matter are people that are, like, gazillionaires because they’ve had all this conventional success. Like, winning matters. Getting a promotion matters. Achieving matters. Oftentimes there are very real financial ramifications, new opportunities you get.
So the results matter, but the results aren’t the thing. The thing is the focus and the intention and the deliberateness that you bring to the process. And that’s what, ultimately, gives you the best chance at achieving a result, and that’s what shapes you as a person.
So when you pursue heartfelt, genuine excellence, yes, you’re working towards some goal. You might want to run a marathon. You might want to get promoted to the C-suite. You might want to start a company. But that goal is also working on you. That goal is shaping you as a person. That goal is teaching you about yourself. And true excellence is this bidirectional relationship between the person and the thing that they’re working on.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah. Like, the deadlift, you say, you work on the deadlift and the deadlift works on you. And so it is with any number of things that you’re working on, is it is shaping you while you are pursuing that end.
Brad Stulberg
One hundred percent. The metaphor that comes up time and time again in the book that I just love is of mountain climbing. The top of the mountain is really narrow. All the life is on the sides. Like, the experience that you have isn’t on the summit of the mountain, it’s during the actual climb.
And the day that you win the medal, you’re on the podium for two minutes while they sing the national anthem. You get the promotion to the C-suite and everyone celebrates you for that day, and then the next day it’s back to doing the work.
You get the fancy house or the nice watch, well, now you got to live in the house, and guess what? You’re still five minutes late, even when you’re looking at a Rolex, it tells you you’re five minutes late. So we spend an inordinate amount of time and energy thinking about the summit of the mountain, but we’ve got to pick the right mountains to climb because all of our time and energy, it’s not spent on the top of the mountain, it’s spent on the sides. And, to me, excellence is about climbing as well as you can.
Pete Mockaitis
And can we hear your distinction between genuine excellence and pseudo-excellence?
Brad Stulberg
I define pseudo excellence as the performance of greatness or the performance of excellence, which is very different than the real thing. So pseudo excellence, in extremis, is the influencer that wakes up at 4:00 in the morning, that has their nose taped, or their mouth taped, or God knows what taped because whatever hole you’re supposed to breathe out of changes once a week.
They cold plunge and they video themselves cold-plunging because you got to give a hype speech for everyone on the internet. Then you have to eat a super restrictive breakfast or maybe your intermittent fasting. Again, depends on what month of the year that you’re in.
And you go on and on and on with all of this complex elaborate kabuki, and what you are is you’re winning a world championship of drawing attention to yourself on the internet but you’re not actually winning a world championship of anything else.
The best athletes, the best entrepreneurs, the best musicians, they don’t have elaborate 47-step routines that they film for Instagram because they don’t have time for that. They’re too busy actually doing the thing. So pseudo excellence, again, is like this performative, “Look how great I am and look at all these steps I do to be great.”
Whereas, actual excellence is, “I don’t have time for any of that. I’m a craftsperson. I show up and I write. I’ve got a team to run. I show up and I run that team. I’m an athlete. I go to practice. Like, I keep the main thing the main thing.” That’s one of the big differences.
The second big difference is pseudo excellence often feigns this attitude of nonchalance. Like, “Eh, like, I’m too cool to care, you know? Eh, maybe I’ll win, maybe I’ll lose.” It’s kind of like, “Eh, I’m too cool. Don’t bother me, I’m too cool to care.”
Whereas, genuine excellence, like there is deep caring and earnestness because you actually give a damn about what you’re doing.
Pete Mockaitis
Yes. You say that caring is essential to excellence. And I absolutely have found that people will say, when I meet them and they say, “Oh, what do you do?” “I’m a podcaster.” “Oh, fun. What’s your show?” “How to be Awesome at Your Job.” “Oh, okay. So how do I be awesome at my job?” It’s like, “Well, I’ve done a thousand plus interviews. So I don’t know how to say this succinctly, but I guess I’ll say care, because fundamentally, foundationally…”
Brad Stulberg
That’s awesome.
Pete Mockaitis
“…that’s not the whole thing, but it’s maybe half the thing and the most foundational thing, in my belief in terms of being awesome at your job, or most things.” So I think we are aligned on this, but I want to hear you preach the gospel of caring to being essential to excellence.
Brad Stulberg
All right, Pete, you can probably remember when you were in middle school, there were popular kids and they were too cool to care. So they sat in the back of the classroom, they never tried in gym, and they made fun of all the kids that tried, right? Well, those kids weren’t cool.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah, “Trying is lame.”
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, in reality, those kids were just scared and insecure. And they were scared that if they tried and they failed, it would be embarrassing. So it was easier not to care. It was easier to feign nonchalance.
And a lot of adults have yet to outgrow this tendency because when you care, when you do something in earnest, when you really pour your all into something, you make yourself vulnerable to failure, and you don’t have an excuse.
If you sit in the back of the class and you joke around, well, when you get a C, it’s because you sat in the back of the class and you joked around. If you sit in the front of the class and you try your hardest and you get a C, it’s because you just didn’t have what it takes.
And in order to be excellent, in order to be awesome at your job, you’ve got to make yourself vulnerable. You have to care. You have to risk failure. You have to risk heartbreak. And at a certain point, it’s inevitable that you are going to fail and you’re going to get your heart broken. But the benefit, the upside of all the meaning and the satisfaction and the potential performance gains that you get from caring deeply, way outweighs the downside of occasional heartbreak and occasional failure.
So, yes, you have to care. I have this pennant that sits above my writing desk that just says, “GIVE A DAMN” in all capital letters. And I just think, like, that’s it. You only live once, and that’s a cliche, but we’re all going to die. There are things that are worth giving a damn about, and we should give a damn about those things. That’s what makes life meaningful, is figuring out the things that align with your values and giving them your best shot.
Pete Mockaitis
And so, when it comes to caring, we’ve got you’re all in, committed, you’re putting yourself out there, you’re vulnerable. And then you’ve got the folks in middle school who think, “Trying is lame and not cool. And I’m not down with that.” I’m curious, is there a mushy middle when it comes to caring that perhaps many of us could find ourselves in?
Brad Stulberg
I think that there is. I mean, there’s this famous quote from T.S. Eliot that says, “Teach me to care and teach me not to care.” And I think that what he meant by that is, like, you do have to care really deeply for all the reasons that we just said, but you don’t want to become so attached to something that, if it doesn’t go your way, it ruins your entire life.
So you don’t want to be the Olympic athlete whose entire identity is wrapped up in running, and then you get injured and you no longer know who you are. So the way around this is to care deeply and to be all in, but not all the time. And to have a couple different components of your identity that you care deeply about.
So you can care deeply about your performance as an athlete, you can care deeply about your being a husband or a wife or a mom or a dad, you can care deeply about your knowledge work job. That’s okay. What you don’t want to do is fuse your entire identity to just one thing.
Pete Mockaitis
Okay. In your book, you start with the biological, psychological, and philosophical foundations of excellence. Can you share with us what are these defined? And are there any transformative practices that make all the difference within these three domains?
Brad Stulberg
The biological underpinning of excellence is really simple. All living species have this hardwired imperative to survive, to persist, and to flourish. And for the longest time, all that meant was not getting picked off by a predator and becoming old enough to pass on your DNA via reproduction.
We humans, we are really the first species that can have values and goals beyond survival to reproductive age. We want to create, we want to contribute, we want to innovate, we want to build things, we want to make art, we want to design software and make companies, and do all these incredible things. There is this innate drive towards growth in all of us.
And sometimes it gets whacked out of us by society as we become adults, we kind of can go through the motions, or we think that we don’t have what it takes. But deep inside all of us, it’s just, we’re biologically programmed. We are a striving species, right?
The ancestors of ours that became content, they didn’t pass on their DNA, they died off. Like, the apes that survived were the strivers, the ones that were never content, they kept looking for better opportunities. That is our hardwiring. So, biologically, there is this strong desire to flourish and to push toward creation and contribution that all of us have.
Psychologically, we tend to feel best not when we are chasing happiness, but when we are chasing satisfaction and meaning. And there’s this whole happiness industrial complex that says that the goal is to be happy, but happiness is kind of like a butterfly. Like, every time you try to squeeze and catch it, it just slips through your fingers.
Whereas, the pursuit of excellence, as I define it, involved engagement, caring deeply about something that aligns with your values and goals, that leads to more lasting contentment, satisfaction, and meaning. And, of course, there are periods of joy and happiness along the way.
And then, philosophically, every single philosophical tradition, East, West, prehistory, modern times, at the center of all of these is doing what you can to live into your full potential. And that’s excellence, right? It is the standard, it is the process of becoming the best person, the best performer that you can be.
And when we get down to the heart of it, we humans, from whatever way you cut it, we are programmed to pursue big goals and to care deeply about them and to try to develop ourselves along the way. Like, that is what we are made to do as a species. So we should reclaim that and we should try to do it.
Pete Mockaitis
All right. And now, when you mentioned the happiness industrial complex, could you give us some examples of how folks can get derailed by going after the stuff that doesn’t really satisfy?
Brad Stulberg
I think that one of the biggest ways that we get derailed is we think that some kind of achievement is going to make us happy, “So if I just get this promotion, if I just get that bigger house, if I just get that award or that accolade, then I’ll be content.”
Researchers call this the arrival fallacy, and it’s just that. It’s this fallacy that we think we’re going to arrive but we never actually arrive. So the trap is that we can work really hard toward a goal because we think the goal is going to make us happy. But if we don’t actually enjoy the process of working toward it, we’re going to be just as miserable as when we started.
So how do you overcome this trap? What’s the practice? The practice is to make sure that you actually want to spend time on the sides of the mountains that you’re climbing. And don’t climb someone else’s mountain. Because it’s not the summit that’s going to make you happy. It’s whether or not you can find meaning and fulfillment in the climb itself.
I think another way that we chase happiness is, sometimes, we try to avoid discomfort and we try to avoid friction at all cost, or we’ll numb discomfort and friction. We’ll do this with alcohol, with drugs, with gambling, with porn, on and on and on.
And, again, I’m not a purist, I’m not a saint, I have moral failings just like the rest of humanity, but I do think that sometimes we go too far with trying to eliminate friction because we think it’s going to make us happy, when what that does is it makes us empty in longing, and we actually can inject meaningful friction into our life.
The messiness of striving for a goal and having missteps, that imbues life with meaning. The messiness of an actual relationship with another corporal body and all their imperfections and frustrations that comes with it, that actually gives our life meaning. Having to try really hard to do something, that gives our life meaning.
In the book, I have this hypothetical, which is increasingly becoming a reality, which is I say, “Imagine that with AI, with the press of a button, you, Pete, could compose the greatest, greatest musical composition ever. It would win all the Grammy Awards.” Do you think that you’d be really satisfied winning all those awards if all you had to do was press a button?
Pete Mockaitis
Well, no, I’d feel like a fraud and just always wonder, “How come no one else pushed the button?”
Brad Stulberg
Right. So the point is that what imbues the summit of the mountain or the Grammy with meaning is the years and, in many cases, the decades of hard work and struggle that went into it. And I think, increasingly, technology is affording us opportunities to press these buttons.
And it’s not to say that we should never press the button. DoorDash is great. Sometimes I love being able to have food delivered and I don’t have to go out and get it. Wonderful. Great technology. But if our whole life becomes pressing a button to get a result, I think that the result isn’t happiness. The result is emptiness.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah, this really gets me thinking here. A friend and guest of the podcast, Kwame Christian said, I don’t know if he made it up, but he said, “You don’t get bonus points for not using all of your resources.” And I’ve been thinking about that a lot because, in a way, it feels like you do because there’s something to that, the struggle and the meaning that comes with doing hard things and the effort.
And, in some ways, if you have resources, like push-button easiness, and you don’t use them, you kind of do get to feel some extra victory and meaning, like, “Hey, I did it without leaning on these pieces.” But yet, at the other side of the coin, I think there are times when it may very well be ideal for us to go ahead and use the resources.
I’m thinking about, for example, if folks struggle with attention and they think, oh, maybe seeing a psychiatrist and looking at medication for ADHD things is cheating, or, “I’m trying to lose weight and I’ve been struggling. Ozempic or Rogovia or some of these drugs, that’s cheating.”
And so I’d love your hot take on this, Excellence Master, on how we think about using our resources, the easy button. Is cheating a real thing?
Brad Stulberg
I mean, cheating is a real thing. Cheating means that there are rules to what you’re doing and you break the rules. I do not think that taking GLP-1 for weight loss is, by any means, cheating. I don’t think that taking medication for attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder is in any way cheating. I think that these are all really valuable tools in the toolkit and we should do everything that we can to flourish.
What I am saying is that if one’s entire life becomes pressing that button, then the result will be emptiness. So if there was a medication that you could take that just eliminated the need for effort in anything, I would not take that medication. I don’t think that would be good.
If you have struggled with your weight and food noise your entire life, and it just absolutely hampers your ability to flourish, of course, you’re going to take that medication. You don’t get extra points, to quote Kwame, or you don’t get a trophy for white-knuckling it. What that makes you is an idiot. Take the medicine.
I think that the metaphor that I like to use is, coming back to where we started, right, like deadlifting. If I were to go into a gym, and instead of deadlifting, I were to go into the gym with a forklift, and have the forklift pick up the barbell for me and then leave the gym, I would get nothing out of that experience, right? It would defeat the purpose, even though I could deadlift more weight.
But I don’t because the whole point of that experience is to exert effort and to struggle toward a goal. However, if I go to IKEA, you better believe it, I’m using the forklift to pick up the bed. I’m not trying to pick up the bed at IKEA because the point of going to IKEA isn’t to lift weight, it’s to get the bed.
So there’s a time and a place to use the forklift. And I think that people default to this extreme, which is like using the forklift is cheating. No, that’s nonsense. It’s like kind of like the barefoot people. And, listen, I don’t want to make enemies.
For some people running barefoot is great, but like shoes are an incredible technology. You’re not tougher if you don’t wear shoes. However, if your entire life becomes cushioned and padded to keep playing the metaphor, yeah, like you might be missing out on something.
Pete Mockaitis
Yes. I think that’s well said because there are so many domains of our life, like we are facing multiple challenges, sometimes it feels like too many darn challenges all at once. And so if there are tools, approaches that make results in one domain easier, there are sensible, you know, pros, cons, risks, rewards, cost, benefits, side effects, doctor advice, all the things, right? Then, yeah, have at it. That’s kind of where I’m coming out is…
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, you just don’t want to do it necessarily in the primary thing that gives your life meaning. Here’s another example, okay? My primary craft is writing, and I don’t use AI when I write because I don’t want to, and the value that I get out of writing is actually the satisfaction of struggling and working really hard.
However, I use an Excel spreadsheet to keep track of my revenue and expenses. I don’t sit there and add up the math on a sheet of paper because that’s not my primary thing. And, like, that’s it. And I think you got to identify, like, “What are the primary things?” And then outside of those, you should absolutely use all these technologies and resources to make life easier.
Pete Mockaitis
Well, in the domains of focus and concentration, you mentioned those are our core pillars of excellence. If folks are struggling with distractions or difficulty with focusing, do you have any top tips on prevailing amidst this environment?
Brad Stulberg
I think that the key thing is the last thing that you just said, this environment. So this environment is very much rigged against us. And I think reclaiming focus starts with trying to design these micro ecosystems around you that make it easier to focus. So what does that mean? It means that when you sit down to read a book or to do work or to have an intimate conversation, don’t bring your phone into the room with you.
Don’t have it face down and off. There’s research that shows that even a phone that is face down and on silent, like we all do, it detracts about 40% of your ability to focus because, even if you don’t reach for the phone to pick it up, the amount of willpower it takes to resist reaching for the phone and picking it up encroaches on what you’re doing.
So remove the phone, remove the digital devices, create these spaces and times throughout the day where you can really settle in and engage with depth and with full focus. So get upstream, change the environment. That’s the first thing.
The second thing I’d say is, much like the industrial revolution gave us cars and forklifts and all these things, and as a result, many people, we don’t live the same kind of active lives as our ancestors did. So you need to go to the gym to exert yourself, to be “physically healthy.” I think, increasingly, we’re going to have to do that for our mind.
So, for me, what is going to the mind gym? There’s nothing better than reading a book. And I’m biased because I’m a writer and my livelihood depends on people reading a book. But there is so much research that shows that the art of sitting with a hard copy book, and focusing and reading it and taking notes on it and having associative creative ideas, like that builds one’s ability to focus more than anything.
So I would say, much like if you want to train a muscle, you’re going to train three days a week for 30 minutes a day, you’ve got to start thinking about your brain like your cognitive muscle. And in order to train that muscle, there’s nothing better than setting aside time to read a book.
Something else that can be really helpful is just, in these small crevices throughout the day when we’d, otherwise, reach for like the adult pacifier, i.e., a phone or something to distract us, just to sit with your own thoughts.
So a great way to practice this that I do all the time, is I’m out to dinner with my wife or with a friend and they have to go to the bathroom. So instead of picking up my phone while they’re in the bathroom, I just sit in the restaurant, right? I just sit with my thoughts. It’s like three minutes.
When I am running errands, I’ll go into the grocery store, I’ll leave my phone in the glove compartment of the car so that when I’m waiting in line, I just have to sit and wait in line. So just reinserting these small moments of time when we de-habituate to the perpetual distraction.
Pete Mockaitis
Can you expand upon the research showing that simply reading a book is transformational for our capacity to focus?
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, a lot of this comes out of the work of Nicholas Carr, and he began this about a decade ago. And what he found is that, when we read a hard-copy book, because it’s not hyperlinked, our brains don’t have the option to click away from it, okay?
So, like, even if you’re reading on your computer, like there’s a hyperlink, there’s a click, it’s just kind of asking your brain, like, “Ooh, there’s something more exciting, there’s something new, there’s something novel.” Whereas, when you sit down and read a book, like the whole package is in front of you.
When you read a book, you also cannot multitask. It is impossible to be both reading and doing something else at the same time. You just can’t. I mean, maybe you could, like, walk really slowly while reading, but you can’t read while you do the dishes. You can’t read while you drive a car, at least not safely. So it also is this forcing mechanism to single task.
And then the other thing that reading a book does is it builds sustained concentration and sustained focus. So if you haven’t read a book in a long time, you sit down to read, and just making it through like two pages is going to be really challenging, right? You’re going to feel the urge to check your phone, to put down the book, to entertain whatever thoughts you’re having.
And then the next day, maybe you make it three pages and then four pages, and then you get stuck on four pages for a week, but much like a muscle, you keep going back to the gym, eventually you get to eight pages. And then before you knew it, you can actually groove in and you can read 40 pages without being distracted.
That kind of progressive overload is what it’s called an exercise, but the ability to slowly build the muscle to concentrate and focus, a book is just the perfect mechanism for that because you’re literally turning pages and adding more and more focus each time you sit down to read.
Pete Mockaitis
All right. Well, Brad, tell me, any final things you want to share before we hear about your favorite things?
Brad Stulberg
I think this was a really good conversation. We got to touch on, I think, some of the interesting ideas in the book. We scratched the surface. So if you all found this interesting and valuable, I highly recommend you go get the book for more. But as always, Pete, you do a great job teasing out some of my favorite things. Well, now I guess we’ll actually get into my favorite things.
Pete Mockaitis
Yeah. Well, we can start with me, of course, flattery accepted. How about a favorite quote?
Brad Stulberg
Favorite quote comes from Robert Pirsig who says that “The only Zen on the tops of mountains is the Zen that you bring up there with you.”
Pete Mockaitis
Okay. And a favorite book?
Brad Stulberg
My favorite book is Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, written in 1974 by Robert Pirsig.
Pete Mockaitis
All right. And is there a key nugget that folks really love and quote back to you often, a Brad original?
Brad Stulberg
Yeah, I think there are a few, but one is this notion that consistency is more important than intensity. So instead of trying to hit home runs, you just have to put the ball in play over and over and over again, and then eventually the home runs start hitting themselves.
Pete Mockaitis
All right. And if folks want to learn more or get in touch, where would you point them?
Brad Stulberg
The best place is the book, The Way of Excellence: A Guide to True Greatness and Deep Satisfaction in a Chaotic World. You can get it from Amazon, Bookshop.org, Barnes & Noble, pretty much wherever you get books.
Pete Mockaitis
All right. And do you have a final challenge or call to action for folks looking to be awesome at their jobs?
Brad Stulberg
I think, identify what is worth caring deeply about and give a damn. Don’t be too cool to care. There’s actually no such thing. Caring is cool.
Pete Mockaitis
All right. Brad, thank you.
Brad Stulberg
It’s always a pleasure.


